Menopause.........WTF?!

onewhippedpuppy · 11-05-2008, 10:40 AM

So about two months ago my mother-in-law lost her damn mind. She's always been a bit of a delicate flower, pretty much incapable of dealing with adversity. However, this is especially nutty. She has been essentially creating something out of nothing, worrying about non-existent problems. Basically she's been crying for two months straight and driving everyone insane. Unfortunately thanks to my wife being close to her mother, it's driving me insane by proxy.

It's happened once before when she was pregnant with her 10th child (yes 10th). The kid was an accident and she freaked out. She basically spent the next 9 months in bed, convinced that both the baby and herself would die. At the time my wife was still at home, so she had to serve as mother to 8, full-time student, and hold a job. Anyway, it's basically the same thing this time. For what it's worth, apparently her mom went through a similar episode for an extended period of time (years).

So, long story short, she went to the doctor and is "officially" in stage 2 of menopause (whatever that means). Is her behavior due to her somewhat delicate nature, or is this common with women and menopause? Honestly, I don't currently have much sympathy for her, as I'm not much for wallowing in self pity. So am I a callous ass, or is she making something out of nothing? 28 years old, this menopause nonsense is news to me.

Jim Richards · 11-05-2008, 10:54 AM

Welcome to your future.

Sarc · 10:59 AM

The chemical inbalance is legit, and in my nonmedical background opinion it is best that this does not got go unmonitored (so it sounds like the right action is being taken) In my experience, this phase was the first step in a downward spiral of nuttiness--> anger--> hate, and undiagnosed mental illness. Add a brainwashing svenagli and shake and you've got the recipe for a family fracture beyond repair.

Not to be Capt. Bringdown, just spekaing from personal experience, just be sure to support your wife anyway you can free of sarcasm or condition, which I'm sure you will. She will be eternally grateful.

The Gaijin · 11-05-2008, 10:58 AM

Matt: You are 28?? I always took you for 52..

onlycafe · 11-05-2008, 10:59 AM

good luck.
xanax might be your new friend.

stomachmonkey · 11-05-2008, 11:05 AM

Dude,

Menopause is like the hormone freight train.

Definitely physical and not much she can do about it on her own or without meds. And them even the meds don't always work.

Superman · 11-05-2008, 11:17 AM

I have two daughters, an ex-wife, four sisters and a Mom. I sincerely feel sorry for females.

onewhippedpuppy · 11-05-2008, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Sarc

The chemical inbalance is legit, and in my nonmedical background opinion it is best that this does not got go unmonitored (so it sounds like the right action is being taken) In my experience, this phase was the first step in a downward spiral of nuttiness--> anger--> hate, and undiagnosed mental illness. Add a brainwashing svenagli and shake and you've got the recipe for a family fracture beyond repair.

Not to be Capt. Bringdown, just spekaing from personal experience, just be sure to support your wife anyway you can free of sarcasm or condition, which I'm sure you will. She will be eternally grateful.

She's already been into the doctor and been prescribed some meds. Hopefully they can help without leading to addiction.

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Originally Posted by The Gaijin

Matt: You are 28?? I always took you for 52..

I'm old at heart.

legion · 11-05-2008, 11:19 AM

My MIL went pretty insane during that period. She began believing (and still does) that angels were everywhere watching her so she had to behave. Really bizarre.

My own mother bought a horse, divorced my father, and ran off with a guy who was a few months out of federal prison. The guy ended up dying of hypothermia in the back of her pickup truck as he got stinking drunk and refused to get in the cab of the truck during the rain as they were driving to Florida.

In both cases the women's personalities changed forever.

Tishabet · 11-05-2008, 11:26 AM

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My own mother bought a horse, divorced my father, and ran off with a guy who was a few months out of federal prison. The guy ended up dying of hypothermia in the back of her pickup truck as he got stinking drunk and refused to get in the cab of the truck during the rain as they were driving to Florida.

Whoa! That's crazy Legion.

onewhippedpuppy · 11-05-2008, 11:28 AM

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Whoa! That's crazy Legion.

Sounds like a country song.

targa911S · 11-05-2008, 11:40 AM

Been through it with my own wife. They get pretty nutz. After that sex goes out the window. They put mine on Paxil, and in the end it made her even crazier. When she tried to get off it she was sick for a whole year. At first I was doin' the "poor me's" but I got over it. Now I just have the "Oh wells".
She is better now but not the same person in a lot of ways. She is my soul mate of 27 years, and we have a lot of things that we still share so even though at times I have felt like just going out for a pack of smokes and never coming back I don't. I have worked too hard to get where I'm at in my life just to give it up for some strange poon. It's just the way things are, and I deal with it.

74-911 · 11-05-2008, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy

She's already been into the doctor and been prescribed some meds. Hopefully they can help without leading to addiction.

Until a few years ago Hormone Replacement Therapy was the standard answer to menopause. It really evened out the highs and lows then it was determined that HRT greatly increased the risks of certain types of cancer and that was pretty much the end of that. It still may be prescribed today to some females, some of the Docs on this forum could better respond to that.

I know this only because my wife was on HRT for the first couple of years of menopause then went off when the risks became known. She had some minor issues but nothing serious after going off. some women have all kinds of issues and some don't it seems.

Two of our admin. females at work went through it at the same time. We had major battles with them over the A/C setting. It wasn't possible to set it low enough when they were having hot flashes and everyone else was freezing.

kach22i · kach22i's Garage

They all go a little nuts until they get the hormones to balance...................crazy ride.

911boost · 911boost's Garage

Holy Crap.

Greeeat, I am looking forward to this.

Matt, I think your best bet is to buy a new car.

Heel n Toe · 11-05-2008, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy

She's already been into the doctor and been prescribed some meds.

If they don't help, the next step is for you and your wife to get your doc to prescribe you some meds.

Yes, menopause changes women. Like Chris said; forever.

So does a hysterectomy.

The best way to describe it to someone who hasn't experienced it is to tell them it's like PMS 24/7.

onewhippedpuppy · 11-05-2008, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by BSiple

Holy Crap.

Greeeat, I am looking forward to this.

Matt, I think your best bet is to buy a new car.

THAT I can handle.

KFC911 · 11-05-2008, 02:38 PM

My ex g/f and I had a pretty good 6 year relationship until she hit the big M (she was 7 years older than I), and after a couple years of that crap, it was over

. She changed BIG time and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it and eventually she "kicked me to the curb" with really no explanation. Physically, her harmones were raging, and she became totally unpredictable from my perspective...I could have walked on water and she'd have b***ed that I couldn't swim

. GOOD LUCK!!!

rammstein · 11-05-2008, 03:02 PM

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I could have walked on water and she'd have b***ed that I couldn't swim

Sounds like my effing boss.

LakeCleElum · 11-05-2008, 03:15 PM

Only thing worse: A menopasual diabetic.......Ask me how I know????