Menopause.........WTF?!

[kmhemi]

men can also experience the same variety of hormone imbalance, typically after 35 for us its called Andropause and can be treated with HRT. Hormome Replacement Therapy.

[jjone20]

Wifey did the menopause thing in her mid 40's. It was difficult for her. Night sweats, hot flashes, mood swings, anger. She looked at treatments like HRT but too many risks and/or side effects. Eventually went with a mild anti-depressant to help take the edge off on her worst days, and seeing a psychologist. The psychologist helped her understand what was going on and offered some non-medicinal coping strategies. I was as supportive as I could be, but it was a low point. If there are underlying psychological issues it can be doubly rough as these issues can become more pronounced. One suggestion: note your MILs issues and discuss them with your better half. When the time comes, it might help you both get through the inevitable "change of life".

[charleskieffner]

when the road gets tough the tough get going. did they give up when the germans bombed pearl harbor?

time for a road trip!

[Max Von]

My wife calls it "Mentalpause". She still sleeps on top of the covers at night due to the hot flashes etc. My buddy married her sister and couldn't take the mood swings and divorced her after 3 years.

[KFC911]

Relationships are tough and it takes two to make it work, but only one can "choose" to destroy it if they so desire...unfortunately, I had no "say-so" in the matter after the "change". For you guys in the midst of "dealing with it", you have my sympathy.

[cstreit]

Originally Posted by Max Von

My wife calls it "Mentalpause". .

That's rich!

[Heel n Toe]

Originally Posted by Max Von

My buddy married her sister and couldn't take the mood swings and divorced her after 3 years.

IMO, that kinda violates the "for better or worse, in sickness and in health" part of the marriage vows, but I'm not judging your buddy.

And if he asked her to seek help and/or try meds, and she refused (as some people do when others suggest they need help), IMO she would be acting unreasonably.

[pwd72s]

Yep...it was a tough time for Cindy...still is, sorta..

[rammstein]

So can I give my male boss some hormones and he won't be as much of a lunatic?

[shbop]

"Buckle-Up!"

[legion]

I recommend LARGE doses of estrogen.

[Zeke]

Originally Posted by targa911S

Been through it with my own wife. They get pretty nutz. After that sex goes out the window. They put mine on Paxil, and in the end it made her even crazier. When she tried to get off it she was sick for a whole year. At first I was doin' the "poor me's" but I got over it. Now I just have the "Oh wells".
She is better now but not the same person in a lot of ways. She is my soul mate of 27 years, and we have a lot of things that we still share so even though at times I have felt like just going out for a pack of smokes and never coming back I don't. I have worked too hard to get where I'm at in my life just to give it up for some strange poon. It's just the way things are, and I deal with it.

Pretty well sums it up for a lot of us older guys.

[targa911S]

Originally Posted by milt

Pretty well sums it up for a lot of us older guys.

Thanks, it's nice to know my situation is not unique. Misery loves company.

[Rick V]

My wife is starting to go through this as well. She has been on the emotional roller coaster for about a year now. I don't know what is worse, the mood swings, or the "flatness" from the meds. I also said for better or worse, but damn this isn't the woman I married.

[targa911S]

say no to ANY SSRI antidepressants. I could write a book on what they do to your life. please say no.
If you don't believe me or feel my case is a "one off" go here..

http://www.quitpaxil.info/

[Buckterrier]

It seems to go with the woman's personality. I used to tell my ex-wife she needed a few grams of b*#ch. So when she went through it she just got weepy all the time. Along with the physical issues.
Damn glad us men folk didn't eat that apple

[Tobra]

remain as unobtrusive as possible


this too shall pass

[onewhippedpuppy]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

Welcome to your future.

I really wish you hadn't posted that.


Welcome to hell. She also had an MRI about one week ago for a small lump. Now they're doing a biopsy next week. She's been down that road before and it was nothing, but with these circumstances she's now convinced that she has cancer.

[Porsche-O-Phile]

Jesus, I can't wait...

I think it'll be time to look at a separate bedroom in a few years or something. All I know is I'll probably just make myself be as "not around" as possible if it gets bad. Fortunately my MIL is a nice person and didn't seem to get any crazier than usual during it, so maybe that's a good omen. The downside is she's always been a little nutso. Not in a bad way, just kind of loopy and silly, which I actually like (she's fun).

[Hetmann]

Originally Posted by targa911S

Thanks, it's nice to know my situation is not unique. Misery loves company.

+1

Been there, done that. Still dealing with the fallout.