Questionable life choices
 

Yeah, I just need to vent a little.
Any of you guys ever want something so bad it keeps you up at night and it's the only thing you can think about even though the thing wouldn't be particularly good for you? Of course, the thing wouldn't necessarily be bad either. And, I'm not talking about blowing life savings etc on a car. Actually, if I had to choose between my dream car and this thing, the decision would be incredibly easy and it wouldn't be for the car.







Yeah, just ranting a little. Life is a sonofafemaledog sometimes...................

So how hot is she? Post pics.

Yeah, I should have known that one would be easy to figure out.....
She, IMO, is very attractive, but that's not even what attracts me. She's an incredible person. There are just a few, very good reason why I shouldn't.....

Kind of hard to read between the lines here. But if you stand naked in front of a mirror and see a couple of blue things, I say most definitely go for it.

A porn video & a roll of paper towels will cause you less grief...

a. you're related

b. she's that murderess chick from Florida

c. she's a mexican drug lord's GF

d. she looks like sniper

e. two or more of the above

This really isn't, even remotely, about sex. I wish it were, that's easier.

Nope, none of those. Although those would all be excellent reasons to not go there.

OK we need more clues.

Maybe the first letter of the first word.

This is not going to lead to a paternity test, is it?

History counsels reticence in your case . . .

No, neither of us are interested in kids and we're both bright enough to figure out how to prevent the problem.
The problem is whether or not to initiate a relationship.

When you are 40, she will be?

61

Run, Run like the Devil himself were after you!

I do NOT see this working out in the long run.

If you are both happy with a short fling & a
sad parting? Might work...

I see.

Stay away. Too complicated and will get more so. Serious relationships are challenging enough without adding additional challenges.

This is, I will tell you, quite an easy call to make.

care to elaborate?

Mrs. Robinson, are trying to seduce me?

I did...see above. BTW, I do speak from experience...
a time in my life I don't regret really, but if I had it to
do over? I wouldn't.

A song for you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7T5hYlUsQ0s

It won't be long before you post on the 'Women who brought you to tears' thread.

It is never a good idea to like something more than they like you.

Go into the kitchen, find the flat iron fry pan and smack yourself upside the head!
SNAPOUTAIT!!!

I feel it important to add that we are currently very good friends. Also, I believe a lot of her trepidation lies in the fact that she doesn't want to feel as if she's using me.

In case it's not obvious, I'm pretty much smitten. She's funny, smart, we have a lot in common and she's the most caring person I've ever met. She gives endlessly and never asks for or expects anything in return.

You're not going to listen to the advice given, are you?

Well, you won't be the first

Nor the last.

Uh, those are considered good qualities by most.

Does she have kids? That will get complicated real quick.

Can't help but wonder if you've considered she might represent a Mother figure? How would she be 'using' you (in her mind)?

Or, could this be some kind of Harold and Maude scenario?

Good luck, whatever transpires.

Oedipus complex?

When you are 30, she will be 50 and menopausal. When you are 40, she will be 60 and easing into her golden years. When you are 50, she will be 70 and more or less getting elderly. When you are 60 she will be 80 and likely infirm to some degree. When you are 70, you will likely be alone. None of this feels like it matters, since you are both still in the prime of life. But it will.

Regardless of how wonderful a person she is.

Obviously there can be exceptions. I know a 70 y/o woman who is hot as a pistol, looks like Candice Bergen (as she was 15 years ago) I would admit to having carnal fantasies about her if I were one to admit to such things, which I'm not. But that is like betting your life's course on the lottery. Very bad odds.

Guys, she may be 21 years older than him, but that doesn't mean she looks it..
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Using you for what??? Is she married, are you something to take mind off a divorce??? Enjoy the ride, but don't expect it to last...
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This, too, may pass.
It's not an age thing, it's a woman/man interaction thing.

The bonds that aren't broken easily have deep roots, built over years and decades.

I have a friend she married a guy 25 years older she is about 50 now and wants to travel he's now 75 and is waiting to die.

Women will do that to ya.

Go for it, you won't be able to resist anyway.... (even with the job situation you're both in ;))

Who knows what the future brings.
It's not like you'll be welded together for life or anything, when things go wrong, you split and move on...
This is my way of saying that I think it's not going to last but life too short to try and pick out the ones that last a lifetime. Finding a life partner is a crapshoot, you get lucky or you don't. If you don't shoot, you'll always miss, so go ahead and try. That was what you were going to do even before you posted this, so do it. ;)

As a 45 year old woman - I would say it probably isn't worth having a relationship but for a fun fling it might be worth it.

DUUUUDDDDDEEEE, get a Golden Retriever and take if for a walk in a very cold rain.

How old are you?

Runaway........spend a couple of days at a Geriatric Ward.....change a few Depends.

It sounds like you love her. I believe we can't choose who we love.

That's it... You can't negotiate or deal your way out of this. It happened because you're right for each other.

You need to do something about it now.
A lot of people never find real love and don't believe it even exists. You should consider yourself very lucky.

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Forget the age difference and just go for it.

I dunno about some of the advice given. A good personal relationship will outlast the good looks and crazy sex (and for some of us that ship sailed a decade ago :( ). Twenty years' difference is huge early on, but becomes less as you get older.
I am curious to know why you think this relationship is bad for you. I'm sure she will get some good-natured ribbing (cradle robber, cougar, empty nest syndrome). Legion's question about her kids is the biggest issue I can think of. But they must be old enough to not think you would try to be their new father.

I'm with Geronimo on this one. So why would she be a bad life choice if she makes you happy?

You may spend the rest of your life wondering "what if...?"

Hookers and blow!