What Is Your Biggest Personal Failing?
 

I don't mean what specific skill or knowledge set you might lack. Or what specific mistakes you've made in your career or marriage or life.

And this is not a question to be gamed as in a job interview. No crap like "my greatest failing? I work too hard". Thoughtful responses please.

This thread asks, simply, for you to identify the greatest deficiency in your character. Your greatest failing as a man.

Are you thoughtless, timid, uncaring, lazy, indecisive, reckless, narrow minded, jealous, dull witted, domineering, impulsive, prideful, backwards looking, over confident, entitled, inflexible, bigoted, etc?

Sometimes I care too much about the work and become too focused on it.



















Well, do I get the job? ;)

Marryin' strays.

Lots of ideas, lack of focus

Sometimes I care too much about the work and become too focused on it.
I let others get me worked up

this should develop into a very cheerful thread :)

Wandering into PARF.

Controlling and procrastination.

short attention span, bored too easily, dont finish a project before i start another

I blame everything on someone else.

I tend to bury any memory of failures.

Hmm... its working. Cant think of any.

Timid, passive, over analyzing

I spend too much time on the Internet.

I'm going to have to really give this some thought before responding. I have several pretty large shortcomings so picking the biggest one will be hard.

Maybe the hellish combination of being simultaneously lazy and impatient? Selfish? A perfectionist w/o the focus/humility/patience to go through all of the tedium and hoops of becoming skilled at something?

The good news is that human shortcomings are not all encompassing in most cases. I.e., a person can be self-centered but also kind to others and of service to humanity at least some of the time, etc...

Overly judgmental of others while always giving myself a break. Not seeing my part in things. The usual human failings.

WOW! We're exact opposites. I tend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt while blaming myself for everything.



Which explains my proclivity for marryin' strays.:eek:

can i go with all of the above?

Keep trying, guys. A couple of real responses here, lots of bluffing.

We'll get as much self-insight out of this thread as we put into it.

Well, you woud be the exception. Most people fail to see their own part in things when conflict occurs, at least partially. This actually ties into marrying the wrong people. Your part in it was marrying the wrong people. :cool:

Writing what is on my mind without any filters - its been profitable when directed and off-putting when driven by lust...

I try not to go into my head alone....its a baadddddd neighborhood in there.

Drinking! I quit 30 years ago as of Jan 7, 2012. Other than that I'm a pretty mellow person but I was a mean drunk.

Top that !!

Zero self -esteem.
Alcoholism. (Sober 3 yrs 7 mos.)

Next.

I take on way too much and finish too few projects. Not a problem with work, but in my personal life I need some focus.

I bought a bunch (for me at the time) of Ford shares when they were really really cheap. I was in at about 2 and it went up up to about 3.50 and I sold it. I then watched it pass what would have been new GT3 money. if a ~75% gain in a few months is my biggest failure I'm down with that.

Oh, and I'm really awkward around women. Epic fail.

Jackson

I have a million ideas but I'm lazy.

Drinking, I use it to fuel my procrastination.

I have been off all other substances for +10 years, but when you can get booze at the supermarket the temptation is just too much (for me).

Perhaps I have said too much... :eek:

This.

Frankly, why should anybody spill their guts here?

In all seriousness I get bored too easily. I don't want this to sound like bragging, but this is a characteristic of intelligent people (I work with many) - and I suspect a lot of the folks on this board might have similar problems (like me, it's one of the reasons we screw off so much on here).

I always had the problem of teacher reports in school saying "doesn't stay focused" (even though I got straight As for many years and was constantly on the Honor Roll). Turns out it was simple boredom - the curriculum was set up for "average" students and I wasn't. I should have been kicked up a grade or put into an accelerated/gifted program way before I was... Not bragging, but in seriousness it has been a problem. It's tough for motivated, bright people (and there are certainly some more motivated and brighter than I am!) to live in a society that is increasingly dumbed down to be "inclusive" to everyone - especially when what constitutes "average" constantly seems to be regressing.

So long story short I'd say my problem is getting bored with a world/field that is really not very challenging. I'm working on that but find that challenges tend to be more about time management and PHYSICAL limitations (not enough sleep, etc.) than about MENTAL or INTELLECTUAL limitations...

I suspect a lot of folks here have similar problems to varying degrees - this place has a lot of "right side of the bell curve" types.

Trying to "help" and "fix" other people instead of paying more attention to myself.

Spilling guts would be on the "got away with it" thread. :)

Anyways, this is voluntary. If it makes you uncomfortable, look away.

I took the love of a wonderful woman for granted and lost her. As the kid's would say, epic failure Bro'.

I lack empathy and I tend to expect too much from others...

I have a SEVERE lack of patience with incompetent, uncaring, irresponsible people. So much so that I'm getting to the point of not wanting to leave the house. That doesn't work for very long. I am trying to find a cure for this problem....no luck so far.

Other than that it's having regrets for things I didn't do. Not so much for what I did do, other than waste a lot of money on drugs.

RKT, you in Peedro often? (and yes that is how us locals pronounce it)

I'm too sexy

Or not



I hesitate; don't always seize the opportunity. I sometimes let others take the lead; am afraid to fail. Ironic since I'm in sales and have done incredibly well despite the shortcomings. I recognize there's room for improvement.

Born there and lived there all my life up until 10 years ago. Wife's parents still live in Peedro and we come back at least once a year. I gotta hit Busy Bee as soon as I get there!

And get there early before the line starts going out the door!

Still have to take my wife there.

:D

Oh so true.....back when Ben was there the line was always out the door! I can remember when there were lines down the block at Enchilada House!!!!!

I think I'm a very good poker player