Sorry to hear of your double loss at this time of year, or anytime, for that matter. Hope everything works out for you and your's now and in the future.

Sorry for your loss.

My condolences.

Sorry for your loss, Todd. Best wishes from our family to yours.

My condolences, Todd.

Ian

So sorry to hear this, you both have my condolences.

Sigh.

My thoughts are with you, Todd. Sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace knowing he had a great son that he raised well.

So sorry Todd.

Condolences to you, Calvin and your Fiancee. RIP^2

Sorry for your losses, Todd.

Cherish the memories you have.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this very difficult time.

Thanks for the well wishes. He had a fairly miserable last year or three due to physical ailments but like those of his era, he complained little. The biggest slide came after he broke his hip a few months ago. We went down to see him at the rehab facility and he was sitting in a wheel chair in the hallway. It was not a happy sight. Over the past two years I've played about 50 shows at various nursing homes around LA. While the place where my dad was in (for only 6 days) was one of the nicest I've seen, it is way different when the broken old person in the hall is your dad as opposed to a stranger.

He still wasn't ready to go, but about a month ago on one of our brief phone conversations (I called him every day for the past few months) I could tell that he'd had enough. Hospice had come out just before then and said he wasn't "ready" for their care. A week later he was. My main job was to provide what psychological support I could to his wife and be an advocate for aggressive pain management. He went peacefully.

Thursday I'll drive his now widow to the mortuary to help make final arrangements. She wants to have the minister that married them do the ceremony and I'm fine with that. My brother was such an ass when my mom died about how the ceremony "wasn't right" that I'm in the other camp. I've said my good byes already so whatever she wants is fine. Evidently my dad had a few favorite songs that he wanted at the ceremony. My only request to his widow is that I play one of them live. So I'll be working up a solo bass arrangement of Amazing Grace. This reminds me of when I was 20 and buried my best friend. I played "Warm and Windy" on acoustic guitar and did the eulogy. But this is a far deeper loss. The good thing is I have plenty of inspiration to help pull it off. Thanks, dad. See ya on the other side...

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Thanks for sharing, in your most eloquent style, a bit of your father and your relationship with him. Sorry for the loss Todd. I hope you and Calvin will remember him for the best of times.

Regards,
David

Sorry for your loss... :(

rjp

Godspeed

Sorry for your loss.. glad to hear he went comfortably (that's all any of us can ask for)

Yep. Thinking of you Todd with heavy empathy.

Sorry for your loss. Words fail me in times like this, So all I can say is we will keep you in our thoughts and prayers in your time of need.

Dave

My condolences to you and your family.

My Dad passed a while back and I was totally unprepared. Miss everything about him but it's been getting easier. Thing I miss most about him is his counsel. We spoke everyday and often did deals together. He really loved that. I like to think he went out on his own terms. He saw his kids grow up to be decent people, got to know some grandkids well and told me often how great his life was.

His memorial was really nice. All sorts of people came out from his past and had wonderful anecdotes and musings about him and their friendship.

I don't know you very well Todd but I suspect that you made your dad proud. Anyone that raises a good kid will be well remembered. The service will be tough but it's nice to hear others relate what your dad meant to them.

Sorry to hear this, Todd. Whether you know it's coming or not, the loss of a parent is hard.