Yes that is an inappropriate request and expectation. I either would give them a dirty look or else an inappropriate response. When people ask me how old I am , I say 45. How much money do you make, I say 45. How much are you worth -45. There should be no cultural norms. If you don't want kids that is your business and nobody elses.

We are headed for 7 billion people on the planet there is not a shortage. After watching all of my friends get married, have kids & get divorced I have been in no rush. There could be more to life than breeding & being tied to the yoke of responsibility. Yes, I do love kids just haven't gone there yet. It is a question that I have never been offended by rather encouraged that people may look for other ways to be & live a meaningful life.

We were late in the game (wife early 30's, I was late 30's) when we had kids. We lost all of our HS friends (except one, my best buddy who is also a late parent) because we weren't part of the "in" crowd.

A few years ago I met the wife's former BFF (till kids) in a store. She asked me how Kim was doing and I told her I lost her to the big "C". A few months later she PM'ed me on facebook and asked why I'd be so horrible to lie that she died of cancer. I replied I didn't lie, by the "big C" I meant "Children" and the fact she didn't give a fuch about us (my wife) for the last 20 years, so why should she give a fuch now.

I never got a reply, no loss, I always hated the stupid beoch anyways. My wife laughed when I told her.

quite a few folks would not do it over again..
have kids that is..

I just never wanted any..
& she feels the same way..


Rika

The thing is, a most of my single male friends ask about my wife and I having kids too.

I think that they think being married means having kids, which is why they might be 50 years old and never married.

I like the Porsche only seats two comment. I can get a 3rd person back there, but it isn't easy.

I don't really like kids, and never wanted any.

I changed the ages, but I was late to the kiddie show as well.

My son leaves for college in six weeks, my daughter returns as a junior. I miss them both already, again.

Why people ask is a mystery to me...but try being a hetero male in your early 30's that hasn't been married. Every married woman in every squadron/circle of friends made it their mission to set me up with one of their single female hurtings.

They wanted to ruin, err, help you to achieve the same happiness that they enjoy.

So....there was a long period in which you were holding "tryouts?":D

It isn't so much that we're offended, more a little tired of the question. The real offense starts when they start saying we should adopt, etc.

The only time I think I was actually offended, was when talking to my next door neighbor who said something like: "Well, you two just have a different lifestyle than we do." I swear, it was like she was "outing" us, or something. Um, the different lifestyle was my wife went into early menopause and we decided we didn't want to adopt a crack baby.

Different lifestyle...:mad:

My instrument was lost in a horrible combine accident when I was 12

My wife is a dude

My circumcision was performed by Dr. Shaky Hands

We did but when they turned 12 we gave them up for adoption to avoid the wonderful teen years

Why do you have kids?

The state took em. They didn't think leaving them in the Walmart parking lot in a locked car with the windows up on a 90 degree day was all that clever.

Kidding of course. There was a time when I didn't want to leave college, get married, have kids, but time goes on and priorities change. We have three very different wonderful kids.

Here's a few lines. Q: Have any kids?

"No, the doctors say my wife's uterus is a like a barren desert wasteland, but hey, thanks for reminding me of that."

"After she attended my family reunion, she decided the world would be a better place without adding more."

"No, mostly because we will never grow old and gray, nor will we own anything worth passing down to a next generation."

"Did I tell you my wife's maiden name was Swallows."

"Nah, we'd rather watch TV."

"Nope, we decided to skip that part and enjoy the empty-nester phase early.

"Well, after her nightly beatings, she just doesn't have the energy."

"Nope, I don't want to share those tata's with anyone."

"No, we like paying more Federal income tax each year, and we figure the government needs it more than we do."

"No, Doc says the swim team isn't up to a long distance swim."

"No, but I wear extra tight underwear. Do you think that matters?"

"No, I lost use of my testicles during a tug of war accident"

We have been married 13 years and we get the question all the time. My response 99% of the time is "We're still practicing" It seems to be just awkward enough for most people that the question gets lost and everyone can move on to more important topics.

We had kids, they were delicious

I have used the wanted some until we met yours a few times.

Out here in KL people are comfortable stepping it up... Instead of "when are you going to have kids" it is "why don't you have kids? Are you infertile? Your wife should really put on some weight, that will help her conceive." This can be from total strangers.

Ironically after putting up with this for the last year my wife and I are expecting our first child in December. Bit until she starts to really show I will use the "we wanted children until we met yours" line, classic!

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I was one of four kids who grew up on a farm (pretty mainstream Methodists) and we went through that much milk and laundry a day. A crisis in my family was running out of milk or eggs. How can you start your day without a breakfast that includes massive amounts of milk and eggs? A family of 8 kids would be murder on milk.

+1. Screw the parents too if that don't get the humor.

We know many married couples who can't have children, some adopted kids and some didn't. The "when are you two going to have kids" is one of the rudest and most hurtful things that someone can say...

1. Children should neither be seen nor heard from -- ever again.

2. I never met a kid I liked.

3. I like children. If they're properly cooked.

4. Madam, there's no such thing as a tough child -- if you parboil them first for seven hours, they always come out tender.

5. They are also very good with mustard.

6. Anyone who hates children and animals can't be all bad.

(W.C. Fields)

You could take it as a compliment - that these people seem to think you'd make great parents. Some of them probably do feel that way. You see enough crappy parents out there, you wonder why the people that could be better ones don't step up.