Pet peeves about your wife or SO

[motion]

Put em here...

[VINMAN]

I plead the 5th.

[Jferr006]

Smart man... this forum is searchable

[Jferr006]

He already knows.. I remind him frequently like any good wife . At this point I have learned to make certain concessions and I know I have my own things that annoy him.

[Noah930]

Wow, man. Are you trying to get us all in trouble? What kind of frienemy are you?

Or is that secretly Mrs. Motion posting instead?

[Rick Lee]

Allow me.

Mrs. Lee does not understand the concept of "if you open it, close it." Every single day the medicine cabinet door and several of the drawers in her dresser are left open. I need to rig up a spring closer for the med. cabinet door. But that won't work with the dresser drawers.

Mrs. Lee cannot figure out the airport pick up routine, despite having been there at least 50x in the last five years. I text her the terminal number, north or south curb and door number when I have my bags and she regularly gets lost, goes to the wrong curb, gets told to move when I'm already on my way to wherever she ended up. I don't think she's ever gotten it right, not once. Last week she drove right past me while I was waving to her from exactly where I said I'd be. Really kills my excitement about seeing her after a few days away. I'm doing the shuttle from now on. It's faster and less aggravating.

[gacook]

I'll bite.

She doesn't remember ****! I swear, women complain about us men having bad memories, but I tend to suffer from the exact opposite--I remember EVERYTHING. One of my character flaws is that I HATE repeating myself. But we'll have a conversation about something, and literally 20 minutes later, she'll have forgotten. Bugs the schit out of me. To top it off, sometimes she'll try to convince me that I never mentioned it to her...at which time I repeat the conversation word for word to her (including what she said).

Next, damn near every time I say something to her (her oldest son, too), she responds with, "Huh?" and just as I'm about to repeat myself, she responds to what I just said. I've called her out on it and let it know it bugs the schit out of me, and she told me it's just her natural response while she's trying to process what it is I've said. I don't quite get that.

Next...constant apologies for nothing. I'm the type of person that believes apologies are something that shouldn't be overused. If you're sorry, truly mean it (and make it for something worth apologizing for). But, we'll be in the kitchen making dinner or something, and as I'm about to go reach for something, she'll cut me off or something similar (and absolutely no big deal)--the kind of situation where you might say "Excuse me." But every time with her, it's "Sorry." Trivial, but I just hate pointless apologies.

And last, I suppose...always leaving the lights on. I'm constantly nagging at my kids about turning off the light when they leave a room. She almost ALWAYS leaves the light on whatever room she's just exited. Can't really complain too much as electricity is one of the bills she pays, but it's just how I was raised, and how I continue to live.

That's all. I'm not scared if she reads this; she'd laugh as we've talked about all it many times.

**edit** almost forgot this one...She was raised Mormon (the women are very subservient to the man). So, when we first got married, she used to constantly ask my permission to do stuff (go to the movies, go out with her girlfriends, etc.). I hate this--I'm her husband, not her father. I would totally appreciate a note left on the counter saying, "Out with the girls, see ya later!" to let me know where she is, but asking if she can go out? Hell no. I think I've finally broken her of that practice, though.

[Jim Richards]

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[Jferr006]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

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Good man, Jim..although I don't believe you

[Noah930]

Originally Posted by Jferr006

Good man, Jim..although I don't believe you

Is that like when we respond with a "no" too quickly after the dreaded "Does this outfit make my butt look fat?" question?

[Jim Richards]

Over the years, she's been pretty random about things she does differently than I'd like, so nothing really rises to the level of a pet peeve.

[Jim Richards]

Originally Posted by Noah930

Is that like when we respond with a "no" too quickly after the dreaded "Does this outfit make my butt look fat?" question?

Hahaha!

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by gacook

She doesn't remember ****! I swear, women complain about us men having bad memories, but I tend to suffer from the exact opposite--I remember EVERYTHING.

Exactly the same thing in my house.

One thing I don't have to ever worry about is hearing an apology from Mrs. Lee. It's a cultural thing. Mainland Chinese apologize less than Fonzie. She insisted the 2' long black hairs all over our carpets weren't hers. I wasn't even upset about it, but she said we needed new carpets because our white carpets looked dirty. It was all her hair.

[Jferr006]

absolutely ..but, if you wait to long to say yes..you're screwed too. The longer I'm a women the less I make sense to me.

[VINMAN]

Just dont ask mine about her pet peeves regarding me. Not enough bandwith on the internet for that.

[fastfredracing]

I'll bite, She is a fvking hoarder. If I did not live there, the house would overflow in the matter of one year. Any flat table , or counter top is completely covered with junk in no time flat. When I try to clean it up, it starts a fight. " I need to look through that stuff first" In 17 years of dating her, this never happens, the schit only piles up higher, untill I finally cannot take it anymore, and back the dump truck up to the house, and tell her to stay the hell out of my way. I am not a neat freak by any means, but this drives me insane. I have been busy with business, for the last year, and have not been doing much around the house, and just recently noticed that our two spare bedrooms, are filled, and I mean filled, like 3 feet deep with clothes, paper work, magazines , knick knacks.
I see a very large fire, and a large argument coming on within the next few weeks. The weird thing is, that after all the smoke has settled, and I burn all her stuff, we make up, and she thanks me.
Other than that, I love the girl. We get along great, and generally go through life as a team.

[gacook]

Originally Posted by VINMAN

Just dont ask mine about her pet peeves regarding me. Not enough bandwith on the internet for that.

I'll agree to that one, too. I KNOW I'm a pain in the ass to live with. My wife's gotta be a good woman (or bat-schit crazy) to keep me around.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by Noah930

Is that like when we respond with a "no" too quickly after the dreaded "Does this outfit make my butt look fat?" question?

No complaints with my wife either. Her butt is not large as she works out and does lots of walking. Sorry no pics. My wife is a hard worker, great cook etc etc. We are still on the original kitchen counter(she does not like the inconvenience and mess of renovation). I am a lucky man. My cup runneth over. Now my wife has some complaints about me........

[Porsche-O-Phile]

Current SO - no complaints (that I'll admit to, she knows I post here). My ex-wife? Hooboy, Wayne doesn't have enough server capacity to hold all the grievances I could list...

[recycled sixtie]

I will add further about neighbors' wives who many come across as super strong witches that control the roost. Brow beaten men, gloomy children with low self esteem. I keep my distance of course but it makes me want to scream at the poor husband "where is your backbone ?". Of course we don't have any of those kind of women on PPOT! Rant over. You can breathe now......