Gimme gimme gimme.....

[recycled sixtie]

Here is my rant for the day. One spouse in a married relationship(and fortunately it is not mine) who demands so much of their partner. Eg. I want a trip around the world, I want a sports car etc etc. And then she talks about her spouse behind his back about how cheap the spouse is because he could not give her what she wants!
What people do to one another. Of course to stay with that person who is so demanding shows low self esteem. It takes two to tango.

Probably the relationship I am witnessing I should stay out of it. There are no kids involved. 60 something year olds. Unbelievable to witness. Feel like blasting her on Facebook, humiliating her because nobody stands up to her. Tell me I am correct in staying out of it? I offer my wife another car - she declines. We live within our means.
Nobody stands up to this woman. Should I be the first?

[GH85Carrera]

Stay out of it unless you don't mind loosing them as friends. I know some couples that I wonder why they are married. What works for them would never work for me.

[matt f]

If you don't value the husbands friendship, go for it.
End result will be both will hate you.

[widebody911]

She probably really wants a man after midnight.

[Gretch]

If you don't have doinking rights, why bother putting up with her shyte.

Ignore the hag.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by matt f

If you don't value the husbands friendship, go for it.
End result will be both will hate you.

The interesting thing is he went to a divorce lawyer and he recommended counselling.
Now they are back together and she continues the same self righteous bs that she is not to blame.

Another situation...

Now my brother in law I let him have it and told him what I thought of him after knowing him for 40 years. Enough pretense of being nice to him. To me that was worth it. I know what you mean- I am likely disliked both by my bil and sister now.

The first couple - not on my side of the family I will say nothing. Too stressful to be around. I will avoid them.

Thanks everybody for the advice so far. Kind of figured you would take the high road....

[mattdavis11]

The way you portray yourself, you might ought to stay out of any relationship.

Originally Posted by recycled sixtie

If the first one does not work out trade it at the kennel for another one.

[Jim Richards]

Steer clear.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by mattdavis11

The way you portray yourself, you might ought to stay out of any relationship.

That is funny. Yes I have traded in a dog for another dog and have traded a wife for another wife. And so far I can live with myself but not willing to live by myself.

[mattdavis11]

I don't think there's anything funny about it. Find something you can trade, maybe cars and other goods, not something that lives and breathes.

[vash]

go for it. use Lubemasters account.

i know a couple. they spend like sport. one person spends, the other buys something to get their share.

tragedy of the commons..classic case. like watching a car crash...in slo mo.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by mattdavis11

I don't think there's anything funny about it. Find something you can trade, maybe cars and other goods, not something that lives and breathes.

Now take the first dog that we had that wanted to escape all the time. Seriously why would you want to keep a dog that was not willing to stay where it was housed, fed and loved?

[mattdavis11]

Wanted to get away from you? Dogs don't leave a good home.

[masraum]

Stay out of it, not your problem

He's there for some reason, so he is getting something out of it

There's a butt for every seat

[tweezers74]

Originally Posted by masraum

Stay out of it, not your problem

He's there for some reason, so he is getting something out of it

There's a butt for every seat

This. I have learned that NOBODY knows the workings of a relationship except the two people who are in it. And those two people are the ones that live with the consequences of their decisions. You have described her role in it but on the flip side, he is the one who has chosen to stay. If he does get sick of her antics, he will make that decision to leave on his own. Until then, he isn't ready to leave and just because you or somebody else said something about her isn't necessarily going to help him make that decision. And even if it looks messed up, sometimes messed up works for people. Heck, some people may think your relationship is messed up. That's why I say let it lie. People value different things in relationships. Who are we to judge if we value different things in ours?

I agree with, Jim. Steer clear.

[ckelly78z]

Don't make a a scene with her, but offer your friendship and support to him. Ask him why he stays with all the abuse he's taking, and just maybe, he will bend your ear and confide in you what makes him stay.

Offer support, not judgement for whatever decision he makes in the future. Perhaps he just needs that one friend telling him he's not wrong, to finally man up and demand either respect or freedom.

[Zeke]

This is easy to figure out. Talking about the first couple — she talks behind his back because she has an insecurity complex. Her behavior proves that. Together they click just fine.

And she gives the most incredible BJ's. Hence, his behavior.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by Zeke

This is easy to figure out. Talking about the first couple — she talks behind his back because she has an insecurity complex. Her behavior proves that. Together they click just fine.

And she gives the most incredible BJ's. Hence, his behavior.

Very astute observation Milt. Her talent maybe makes up for her looks and outstanding personality.

[Zeke]

Originally Posted by recycled sixtie

Very astute observation Milt. Her talent maybe makes up for her looks and outstanding personality.

The doctor is in.


5¢ please.

[recycled sixtie]

Originally Posted by Zeke

The doctor is in.


5¢ please.

Duly noted - put it on my tab...