Negative impact of marrying the village idiot...

[Tilikum Turbo]

My childhood friend has been on a long-slippery slope of what I call de-evolution.

Once highly intelligent(and well educated), being around his nutcase prepper, paranoid delusional 'wife', he is now transformed into a shadow of the earlier person I knew.

Now 50, all of his unfulfilled goals and aspirations in life can be blamed on the gov't, the pyramids on the dollar bills, the secret societies such as the Mason's, conspiracy claims, etc. All drivel from someone speaking like he just crawled out from under a rock in the Appalachian's. As a young man, he used to save his money...but his wife has fixed ALL that....perpetually broke now.

His wife in the 80's once stated that the US Govt had already sent men to Mars...yet, when I asked her to validate that claim, from that moment forward
I was the enemy. And she's been feeding my friend a boat-load of shyte ever since.

Not deeply religious, however there is a quote I remember from the Bible: "so as a man thinks...that is what he becomes"

Have ANY of you ever met a truly successful person in your life who is looking
at life in such terms? We all change as we get older, but I look at this as an excellent example not to hook up with a stupid woman. We warn our daughters when they go on dates what to look out for. We should do the same for our sons as well.

[rattlsnak]

That is my brother to a T. Always was very smart and really had never dated much in high school and after he finished dental school and started his own practice, he met and married a gold digger. I have known her since high school and while he has a successful practice, he is 'not allowed' to hang out with any of his old friends and must now only be associated with other couples in his income bracket. She even went as far as telling her own bother and SIL that they cannot be friends anymore in public because he is a general contractor and she doesn't want to ruin her image. She made him switch religions and of course she gets whatever she wants monetarily. She has a brand Range Rover, he drives a 10 year old Jeep. After being with her for so many years, he has started to think like her also and has been transformed. I could go on and on.

[RWebb]

but does she do "things" that keep him very happy?

[onlycafe]

hard to argue with the keeper of the family vagina.

[Rick Lee]

One of my fraternity bros. was a great guy everyone liked and respected. He met a woman like the ones described above and she totally transformed him. He became totally brainwashed. And she wasn't even that hot; he had had far better. It got the point that she controlled his email and eventually so bad that she had his dog put to sleep. This dog used to be the frat. house dog, was a cool as could be, but she alleged the dog snapped at a child (very hard to believe) and so had to go. He would go for mos. at a time with no contact with the rest of us and we only seemed to get updates when someone ran into him on the street or at the store. When the wedding bells started chiming, he was not allowed to invite any of us or any of his other friends - just family for him and friends and family for her. We had serious discussions of kidnapping him at the altar, but decided against it. Now they have kids and he's a complete stranger to us all.

[matt f]

Common denominator of these women...
Borderline Personality Disorder.

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by matt f

Common denominator of these women...
Borderline Personality Disorder.

That's nothing new or rare. The problem is that they tend to brainwash otherwise totally normal and rational men. I have a buddy I suspect is a 40 yr. old virgin (ok, so not that normal) and I fear for him. Despite being an amazing guitar player in a successful band, not a bad looking guy and with no bad habits that I know of, he has so little experience with women and relationships, that I worry about him jumping in with the first one who will have him and she'll be one of those who brainwashes him.

[Baz]

You just have to stay away from controlling personalities.

Not easy as most of 'em want to rule the roost.

Remember my 3 rules for survival!

[nynor]

Originally Posted by Baz

You just have to stay away from controlling personalities.

Not easy as most of 'em want to rule the roost.

Remember my 3 rules for survival!

this thread is so... true. how many of us escaped relationships from women (and men, for the women reading this) that wanted to change/control/mould/better us into something they THOUGHT they wanted?

okay, what are the three rules?

[matt f]

As men, we enter relationships hoping that it will never change.
Women see us as something that can be molded.
Just my experience my brothers.

[futuresoptions]

To the OP, I think it is great that he has someone in his life that thinks ahead. Sure he might not be rubbing elbows with all the influential people and doing the things that he may enjoy without her, but when the crap hits the fan here in a couple of years. He may be thankful that he had her around. Not to mention, just the normal sorts of things over the past three years or so, the five pounds of flower or the twenty four pack of toilet paper that they put back three years ago and are now using to rotate their stock probably cost half to use today then what it would cost to go out and purchase new today. But if she is good looking, it is probably worth it both short term and long term. She could be hoarding lovers on the side like some women do. I would prefer the dry goods and paper goods hoarder over the prior any day of the week. Jmho...

[speeder]

Yes, I agree. Using asswipe as an investment strategy shows the type of forward-thinking brilliance that really forgives all those other flaws.

[futuresoptions]

Originally Posted by speeder

Yes, I agree. Using asswipe as an investment strategy shows the type of forward-thinking brilliance that really forgives all those other flaws.

Gotta think positive!

[Rusty914s]

Prepping, deeply religious, everything is the government's fault...all recipe for disaster.

All in moderation.

[Tervuren]

Originally Posted by matt f

As men, we enter relationships hoping that it will never change.
Women see us as something that can be molded.
Just my experience my brothers.

I have to +1 this.

[M.D. Holloway]

Originally Posted by Baz

You just have to stay away from controlling personalities.

Not easy as most of 'em want to rule the roost.

Remember my 3 rules for survival!

1) water source
2) food source
3) warmth source

all else is gravy?

[aigel]

Of course this can only happen to a guy without a back bone. So, yes, the woman may be the bad influence, but your pal is the guy who lets it happen.

G

[tabs]

Say what?

[recycled sixtie]

Good thread Tilikum. And as mentioned above some guys don't have a backbone.
Could have been me with my first wife. After six years of marriage and fortunately no children I initiated the separation. Like daughter like mother's behavior. Before that time my mother in law showed my mother the fur coats that the boyfriend(s) bought her hidden in the back of the closet so my father in law could not see.

I would have been like my fil if I had stayed in that marriage. You gotta grow a backbone in this life to have self esteem. And if you provide the "run forest run" advice they won't listen to you anyway. But there is no harm in trying.
Guy

[M.D. Holloway]

Some women are amazing at manipulation and some men are non-confrontational which is a recipe for disaster.

If your partner doesn't have your back, isn't your biggest fan and is spewing crap that goes against your logic and outlook then they are not a good partner IMO - same goes the other way.