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Thank you for all the input. After thinking about it over night I've decided not to delay paying her and to bring in an IT guy to see what can be done about the emails. The job she moved on to is a huge step back - retail sales in a different industry, so I'm not worried about competition. As I think I posted before, her situation is exactly like that of a previous employee, right down to this.
They are both big girls - 300-400 pounds - really hard working and effective employees, but no love life. They both got men and they let their professional lives go. The first one took a retail job and married a really good looking guy whose OCD is so bad he can hardly function. (I had him do some work for me and his behavior was unbelievable). It lasted a year. This one is marrying a guy who looks like - well, if Tyrion on Game of Thrones was a couple of inches taller and a good bit rounder they could be brothers. The thought of that little guy crawling on top of this huge woman is both hilarious and disturbing. Oh well, they have their lives. ![]()
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Your post above says much about you as a leader. Certainly not something that should be available to all on the web. Common sense?
Look at yourself in this matter and decide if this is worth pursuing. I would cut it clean and move on. The business will survive. Consider some serious introspection. |
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There is something to be said for a nice, fat, optional "end of employment" carrot to encourage good behavior on the way out the door. It would have to be included in the employment contract though.
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I'd hand her her check, and mention it's too bad she quit and burner her bridges, as she was being considered for a company car and a raise......
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While amusing it is somewhat inappropriate.
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Why was she so dissatisfied working there? Start with that unless you want to be having the same problem a year from now.
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I have no legal background (but I did stay in a Holiday Inn recently) but I digress.
Although my emotion says get even by withholding money, talking to the new employer..., logic says you are putting a giant bullseye on yourself if you do these things. The laws that are there to protect people from unscrupulous employers (not yourself) will come down on you. Also, delete any disparaging posts about her appearance or personal life. That is "evidence" she could use as "proof" why she had to quit and lawsuit city. Just my .02
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I think the parallels are interesting. The women were valued, treated well, well paid, and well liked, but when their love lives took flight we were suddenly not good enough. The woman who just left forgot to "unfriend" the COO here on Facebook, so we were privy to her Facebook posts. Eighteen months ago she was gushing about how great her job was and how nice the people here are. Enter Tyrion, and all of the sudden we work her too hard, don't appreciate her, and don't pay enough. Ironically, both women fell for men who had much, much lower career expectations for themselves and the women took jobs with much lower pay when they left here. Yes, I've said mean things about her since she left. I'm pissed at her. We gave her extra sick leave last fall, extra snow days off because she can't drive worth a crap, bent over backwards to help her get back on track after she fell off the rails last fall. She lied to us, stole company property, and we found out from the IMs on her phone that when she was "sick" in November (and we were paying her) she was actually out of town with her boyfriend. I have no reason to respect her anymore.
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This is the OT. he has nothing to apologies for. He is among like minded individuals here. WE ARE ALL JERKS!
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She took the job at a lower compensation but it was a thorn in her side. After I took over the group I promoted her twice. I got her a 45% pay increase in one shot and the max in other years. She had a medical condition that kept her from carrying to term unless she was on bed rest. The 1st kid was a financial burden for her so with the second kid I did not let her go on disability, I got her a laptop and we couriered work back and forth to her while she was out. She came back after kid 2 and had sever separation anxiety and sat at her desk for months randomly crying. Kid 3 I again kept her off disability, expensed a cable modem to be dropped at her house and opened my firewall for direct access to the servers and printers in the studio. When she came back, to avoid the separation anxiety thing again I let her come in one day a week for 2 weeks, then 2 days a week for a couple of week, etc.... until she was back full time. That also extended her maternity leave time significantly. My group absorbed another group from within the company. One of the guys I inherited wanted my job so he convinced this girl that I had not given her the promotion she wanted because she was a woman and that she should file a discrimination complaint with HR which was stupid as that particular studio was predominantly woman, I tended to hire woman vs men at a rate of 2-1. All my top management were woman that I had promoted into their positions. Naturally HR called BS, called the lawyers and circled the wagons. During the next lay off HR took care of both of those problems for me. I was speaking to the consultant who originally introduced her and she came up. He laughed, he said she was using him as a reference and he'd cost her 3 gigs already "because of what she tried to do to you". I asked him to not do that going forward, told him yeah she's not terribly bright but she deserves a chance to earn a living. You don't have to and should not respect her but put it behind you. Just be happy she is no longer your problem. Move on. Enjoy life.
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i would still draw up a letter to keep her from contacting or doing business with your clients. it may not stop her, but if she does you have at least informed her that she can not do it.
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Just a FYI Outlook has a built in recover deleted items feature built in that I've used in the past before having to go to exchange or backups.
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We had an employee delete her emails, files, schedules and everything else she could and quit with no notice. Once we (IT) were notified we had everything back in short order but charges were still filed against her.
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