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Originally Posted by fintstone (Post 8793422)

What does one have to do with another? Insurance is financially a bad deal in many cases. It has nothing to do with love or romance. What you are talking about is an unwillingness to commit to a marriage. Why would a woman marry a man who was not willing to commit? Especially with one who has so little to offer. Love is not a business arrangement.

A prenup might be a good idea for a billionaire who attracts gold diggers like flies. In most cases, it is a demonstration of a failure to commit to the relationship.

you could have demonstrated my point any better.

a pre nep is not an unwillingness to commit, just like car insurance is not a plan to crash your car. :rolleyes:

if someone has an issue signing a pre-nep, then they arn't in love with you.

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Originally Posted by cockerpunk (Post 8793446)

What is your point? If you know what it is, you sure are having a lot of trouble communicating it.

That makes no sense whatsoever. What would make you think that car insurance is a plan to crash your car? It is a way an insurance company profits on your financial inability to assume the risk yourself.

A prenup has nothing to do with love...and everything to do with trust. You re planning the divorce before the marriage.

You guys have the wrong analogy.

Getting married is like going up in a plane.

Taking a parachute along is analogous to getting a prenup.

It doesn't mean you don't trust the plane and it doesn't mean you don't love the plane.

The parachute is "just in case"....(nod nod wink wink).

;)

I flew in a plane today without a parachute. I trusted my safety to my confidence in the jet, the pilot and crew.

Whatever is mine is my wife's. I trust her as well.

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Originally Posted by fintstone (Post 8793469)

What is your point? If you know what it is, you sure are having a lot of trouble communicating it.

That makes no sense whatsoever. What would make you think that car insurance is a plan to crash your car? It is a way an insurance company profits on your financial inability to assume the risk yourself.

A prenup has nothing to do with love...and everything to do with trust. You re planning the divorce before the marriage.

what would make you think a pre-nep means you are planning to get divorced? having car insurance doesn't make anyone think you plan on crashing your car.

I'm planning on getting married next year. I'm 52 and the GF is a bit older. My net worth going in was compiled over the last 30+ years and when I divorced amicably in 2007 we split things in half. My GF's ex was an ass in her divorce, would have left her penniless if he could have after a 20+ year marriage ended by his craziness and affairs. It is quite a bit less than mine. We'll put her name on my house, decide up front how much of my retirement she'll get if I croak so she is taken care of but she does not expect all of it nor would I give it. Anything going forward she will of course get if I pass first. Getting married later in life is a completely different financial picture than when you are young and starting with nothing.

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Originally Posted by fintstone (Post 8793483)

I flew in a plane today without a parachute. I trusted my safety to my confidence in the jet, the pilot and crew.

Whatever is mine is my wife's. I trust her as well.

Was this a commercial jet airliner? Like a Boeing 777?

Parachute wouldn't do you any good if that thing crashed.

If it was a private plane that's a different story.

"Whatever is mine is my wife's. I trust her as well."

This is how everyone feels until that day when they realize the relationship has gone past the "tipping point" and has in fact fallen over.

The older I become, the less I trust. Experience must teach you something.

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Originally Posted by jhynesrockmtn (Post 8793706)

Getting married later in life is a completely different financial picture than when you are young

It's funny how that works....

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Originally Posted by fastfredracing (Post 8788712)

Do you sit down with him , and let him know how you feel, ask him if he is sure this is what he wants? I, and everybody that knows him, and this girl, see exactly where this is heading. Divorce court within 2 years, and him loosing all his stuff. She went nutso on him last night when he asked her to sign a pre nup.
Poor guy slept in his car last night. She just moved in with him 3 days ago. He gave her the entire upstairs, and he moved into the basement. I dont think they even sleep together. She is mean... she drinks , was probably hot 10 years ago, but looks are fading, and she is looking to latch on to something. He is a total pushover for women.
He says , he does not care, he is sick of being alone.
He is a good friend, but also a grown man, I would like to think he knows what he is doing.
If I say something, do I run the risk of him always harboring ill feelings towards me, and thinking I don't like his wife in the very unlikely event that it works out, and they go the distance .

Attempt to advise him. Tactfully. He's probably in the jelly doughnut stupor (the jelly doughnut being a part of the female anatomy) and not coherent so tread carefully. If he's not responding to your concern for him then let him go. The second she finds out you're meddling with her meal ticket your ass will be grass with both of them. Rare is the man who can be steered away from the jelly doughnut by his concerned buddies.