[aigel]

You need to get out of KS IMHO. Someone with your potential should be in a more economically diverse area to maximize their potential, both career and resulting happiness.

I have moved 3 times with my family with children while they were in school. It isn't as big a deal as you think. Kids make new friends quick and the old ones fade quickly as well. When we could help it, we would move when school was up, i.e. between middle school and high school, so all the kids are freshmen anyway.
With electronics now, you also can have them be able to stay in touch with the BFF until they fade. We also always had something as a lure, i.e. get a new piece of play equipment at the new house, or a pool club membership etc.

You have to remind yourself (and your family!) that the family unit is what stays together. A family that is happy together will always strive, moving is not a biggie. Make sure you don't make it a big deal, kids will read you, if you aren't stressed out about it, they won't be.

Keep us posted!

G