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Originally Posted by john70t
Some marry for life at 20. Some go through numerous partners. Some are mature in values at a younger age. Some never grow up.
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I snipped some, but I wanted to comment on the above: I have been, age related, all of those things and more.
To paraphrase an old Eddie Murphy comment: when I was young when I walked into a room the fish stopped swimming.
You'll have to fill in the why.
I didn't get married until my mid 30's and I squeezed the lemon pretty hard until I met my wife.
No real reason for the delay really other than shifting priorities. I simply did not believe there was some archetype I had to follow. I made mistakes, I made progress. Same as it ever was.
BTW, I have never, not once, talked to my kids about their relationships or who they date or seek to marry. I just don't. It freaks them out a little bit.
Nor did my parents except once. My Mother was dying of cancer and was in a brief remission. I had met my future wife and we visited my parents in South Carolina for the first time.
After dinner, my Mom asked me to take her for a ride, just the two of us.
"If you don't ask that young woman to marry you, I will...you'd be a f'ing idiot (she never swore) not to".
I mentioned I was planning to so the ride went smoothly
We had a very small wedding that my Mother was not well enough to make...my Father stayed in SC as well. I left for the Persian Gulf a month later, 1990.
I am in the middle, my wife to my right. My best friend next to her. I thank my good judgement everyday
