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Originally Posted by fintstone
I understand why women do not flirt with you...and why you do not understand how males and females relate normally. I also realize that you define masculinity differently than most of us. You do you...but understand that most men posing here are very unlike you.
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plenty of women flirt with me. i have no issues with attracting and dating women. i enjoy dating very much because of it, even online dating. see, i actually like people. unlike everyone who hates dating, hates getting to know new people, think people with life experience are "damaged goods" etc etc.
yeah, most men are ****ty men. thats kinda been the point since page 1. if you are hitting on women at work, you are a ****ty man. this isnt complicated.
hitting on women at work is similar to hitting on women in male dominated hobbies.
hitting on women in male dominated hobbies is also foolish because women who participate in male dominated hobbies fall into 2 camps. the first is women who participate in male dominated hobbies for the male attention it gets them, and you dont want someone like that. and the second is women who participate in the male dominated hobby because they love it, and the male attention they get from it is a cost to doing the hobby. so dont be that guy and make the cost for her more expensive to participate either way, you loose, so dont do it.
hitting on women at work is like #2, except instead of loving the hobby, they need money to you know ... survive. so again, you can only loose.
the place to hit on women is somewhere where the rules are clear (ie, everyone is there to meet and flirt), a woman can protect herself so that safety isnt an issue, etc etc. the workplace is not like that.
this is actually a key reason why i prefer online dating to meet people. the rules are clear, everyone knows what the point is, and is choosing to participate. i love all these male creators telling men to get off the apps ... like, perfect. even better. i have had luck at bars/mixers etc, but even then, the rules are still a little muddy in that interaction, id rather just get a match, get a date, and move on from there.