[aigel]

Alan makes very good points. A puppy is not the way to go IMHO due to play biting and jumping.

One thing you guys may not know, but in the Bay Area it is a royal PITA to get a dog from the pound. I think adopting a child may be less complicated. I have had several people try to adopt and they were alienated with all the questions and requirements, house visits, questions about income etc. If you go this route, take a trip (I recall you have a nice camper?) up to some of the less populated counties and pick a pup in a shelter there. There will be a lot less red tape and you also may have more choices.

And last but not least, why not get in touch with an organization specializing in companion dogs for special needs kids? You could also find people with "therapy dogs" that can come see you and your son to get him accustomed. These dogs are usually brought to hospitals, nursing homes etc. to lift people's spirits.

A companion dog is more than a pet but it may be better geared towards your son. I see this as a one time chance (if the dog scares him good, he may be done for life wanting one), so better not mess it up.

Don't rush this and most of all, make it fun!

G