Divorce present

[sc_rufctr]

Originally Posted by bickyd

Mr Grog. this is easy. forget the shrinks. let go of the woman. Your head is on straight. hers is not. buy the car and just be happy. you did your job and your healthy man. it does not need to be any more complicated than that. congratulations sir . your free.

Originally Posted by t-tom

This is the best advice on here! Just live you're life and be happy.

This... You're free!

[Fast Freddy 944]

Originally Posted by Grog

Long story, Wife had a boyfriend about 30 years ago. She started to mention marriage after being with him for 3 years. He disappeared with out a trace. I met her couple years later. Married after a year. 2 kids, 1 horse, 3 dogs & 1 cat, 26 years later her mom falls and breaks her arm. Wife goes to Minnesota in March from Washington state to care for her. I have a trip planed to take the horse trailer to Minnesota in April to pick up some stuff her mom gave her and put her regular tires on her car. (studded tires are illegal in Mn). The night before I leave she Skypes me to tell me she is leaving me for her old boyfriend and don't bother coming. After 5 days of trying everything I can think of to make her come to her senses, I drive out there to make her tell me to my face. Go to bed Wednesday night at 9pm, can't sleep, pack truck, leave at 11pm. Get to Mn Friday morning. 1630 miles and 1 tank of diesel. I have a transferflow tank in the bed which gives me 135 gallons. I stay the night at her moms house, they have a cabin next to the house. After talking to her Friday & Saturday morning, I put her regular tires on and reset her pressure sensors. She leaves to spend the weekend with her boyfriend. I spend the day with an ex brother in law. Leave Sunday morning for home. So much crap in my head I don't sleep much. Drive to Butte Mt. sleep about 3 hours then drive home. Back home Monday night. Made good time. Anyway it's almost a year later and getting close to finalizing the divorce.

If I have any money left I was thinking of getting a divorce present for me. I have put off my love for cars to feed my family, support my cheater wife and put 2 kids through college. It's me time. here is my list of cars I was thinking about.

At the top

Ford gt350

Chevrolet corvette grand sport, because all the dealers are adding 5 to 10K to the price of the gt350. Pisses me off.

More practical toys.

911 Carrera 4
or
Ford focus RS
Because I want this car to be a daily driver the awd will give me a longer driving season.

I plan on having just the truck and a car. Was thinking if I got the RS since it is the cheapest and still fun, I could build a factory 5 kit car. Shelby or the GTR.

Don't know. I like thinking about the possibilities.
What would you do or recommend?

Divorce, been there done that, gal cheated on Freddy long ago, a judge split everything up 50%, You know how gal's nite out is. Don't worry about hubby, go on have a good time......Yah man, go find you some fun wheels, and enjoy your "free" time. What aint ment to be, aint ment to be.

[targa911S]

i'd buy myself a 21year old redhead..

[berettafan]

did I read OP has 20 something year old kids living at home? if so is this while being students at a local college?

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by varmint

The divorced guy with the mustang is kind of a cliche. I'm not saying don't do it, but you should be aware.

Frankly middle age guy with any sports car is a cliche, I think most of us here are in that boat but don't give a flip what other people think.

I have never been divorced but would +1 on settle all divorce costs before splurging on a fun car.

Just IMHO the Vette is the most bang for your buck (but talk about cliche!) however in the PNW a 4WD Porsche may be more usable.

[larrydickman]

It's a bit of a bumpy road ahead and your finances will not be fully in place until all the "i"'s are dotted and the "T"s crossed. Women are fickle (as you have found out) and sometimes when the tears stop the claws come out. Be prepared for changes.

I just put the finishing touches and signatures on my non-modifiable judgement. The house sold, the one time alimony payment cashier's check sent to the ex and the Champagne cork popped.

I got the 911 in the deal so no need to scratch that itch. But I did buy myself a little something to celebrate that I've been wanting for awhile...

[911 Rod]

Just chill for a while because some time (hopefully soon) you will look back and realize you were not it a good state of mind. Then buy whatever floats your boat.

Until then stick with the hookers and blow.

[Don Ro]

Originally Posted by onevoice

You are either an idiot or a woman, or both

Why is it a woman's job to "hang on for years" instead of making a POSITIVE change. Running out on her husband is one thing, leaving her own kids is proof positive she is crazy. No ones behavior MAKES THEIR SPOUSE CHEAT

These divorce stories make me sick, and they repeat over and over. Wife goes midlife crazy, gets aggressive lawyer, takes nice guy husband to cleaners. Happened to my best friend, known him since 1st grade, nicest guy on planet, cheating whore wife ended up with everything.

What's up with your "...nicest guy on planet..." that he chose to marry someone who resorted to being, or always was, a "...cheating whore wife..."?
You might focus on that. A far more productive approach to your subject matter, I would suggest. 'Would be best for you both.
A "selection error" on his part, ya think?
Enlightenment doesn't care how you get there.

~~~~~~~~~~~
"You are either an idiot or a woman, or both "
***
I'll tell you one thing for certain that I am not, I'm not naive. Hardly!

[sugarwood]

My guess is that she never got over her bad boy EX, settled for the OP, and somehow reconnected while she was in her hometown. Maybe she was never that into OP. Tons of women settle for a safe guy, while secretly pining for the exciting bad boy that got away.

[DanielDudley]

Originally Posted by sugarwood

Tons of women settle for a safe guy, while secretly pining for the exciting bad boy that got away.

Lots of them regret it later too, but it doesn't matter once you are free and clear...

[billybek]

Originally Posted by DanielDudley

Lots of them regret it later too, but it doesn't matter once you are free and clear...

True enough!

One of the hockey teams I spared for years ago had two players that were involved in an interesting "affair", not with each other and not that there is anything wrong with that...
One guy was having an affair with the other guys wife, they left their spouses to be together and were soon married after the ink on the divorce agreement had dried.
The spouses that were left behind made out like bandits financially and ended up getting together as a couple and were amazingly happy.
The perpetrators, on the other hand, soon separated and divorced. Funny, eh?

[Grog]

Originally Posted by sugarwood

My guess is that she never got over her bad boy EX, settled for the OP, and somehow reconnected while she was in her hometown. Maybe she was never that into OP. Tons of women settle for a safe guy, while secretly pining for the exciting bad boy that got away.

Good guess.
After I met her I heard about this guy that hurt her. I heard about it before and after we got married for a few years. She was worried that I would leave her or cheat. She said this guy hurt her really bad. I told her I would never do something like that, it's just not in my character. She eventually figured out I wasn't going anywhere and stopped talking about it. Every time we made a trip to Minnesota we would visit this lady that she told me was a family friend. This lady even came out to visit us, we took her and her new husband around to see the sights. Turns out the lady was the missing boyfriends mom. This guy was back on the radar in 2015. He called my mother in-law to see how things are going. Putting in a feeler I think.
His wife cheated on him. His son came home to find mom with a strange man in the house. So his divorce was final in October of 2015. My wife went to care for her mom in march of 2016. Ten days after she got there she met up with him to ask him why he disappeared. He gave her some lame excuse and it was true love all over again. She said she didn't mean for this to happen, but it did. She told me that he has always been in her heart, her soul mate, and it wouldn't be fair to me to come back home knowing he is out there. I have to agree. As far as I can figure from the info I found, she only spent 6 to 9 days with him before she decided to leave me, her kids, her animals, home, friends and everything she has had here for 26 years. She told me she was happy with me, but is happier now. Mostly because he is a christian like her. She wanted her husband to be the spiritual leader in the family. I gave it a good try for a few years after we got married, but I just could not believe the story. Originally she said she would be fine with me whether I believed or not. ( I swear I'm a better person than 95% of the so called Christians). I not sure what to believe, If I was just a place holder for all these years? I don't think so, but.. But whatever, In 5 weeks it will have been a year since she told me she was leaving, so I'm pretty much over all the crap and just want it to be final. I'm ready to move on, enjoy the new freedom that I have been enjoying for a while now. As it stands right now I have no desire to have another wife. I will never do that again. But who knows, not first on my list.

I have had a lawyer since May of 2016. Lawyer told me the good news is, I make lots of money, the bad news is, I make lots of money. No I won't buy anything until this is over, not sure If I will stay in our current home or not. She doesn't want it. We are not fighting, have already split most stuff, all that is left is the arbitration for money. It could go bad for me, or really bad for me, don't know. I don't think she is out for blood but who knows after spending that long with her new guy. I don't know what he has been telling her. She has been living at his house since August last year (actually a guest house on his property). Is she a bad person? no. Just an idiot. Think good looking dumb blond.
As far as the kids, they are both mad, sad, upset. Daughter still talks to her, but thinks she is an idiot. My son has not talked to her since. They both have 2 year degrees but not sure where they want to go from there. They have part time jobs but still live at home. Son is looking into becoming a pharmacist. They are awesome kids, doesn't matter what I lose in the divorce, I will still have them.

Hope I answered some questions.
Now back to toys! Maybe a new truck and camper. Then I could get a covered trailer and take the Harley to places I would like to ride. I think I would like that better than riding and staying in hotels. I could set up base camp, then go see some stuff. I have friends to ride with.

[Crowbob]

Ok, Grog.

I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing near you.

Also, I did not read a word of the above.

[Grog]

Forgot to mention I'm 55, she is 51.

[Grog]

Originally Posted by Crowbob

Ok, Grog.

I'm not laughing at you, I'm laughing near you.

Also, I did not read a word of the above.

not sure what that means

[Crowbob]

Originally Posted by Grog

not sure what that means

Grog.

Don't worry about what it means. Take some deep breaths. Don't do anything. Don't sign anything, don't agree to anything. Don't do anything.

Best way is to create a very strict daily activities TO DO schedule. Get up. Shower. Go to work. Work (well and with competency). Go home. Eat. Watch TV. Go to bed.

The interwebs is not where you should be right now.

[Baz]

Originally Posted by sugarwood

My guess is that she never got over her bad boy EX, settled for the OP, and somehow reconnected while she was in her hometown. Maybe she was never that into OP. Tons of women settle for a safe guy, while secretly pining for the exciting bad boy that got away.

I heard a lady (friend of my girlfriend at the time) tell her "Marry the first time for money....and the second time for love."

[Bob Kontak]

Originally Posted by Grog

not sure what that means

Forget about it.

I saw a new, like temp tags, black Shelby, come up on my left and pass me on 77 today. He was still going slow from being so new.

This was before I saw this thread.

I was in awe. First I saw one. There are worse choices, Bro.

This is disregarding all seen in this thread. Give it a month.

Edit: It was like the first time seeing the yellow Camaro in Transformers.

[Arizona_928]

Originally Posted by Grog

she is 51.

My mother is around that age, and never remarried after I was around. I personally can't understand that thought process.
Life is too short to play games.

My 0.02$, enjoy the small things. You seem to have an idea what you want to enjoy. Just take the time and do it. Consider buying a puppy(if you don't have any pets). It sounds childish, but very therapeutic especially when going through rough patches.

[vash]

i seriously think buying something wont fix the bad juju running around a divorced guys mind..maybe a quick temp "happy"..but it wont last.

i'll never judge a marriage..especially from my keyboard.

only thing Grog. best of luck and seriously live your life kickass.