When the father of the bride talk goes wrong

[biosurfer1]

Heard a new one recently. Co-worker has a neighbor and they take care of each others houses on vacation...mail, newspaper, etc. The neighbor asked my co-worker a couple weeks ago to watch his house this past weekend, a relative was getting married. They left Friday night and Saturday afternoon they were back home. My co-worker asked if something had happened and the neighbor said oh ya, wedding got cancelled the morning of.

I suppose this kind of thing happens but I've never heard of this particular reason.

Apparently the father of the bride and his sons had a sit down with the groom the night before and gave the typical "If you ever hurt her..." BS talk and the groom, apparently, got a little scared. My co-worker thinks the FIL was/is in law enforcement, so groom didn't take it as playful banter. After talking with the bride to be and basically saying that he had no intention of hurting her but he wouldn't live his life in fear that she take something the wrong way, or accuse him of cheating when he wasn't, or whatever and called it off.

The neighbor didn't hear all the conversations or have all the details, but there was a ton of drama as one would expect, the bride wanted to father to apologize and he wouldn't, the groom didn't want that cloud over his head, and that was that. No wedding.

I dont know, maybe the groom had cold feet and this was an out he saw, or possibly he really did fear the dad, and I don't blame him, sometimes women get crazy thoughts and maybe she runs to dad and says he hit her, or whatever.

Neighbor was just happy that it was just a lost night at a hotel and a car ride, I guess there were lots of family members who flew in for the event.

[Bugsinrugs]

Smart groom. Get out before things get complicated.

[masraum]

That's pretty messed up all around.

[jhynesrockmtn]

Sounds like maybe the Groom had a glimpse into the family he was about to join and thought better of it. Good for him.

[GH85Carrera]

It takes all kinds.

I worked as a wedding photographer for many years. I have been to way too many weddings. From over the top stupid expensive, (50 or 60 grand) to getting married at home, and beeny-weenies as the only food. I have often wished I could see the stats on how many of the couples I saw get married are still married to each other.

One wedding I vividly remember was a couple that as I went to interview with them about what to expect from me and the cost of the photos the had me meet them at a local night club. The groom had a stupid looking Foo Man Cho mustache that dangled down 6 inches or so on each side of his mouth. The bride convinced his buddies and the best man to hold him down at his bachelor party and cut the mustache back to his lips. And the did it.

That was a great start to a marriage. I hurried the photos through and got my money in short order.

I never officially retired from wedding photography, I just raised my prices to 10 grand just to show up for the consultation and the photography is additional. So far no one wants to pay that so I am safe.

[Clint Lando]

happy ending

[reachme]

Father would not apologize after causing a train wreck, yeah better to get out now.
Father is there to support his daughters choice, not go on a power trip and not back down. I hope she makes his life hell as only a jilted bride can. Or they elope

[Eric Hahl]

Or...the Groom to be was already having an affair.

[Captain Ahab Jr]

Originally Posted by Eric Hahl

Or...the Groom to be was already having an affair.

or the dad was in love with the groom

[Tobra]

That is dodging a bullet, in more ways than one.

[biosurfer1]

One slight update I got: The never to be father in law has been married and divorced, twice.

Doesn't sound like he has a leg to stand on dishing out advice to anyone.

The real loser in all this, unless she's a whack job, is the bride. She really didn't do anything wrong from the sound of it, and now she will be forever known as "that" girl to friends and family.

[Seahawk]

The La Brea Tar Pits just called, they want their dinosaurs back. Idiots.

[herr_oberst]

[speeder]

Originally Posted by jhynesrockmtn

Sounds like maybe the Groom had a glimpse into the family he was about to join and thought better of it. Good for him.

Yep. I've never gotten that whole macho/stupid father of the girl crap. If anyone hurt my sister, I'd probably break all his bones but I'm not going to presage the event or assume the worst about someone who seems like a nice person.

And guess what? No one has ever hurt my sisters that I'm aware of. That's usually how life works out. As for women who really are in relationships w bad guys, that's another subject and having a talk w the guy ain't going to do squat. I'll leave it at that.

[Tervuren]

Well, from a distance it is difficult to say.

If the family is just watching out; then no loss, they filtered out a loser.

If the family is genuinely nuts; she should move away.

[Baz]

[Vipergrün]

Originally Posted by Captain Ahab Jr

or the dad was in love with the groom

Or the dad is in love with the daughter...was this in Florida? LOL

Wise groom.

[aigel]

My bet is on the groom not having a clean conscience. Otherwise one could laugh it off. Maybe the family knew something was up in the past - and told him if it happened again, they'd chill him.

I don't know, the whole thing sounds FUBAR, so probably was the best outcome for everyone involved!

G

[A930Rocket]

My wife’s family said not to marry her.

After 33 years, I think they were right.

[widebody911]

Originally Posted by Vipergrün

Or the dad is in love with the daughter...was this in Florida? LOL

Mar-a-Lago, actually