so the normies are all in an uproar about the viral "places to not go a first date"

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/10/30/list-of-where-not-to-go-on-a-first-date-viral/71382293007/

which i fully agree with. but thats also because i would never go to any of these places anyway.

That's kind of crappy. If he was being sincere and wanted to see you again he'd say something like "I've got car problems and can't make it - when can we reschedule?"

However it's only been one day. If you don't hear back by tomorrow with him wanting to reschedule - move on.

Show up at his house with an OBDII scanner.

you kill me Steve. :D

Wearing something frilly. :D

And coke-bottle glasses.

I find this post particularly interesting. No, not the second part. Everyone's known that since the age of seven or eight.

It's the part about lying. See, I never said he's lying. I don't know if he is or not. But apparently a crazy little tweener girl lives in your head too. 😘

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I know you are not asking/interested in my opinion here, Dixie.......but the guy "sounds" like a little wuss.

Pretty sure you can do better.

Just my 2 cents......

I appreciate everyone's input Baz, be it good, bad, or ugly. That said, supportive replies like yours are the best. Thanks
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Admittedly unique to where I live, I've learned a "Beach date" means, "I'm broke and can't even afford to splurge for a picnic lunch," haha.

Seeing as I'm on a life reboot and without transport if I really want/need to be somewhere I just take a Lyft.
Just sayin...😋

It sounds like you could get lucky. Just go with it.

1. Cheesecake Factory
2. Applebee’s
3. Chili’s
4. Chipotle
5. Olive Garden
6. The Movies
7. Your House
8. Any Fast Food Chain
9. Buffalo Wild Wings
10. Wingstop
11. Red Lobster
12. A buffet
13. IHOP
14. Denny’s
15. The gym
16. Church
17. Starbucks
18. Coffee dates
19. Ice cream dates
20. Family functions
21. Movie night (Netflix, Hulu, and etc.)
22. Somewhere that requires a long drive
23. Bowling
24. Nightclubs
25. Hookah Bar
26. A bar for just drinks
27. Waffle House
28. Sports events

I generally agree. "A bar for just drinks" has worked well for me. "The Movies" for a first date sucks because you're not talking to each other.

"The gym" or "Church" for first date? :confused:

All that I know about dating is from alpha chad advice on the internet. "The good ones" on both sides are already taken and keeping their pies shut for safety lol. So no applicable advice here. But my thoughts:

1). Everyone is single for a reason at this point. Some for very good ones and histories of doing everything right. Some because they are murderous psychopath professional cons with mob debt who want to boost all their problems on you as soon as you let your guard down. "Nope. We've just met and I'm here to spend time together, not fly your niece back from a Caracas prison from last week." Childproof your home and don't accept 'mild curiosity'. Best thing is neutral ground for a while.

2). Go slow and neutral before warming things up and dabble easy without giving too much information away. It is the game the men should learn 'cause the gals are already pros. Gals love mystery and inspiration. That is what a complimentary long term relationship is for. It take two to tango and everyone must be willing to put skin in the game. Have a truthful cover story and don't go beyond that for a while. There are so many "What do you do for a living?" straight to "How much do you earn?" to "We should invest in real estate together with my five kids" type people on the dating scene.

3). Watch for warning signs and hints. Do they stare in the rear-view mirror too much? Flirt with the waiter? Treat people like crap? Argue on the phone? Give way too much attention with their existing crowd? You want a real person and everyone has flaws. Or does none of that happen, and they are just way too smooth at everything. Both can be indicative of true personality you weren't bargaining for.

4). What you see in the window isn't what is delivered in the mail. Someone can be a mean sum'itch at work and perfect on the ball, but during downtime they melt into uselessness or bad habits. There is a place and fit for everyone in life. Sometimes it works but often it doesn't. https://www.japannihon.com/why-do-japanese-say-you-have-3-faces/

5). Expect a s-test within the first five times together to test your worthiness. And be prepared to give them back. Take a road trip together for that $100 ice cream cone. The stressful situations both of you need to get through. That's where true personalities often come out.

6). Ignore all of the above. You've been on social media too much.

I agree with most of the list...except the number 1....Cheesecake Factory.
It's a good quality restaurant with an expensive feel to it.

I'm almost sure that they have a chicken pot pie on the menu.
If she doesn't like that...take a hike.

That's really good advice John.

IME there are always lots of people looking who in reality are in no position to be looking.
They basically haven't taken enough time to deal with the past.

A while ago I met a lady "online". After a few really nice dates she invited me to her place for drinks. I arrived on time and she greeted me at her front door with a smile. She invited me in and the first thing I noticed were her wedding pictures still hanging on her wall. I didn't make a comment and I followed her into the living room and sat down. The place was messy and cluttered with moving boxes stacked and lined up on one wall of her living room. No big deal really but it was notable. After a few drinks and a bit later she said "Please excuse the mess but my ex husband moved out 2 weeks ago and some of his junk is still here" - We had been dating for about 4 weeks.

Showing up wth the OBD scanner was the first thing popped into my head too. Does that make this the wrong crowd, or the right one?

Baz said the second thing

NO! Don't do it. Even if you figure out the problem, when he has a tail light go out next week it will be because you plugged in the scanner.

I made that mistake of working on a girlfriends car. From that day forward every random issue on her POS car was my fault.

I work on my two cars as they have a combined age of 75 years, and a combined mileage of 574,000 miles, and there is always something to tinker on or maintain.

I have done a couple of oil changes on my wife's Macan, but that is all it has needed from me.

Maybe she didn’t like the noisy environment, even though it was her idea, or maybe she was nervous . . . no point over-analyzing things.

My dating experience is way dated (ha ha) as we just had our 30th anniversary, but what I recall is that when I was happy and not looking for anyone, women were abundant, and when I was lonely and looking, the reverse.

Just one thing to keep in mind... This should be obvious but there are a lots of scam artists out there & they haunt the dating sites. Be careful and don't divulge too much before confirming they're real people. They could be someone collecting person info so they can steal your identity at some point.

Imagine opening up a letter from a credit car company you've never heard of & they're based in another state demanding payment!
- and the outstanding balance of "your" account is $5,000!

Yeah I think 18. Coffee Dates should be a mandatory first step. A neutral place in public. "I work in the X business. That's all".
If they are human, with substance, and serious, then they will bother to show up.
Go from there and go from there. You got a whole lifetime ahead.

I ain't buying complete strangers free luxury entertainment. wth. That's what they have to offer me? Pass.

this crap has filled the internet, esp men's spaces on the internet and all of it is garbage advice.

not saying all your advice is garbage advice, saying alpha chad internet perception is wrong, and basically all the advice they give out is garbage.

there are not "good ones" nor are there "bad ones" starting with that premise will always lead you somewhere dumb. the next bad idea is the notion that dating is a market place ... markets are used to determine the trade value of goods and services ... last i check, relationships are not based on trade values of goods and services ... and if you believe dating relationships are based on trade values of goods and services, immediately, do not pass go, go directly to therapy. anyway, dating isnt a marketplace either.

there are just people. people looking for connection. you can be a good connection with someone, or a bad one, or a mediocre one, or a good one for some things, or a bad one for some things etc. but the connection is the useful bit. the connection is what the relationship is based on. finding those connections, and leaning into them, building new ones, and creating a relationship around them in the purpose of dating.

these tend to be super easy to spot, and mostly they just want you to log into some sketchy website that is probably just a cam/porn site. if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

if you ask real human questions and get real human answers, its fine.

but this does lead to advice i always give guys ... which is matches on a dating site are unimportant. everyone uses matches as a metric of success, and its not. the metric for success, is meeting people you have connection with in person. i learned very early on, i could write a profile, and put pics up and get lots of matches. but if they are not the kind of matches and the kind of people i want to date, then its useless. instead, i build my profile to attract the kind of people i want to date. dating is a niche game. connection is niche. therefore you should be looking to find your niche, and try and meet those people. if you dont have a niche, you should be trying to figure that one out, thats on you, not the dating world.

this also means, dont fall in love with the potential of someone, you match with. so many men who dont get a ton of matches run this roller coaster of getting there 1 match a week, and they fall in love with this fictional person, and then when it turns out they arnt like what they fell in love with, they get pissed. bro, did that to yourself. thats not on her, thats on you.

I'd like to see some more pictures :)

Okay, he called. He said he was out of town. He also told me the code was a P-something-or-other that meant a misfire on #7.

So now, I'm feeling a touch bad that I complained on here. On the other hand it provided everyone, including me, a bit of entertainment. So there's that.

Oh, we're going out again.
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The old misfire on #7...

Diagnostic trouble code (DTC) P0307 stands for “Cylinder #7 Misfire Detected.”

The real joke is when you find out his MB only has 6 cylinders! :)

It may say E63 on the back, but check the VIN, sister.

Ha, thanks for that! Trust me, next time I'm noting the model emblem.

Dixie, do you get the feeling you have aquired a bunch of nosey, smart arsed brothers?:D

Best
Les

Yes, and I kinda like it. ;)

Tell him to bring it over. Swap the coil pack with another and then check to see if the misfire stays at #7 or not. Then go to dinner. Think of me as the kid brother bringing up the rear. lol

Speaks volumes

Misfire??? Dammit, I hate it when that happens, makes a mess!!!

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What happened that left you such a bitter little man? Honestly, what's your story?

I would suggest "it's complicated". :rolleyes:

Rita is a funny lady

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Thank you for sharing. That was hilarious!

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