What Would You Do If Someone Dis'd U in Front of Your Son?

[M.D. Holloway]

LMAO! My boy would have loved that!

[Rob Channell]

Originally posted by stomachmonkey
Just drop it. The guy is an ass and at this point he can't see it for what it is so you won't get through to him which will frustrate you even more.

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Good luck,
Scott

I agree with Scott. There are 2 types of people. Those that give ulcers and those that get them. Guess which type he is.


It's kinda like trying to teach a pig to dance. The pig will never learn. You will get dirt and mud on you, and the pig likes it.

Sounds like you made a nice "teachable moment" for your son. No matter how good of a job you do and how many people are appreciative of your efforts, there will always be at least one "Esso Bee" in every crowd.

I wouldn't go out of my way to shut him out, but it would be a long time before I went the extra mile for him like I would the other managers.

[911Rob]

Ah, what a bummer! Something like this makes me very angry!
I dont do corporate, always been the Prez myself, but I feel for you.... this would eat me alive.

My first reaction would be to smack the guy upside the head.

However, I believe you're the better man, you obviously are very smart and above him; but your kid.... that's a low blow.

I've worked with alot of corporate guys and you have two types;
1. They take all the credit and give all the blame
2. They take all the blame and give all the credit

Both types seem to become successful sometimes. I stay away from type 1's and build friendships and mentorships with 2's.

As for your son, kids are the smartest people on earth..... he knows the truth about his Dad. Keep smiling and ignore the prick.



PS: When I see anyone with their kids, I ALWAYS use the opportunity to edify the parent anyway I can.... kids need the reassurances in their heros today and the parents always appreciate the compliments. There's no stronger way to edify someone.

Cheers!
now go get promoted above this guy......

[cool_chick]

Ok that was pretty rude. Wow, what an ass!

[Bob's Flat-Six]

Let me guess, This Guy ( Ass**** ) is not well liked by many in the company but more just tolerated because of his position. In other words he's not one of the boys, He doesn't quite fit in.

Probably has some deep personality problem from living at home with his mother or something.

Can you tell I've run into one of these scumbags in my work too, and I'm self employed.

It was a broker I worked for and when things got real busy awhile back about a dozen of us independents went to work for another broker and left the idiot with no trucks for his jobs.

We didn't plan it or anything. Just everybody was tired of being treated with disrespect by this jerk at the same time I guess.


So what comes around go's around. It was Beautiful

[widebody911]

Um yeah Mike, I'm gonna need you to move your stuff all the way down to "Storage B"...

[RANDY P]

Well, in a work environment, comments like that have no practical purpose.

It's out and out contempt that you're dealing with, for whatever reason it may be - however this guy needs a reality check. Working in an environment with some jackass taking potshots at you making your day tough shouldn't be dealt with.

One shot, OK maybe bad sense of humor. 2nd shot, maybe you'd better check again. 3rd shot, and in a crowd, gloves are off.

The comments in front of your kid would've been the last straw. Find something about him, and start your own game of character assassination. Not vulgar, nothing that will get you in to HR but definitely you need to dish out a bit of what you've been getting.

He's doing it because he can. Stick up for yourself.



rjp

[fintstone]

I am afraid that I would have to wait til my son wasn't there, follow him into the bathroom and smash his face into the wall. Maybe hold his face/head in the toilet for a minute or two. See if that teaches him some manners.
If you don't have the nerve...then stand at the urinal next to him ....and "accidently" miss and soak his shoes.

[tabs]

The guy sounds like he feels threatened by you Lube....does he do this with other people...or just you.

And then why does he feel threatened....

If he does this with other people to..then it wasn't personal...just the way he is...and you can give him the cold shoulder by keeping him at arms length and by letting him be the last one to know anything all the while being prtofessional baut it...

If he does it ONLY with you then you have an ENEMY....maybe it's done outa fear on his part....you will at the very least keep a close eye on him....and CYA in EVERY encounter with him.

Then U have to determine is he activily trying to undermine you or is it just a passive thing....

End of LEsson #1

[red-beard]

I'm with Tabs on this one.

He is threatened by you. Do what you can to subtly stop supporting him. Nothing obvious. Let him self-destruct. If it continues in public, discuss the situation with your direct superior. Do not confront him directly. If anything, he will use that against you.

[Victor]

You are in Amerika!

Shoot him!

[Fishcop]

Do you know what he drives, and where he parks it? Changing a tyre every couple of weeks will ***** him no end...

[89911]

Hearing that convinces me that I can not work for anyone else and have to deal with crap like that. Thank God, I'm self-employed!

[David]

I agree with Tabs and Red Beard, I think this guy's threatened by you. I'd worry more about what he's saying when you're not around. I'd voice your concerns with your boss or his boss if your in the position to do so.

[stomachmonkey]

Damn,

I used my 911th post on my advice and I don't even like Lube

Oh well, I hope it works out for you. I know how frustrating the situation can be and how to deal with it is a tough call.

Just don't involve anyone else other than your direct boss, no peers or co-workers. It's amazing how someone can be your friend one day and stab you in the back the next.

Good Luck, you are a better man than he is and it will equal out one day.

[cmccuist]

Originally posted by 911Rob
PS: When I see anyone with their kids, I ALWAYS use the opportunity to edify the parent anyway I can.... kids need the reassurances in their heros today and the parents always appreciate the compliments. There's no stronger way to edify someone.

Robert, this is such good advice. Kids want to look up to thier parents - especially sons when it comes to thier fathers. You can make someone's day when you compliment a father in front of his son.

As far as this a-hole, is he like this with everyone? If so, he's either related to the owner or somehow connected or he produces ungodly amounts of profit for the company. How else could he get away with this type of behavior.

[targa911S]

kick him in the nuts in the parking lot.

Actually Static hit the nail on the head...kids are smart.

[JeremyD]

I guess I have a different take - someone like this does it because he can. Doing crap like that crossed a line. Do it to me in some power play to boost you up at work so you life has some meaning - OK - you are a worthless POS and I will keep my eye on you. Do it in front of my kid and you are crossing a line.

I'll mess with your head and your life as much as possible. The perverbial gloves are off. Like gay porn delivered to your place of business? How about creative and distructive ways to make your life miserable. Photoshoped pictures with you and animals. pizzas delivered to your home at 3:00am. How about your car disassembled in the parking lot? For $100 you can get a stripper to show up to the company function as his girlfriend - it's all a joke, right?

[targa911S]

I'm glad I haven't pi$$ed you off lately Jeremy. ;-)

[legion]

Sounds like this guy has identified you as the biggest threat to his job. That says something about you. His method of dealing with this says something about him.