happy holidays: move and not tell you

[nostatic]

Well, here's a good one. I last talked to my dad about 3 weeks ago. Typical conversation...usual stuff. I've been crazy busy and he didn't call so yesterday I tried to call and got a "the number is no longer working." message. Hmm...that's odd. He has phone over cable so I figured maybe it was a technical glitch. Tried again a couple times today and got the same message. Finally this evening I called a neighbor to see if she could check on him (he's 81, has a 61 year old wife he married a couple years ago after my mom died). She said, "oh they sold the house and moved a couple weeks ago."

Well there ya go...no wonder the phone didn't work.

Some backstory, there was an issue with the parents trust and my dad wanting to rewrite the whole thing when he got remarried (an A-B trust) and my brother refusing to sign off on that. So some bitterness as he wanted to leave the house free and clear to his new wife when he dies (although that is the bulk of the estate so he couldn't do it). I actually suggested he sell and move into a mobile home (which he could pay cash for and fund the other half of the trust).

So I got his new number from the neighbor and called him. He gave me a song and dance about being really busy since the move. I said that when I talked to him last the house (which I was born in and grew up in, and he bought with my mom in '57) must have been in escrow. He made some bs thing about a 2-day escrow, and when I said then he must have had it on the market he started yelling at me about not telling him about my divorce immediately, or when I moved (from one apartment to another in the same building, keeping the same phone number).

I told my ex and she suggested we go on Jerry Springer. Wonder if that pays well...

Anywho, merry f*cking xmas everyone! See why I love the holidays?

[Joeaksa]

Sad to see when things make a turn like this.

[cantdrv55]

Try to have a Merry Christmas anyway. For the kid's sake.

[nostatic]

the boy and I head to Hawaii on Jan. 2. We're going to have a great belated holiday

[tabs]

I only joke about such *****, U live it. With that kind of stuff its a wonder that your ARE NOT a major squirrel.

U are a bright boy Nostatus, and understand exactly what I am talking about. U have some major pain/grief issues to deal with.

Nothing but nothing is ever gona take that away and fix that broken part. The best that U can do is take the roller coaster ride and let it all air out to the last molecule of your being. U might then find that the broken wing is mended enough to fly on. U also need to be fitting the pieces together to see how the mechanism works.

U have been struggling on with the process for years and have an understanding of it so U are not a newbie.

[nostatic]

nope. and at this point i'm kicking ass and taking names. making art like a madman across the water. life with a light touch. at least when i can manage...living with perilous relish.

should be in vegas beginning of feb for POC race. I feel a buffet coming on...

[charleskieffner]

nostatus...............when the going gets tough.................the tough go scuba diving!

amazing what a few days of diving will do for the soul! good luck and merry xmas.

[Jim Richards]

[whispering]Wayne, is the PPBBS move still on for tonight? nostatic still doesn't know. Heh-heh-heh. [/whispering]

[notfarnow]

If things are sour, are you obligated to spend time with him at Christmas?

Don't know about you, but in our families Christmas always seemed to bring problems and tensions to a boiling point. High expectations and the need to pretend like everything's great, coupled with bitterness and resentment. Oh joy.

It may seem cold, but wifey and I have made a pact to NOT expose ourselves, or the people we care about, to poisonous people... even if they are family, and even if it is at Christmas.

This has caused tension in both my family and hers, but we have made our home a "safe haven" where disfunctional, unkind behaviors and attitudes are not allowed. Funny, seems we have more and more people coming to our place for Christmas each year.

[Rot 911]

Todd when I was in Germany in the Army my family moved from Kansas to Texas and didn't tell me! Of course in hindsight I guess they really were trying to tell me something.

[JeremyD]

HA! I sent my dad a wreath for christmas - have been for the past 8 years or so - got an email from him a few days ago stating that it was nice - but they really couldn't use it this year because they moved. Actually they are living with a friend of theirs until their townhouse is finished. - nope I don't have their address.

Merry Friggin Christmas....

[Joeaksa]

Originally posted by Kurt V
Todd when I was in Germany in the Army my family moved from Kansas to Texas and didn't tell me! Of course in hindsight I guess they really were trying to tell me something.

Yea, enlist in the Air Force next time! Sorry, had to do that!

[osidak]

Growing up (in NC) our neighbors had a daughter in college (in NY). One day she knocks on our door and asked if she could hang out at our house until her parents got home because for some reason her key was not working.

I had to tell her that her parent had moved almost a month ago and other than knowing they moved to California I had no other info to give her.

Talk about shock and disbelief. I told her to hang out until she figured out what she was going to do but she got into her car and drove off. Never saw her again.

Parent where real pricks anyway - Was happy to see them move but they screwed their daughter at the same time.

[ChrisBennet]

Wow, I've joked about my parents doing that but, just wow.
One of the nicest things a friend of mine said when I was having a rough time of it a few years back was "Remember you have friends who love you."
-Chris

[wcc]

The voices are telling you that you're not crazy! Don't listen to them, they don't know what they are saying....

[nostatic]

well, my son is heading east with the ex on xmas eve so I'm flying solo. 'Fraid I'm not heading down to SD for a warm snuggly xmas with dear old dad. Well, unless he has copies of the rewritten trust for me before then. It's a business arrangement now.

I'll likely do what I did last xmas. Find an open Starbucks for some crappy coffee, grab my camera, hop in the 911 and head to Zuma to shoot photos (knee still isn't up to getting in the water). Then maybe hang out with a friend or just watch tivo'd F1 races. After the year I've had, that'll be perfect...

[Grady Clay]

Jim,

[whispering]Wgere do you find all the vB code?[/whispering]

[whispering]Wayne, is the PPBBS move still on for tonight? nostatic still doesn't know. Heh-heh-heh. [/whispering]


Best,
Grady

edit, or is this just [color]?

[Rikao4]

Static, you know better..when you think it's bad...it could really be BAD.
Rika

[Burnin' oil]

You can spend Christmas with us.

[Jim Richards]

Grady, it's just color.