If someone found out your kid was using drugs would want to know?

[LeeH]

Sort of a hypothetical question, sort of not. I bought a pick up from a woman. It was her 18 year old son's truck. She kept telling me, "He's such a good kid."

I start to clean it up to get it ready to sell and find pot residue in the console. Really none of my business, but if my daughter was smoking pot at 18 I sure would hope someone would tell me.

[Moneyguy1]

In general, I certainly would. In the case of this woman, my gut feeling is she already knows.

[B D]

You should tell his Mom and call the cops! What are you NARC? He's probably a great kid and who knows the mother might smoke as well.

FYI at 18 your daughter will be smoking and drinking, and if she is not she is being deprived of being a normal teenager.

[Jims5543]

Originally posted by B D
FYI at 18 your daughter will be smoking and drinking, and if she is not she is being deprived of being a normal teenager.

I didn't drink and smoke at 18.

The kid that works for me right now is 19 and has never drank, smoked, or touched any drugs. He wants to be a CIA or FBI agent when he is done with his college.

My wife never drank smoked or did drugs when she was a teen and only drank after she was 21.

The normal teens I know live good clean lives. I will make sure my kids hang around others with like morals to live lives like those I know did.

To answer the original question. No its not your duty to tell a total strager you think their kid is on drugs. Let it go and move one.

[LeeH]

Originally posted by Jim Cesiro
To answer the original question. No its not your duty to tell a total strager you think their kid is on drugs. Let it go and move one.

My question was would you want to know if it were your kid. I have no intention of spreading an unsubstantiated rumor. It's an assumption that it's pot and an assumption that it belongs to the kid.

[ikarcuaso]

Yeah, I'd want to know.

Originally posted by LeeH
...She kept telling me, "He's such a good kid."

Maybe not your implication, but I don't think smoking pot @ 18 and being a "good kid" are necessarily mutually exclusive.

[Joeaksa]

I started drinking PBR at 16 (trips to the lake) and had tried a joint or three by age 17. Every kid that I knew did for the most part. Was just at my 35th HS reunion and out of 500 classmates less than 15 are dead, none of the from drugs.

My God guys, its not like you found a needle or the like in the truck. Please tell me just how different pot is from the beer or whiskey most of us drink or margarita I had with dinner tonight?

Am I endorsing it? No, but is this 1984? Was the kid seen doing anything ? How can anyone prove that it was his and that he was doing it?

If its anything but someone personally seeing the kid doing drugs I would drop it. Otherwise what the Mother might throw back at you might be a lot worse.

Joe

Oh BTW, how does someone know what pot residue is like? Read about it on the internet?

[LeeH]

Originally posted by Joeaksa
Oh BTW, how does someone know what pot residue is like? Read about it on the internet?

Nope. Two older brothers who revealed that addictive behavior runs in our family. One is dead. The other has been given 6 months max to live. Together, they destroyed our family as I knew it, starting when I was around seven years old.

[pdx944]

I guess times have changed. I am in high school and most kids have done weed, and lots started in middle school. Experimenting with drugs is just a thing lots of teenagers do, which doesnt make it right, but it is just a fact.

[HardDrive]

Originally posted by ikarcuaso


Maybe not your implication, but I don't think smoking pot @ 18 and being a "good kid" are necessarily mutually exclusive.

+1

[Gogar]

I think it's up to you, Lee. Personally, I think she should be psyched you didn't find a bag of meth.

[TerryH]

Mother is convinced son is a good kid that doesn't lie ....

pot was already in console before son owned car

pot not his, but must of been left by acquaintance

not pot, but oregano

must be dads stash


If the son is doing drugs and the mother isn't imbibing herself, she probably is already aware.

[YTNUKLR]

Whatever, man.

[oldE]

Would I want to know? Yes. I would prefer if he/she told me.

Many years ago, I had the unpleasant task of telling a woman why her son had been fired from work. I phrased it as delicately as I could, "He had posession of non-prescription drugs at work."
She said she suspected as much and thanked me for the truth.
Les

[Nathans_Dad]

I would want to know. I do think, though, that if you say something you should be very specific about what you found and why. I would not say "I found some of your son's weed in the car.", I would say "I found some substance that looked an awful lot like marijuana in the glovebox. I have no clue how it got there, but I thought you might like to know."

[Burnin' oil]

Only if he was getting into my stash

[Dan in Pasadena]

Originally posted by B D
You should tell his Mom and call the cops! What are you NARC? He's probably a great kid and who knows the mother might smoke as well.

FYI at 18 your daughter will be smoking and drinking, and if she is not she is being deprived of being a normal teenager.

Sorry, this point of view is ignorant. The "they're going to do illegal things anyway so it is normal" approach says a lot about the things that are wrong today....and I'm a LEFTY! Geez, I can only imagine what Joe and Len will say in response to that!

I was in high school from '68 to '72, the very height of the drug era and I never used grass; still haven't. At this point it is almost badge of honor with me. Have my now-24 and 26 year old kids used it? Probably. But if someone knew the info the original poster knew, I'd want to know.

[charleskieffner]

dont EVER TELL ME POT DOESNT LEAD TO HEROIN!

my 21 yr old is sitting in maricopa county jail as i write, and will be in jail for quite some time due to probation violation. got involved once/cleaned up/POS friend came back from rehab, got him strung out. his truck blew up/lost job/got caught while on probation w/(2) stolen shotguns, on video pawning them, all in a matter of about 3 weeks. mom in total denial.

and how do you think he was caught?????



******* ME!

walk in my shoes after ex goes off deepend w/prozac/booze/pot valium etc.( 9 yrs ago nasty divorce) and then have to turn your son into the cops!

heres the "end" chapter, to drug/booze abuse period!

1) rehab

2) prison

3) DEATH!

the rehab didnt work despite his friend overdosing and dying, so i was faced with DEATH or prison!

what a ******* choice!


this isnt smoking a lousy joint and plowing some beers at some boondocker like all of us did at one time or another.

figured my older one would have wised up after seeing the trainwreck of his mother and his friend overdosing!

thank god for drumsets, without mine i probably would have gone on a heroin dealer killing spree!

and believe me i have the weapons.........and i can shoot real well out to 1200yds!

being a parent sucks sometimes. doing whats RIGHT, is sometimes the MOST DIFFICULT THING YOU WILL EVER DO!

hes clean now, and hes alive...........thats all that counts!

FUN STUFF TURNING YOUR OWN KID IN!

[bivenator]

I am very very glad that charleskeiffner has a set of drums.

[Moneyguy1]

Charles:

Excellent post and I have to agree. I have a friend whose brother sounds a lot like what you describe. Tough love was and is the answer. The guy is cooling his heels in Pima County prison and no one in the family, including his widowed mother will defend his actions. It took a while for the family to acept the fact that, no matter how much they "helped" him, they were only enabling.

I respect you for your action. It is difficult to do something like you had to do, but watching someone selfdestruct is only postponing the inevitable.