Will you get re-married?

[cab83_750]

I am not sure if this was a subject before. If so, ignore this thread.

Since we seem to be all 'guys' here, I am wondering what the majority would be.

1. If you were married, how long was the marriage? years/months?
2. If you are currently divorced, will you entertain marriage again?
3. If you are planning on getting re-married, how long was your 'single/divorced' status?

Based on my conversation with a lot of married and divorced guys (at work, at parties, around the neighborhood), they WILL NOT marry again.

BTW, the single ones are the only ones entertaining marriage.

[livi]

Married once. Did not pan out.

Longer non married relationship after that. Did not pan out.

I have figured out women.

I will never marry again.

[DARISC]

I've been married twice.
Both were excellent housekeepers.
When we got divorced
they kept the house.
Badda bing!

On accasion I see my 2nd ex-wife on the road.
I still miss her.
But my aim is improving!
Badda boom!

I had a girlfriend I was crazy about.
She wanted to get married.
I got excited, then she said
"But not to you!"
Ka Pow!

They say a man is not complete
until he is married.
Then, he is finished.
Wham bam bodda bing!

[livi]

Well, in all honesty, I have figured out myself - in conjuncture with women.

Some claim that the best woman is a pro worth her price.

[charleskieffner]

married 19yrs.

dee-vorced joyfully 8 years.

been a man whore extrordinaire past 6 years-priceless.

dated present drop dead good looking 36year old blonde g/friend w/36dd hooter option last 2 years-perfect.

befo i re-marry i will have to purchase my 35-38ft formula boat w/twin merc 525EFI's/A/C(used divorce forces sale) and my 89 speedster(used low miles/divorce forces sale).


that way she cant take my house, nor my boat, nor my porsches(plural), nor my bikes, nor my quad,nor my guns,nor my drum set,nor my dogs,nor my kids,nor my tools, nor my scuba gear, soul,heart, bank accts, etc fill in the blank!


figure driving to the lake w/my cab or speedster post divorce, and hopping in 36ft formula, if i cant find a new one ..............i should probably shoot myself!

[rcecale]

Originally Posted by DARISC

I've been married twice.
Both were excellent housekeepers.
When we got divorced
they kept the house.
Badda bing!

On accasion I see my 2nd ex-wife on the road.
I still miss her.
But my aim is improving!
Badda boom!

I had a girlfriend I was crazy about.
She wanted to get married.
I got excited, then she said
"But not to you!"
Ka Pow!

They say a man is not complete
until he is married.
Then, he is finished.
Wham bam bodda bing!

WAIT!!! You forgot one...

I never knew how happy a man could be until I got married...
...but then it was too late!
[que rimshot]

Randy

[onewhippedpuppy]

Haven't you ever heard of learning from your mistakes? (Happily married 5 years)

[Zef]

You get married just once in a life...married since 10 years...happy...

[LeRoux Strydom]

Next week will be 21 years. If, by some misfortune, I have to be single again, I would consider another marriage if I can find another partner of the same character as my wife.

[cool_chick]

Well I'm a girl. Hopefully my response is welcome.

Was married 9 1/2 years. That ended in 2/02.

I was cautious about marrying the first time. I would definitely entertain marrying a second time, but it has to be right. If it isn't right, I'm totally happy with not remarrying.

I've acquired a good radar, I don't even mess around....don't see me in a long term "bad" relationship, I get turned off by drama quick.

To clarify, this does not apply to someone on this board, who isn't even remotely "bad"......who is a fine person.

[Mule]

You want pages of answers to that question?

http://nomarriage.com/

[Rick Lee]

For you guys who've been through a divorce or two, how sure were you when you first got married that it was gonna last forever? Did you see but ignore red flags? Think it would all work itself out? Or were you 110% convinced it was gonna last forever? I'm getting married in about 6 wks. for the first time at the tender age of 36. I've had a previous engagement break up and as tough as it was, I know it would have been a lot worse had we gotten married. Please advise.

[JeremyD]

First time I got married because it seemed like the thing to do - 26 - out of school - she was pretty - college educated. The pschyo family didn't show up until after we were hitched. In all honesty - it was a 2 year relationship and a 5 year divorce. Glad there were no kids.

2nd time around - it's been great. 3 kids a dog - and 9 1/2 years later and we still love each other.

You gotta have passion - without passion - you just have a merger.

[Moneyguy1]

Men take the loss of a loved mate much harder than women do. I am a widower. At my age, I doubt I would find anyone of the same caliber.

[lendaddy]

Originally Posted by Rick Lee

For you guys who've been through a divorce or two, how sure were you when you first got married that it was gonna last forever? Did you see but ignore red flags? Think it would all work itself out? Or were you 110% convinced it was gonna last forever? I'm getting married in about 6 wks. for the first time at the tender age of 36. I've had a previous engagement break up and as tough as it was, I know it would have been a lot worse had we gotten married. Please advise.

Rick, there are many other issues to be sure but if you already have frequent arguments or even less than frequent heated arguments(very bad) then you should probably scrap it.

I know that sounds harsh but I firmly believe it, life is too short.

[Dan in Pasadena]

Married at age 23; lasted 6 weeks short of 20 years, wife comes home and wants out. No cheating, beating, drinking, drugs, money problems, raising kids problems, no verbal abuse either direction. Still can't put "why" into a single sentence.

I have been in a live in relationship for almost 8 years. Rebuilt my life with a great woman in many ways but there are some issues. We'll see what happens.

No, never remarrying. I am a "commitment" kind of guy as my track record shows. But getting married doesn't assure a damned thing. The results of my marriage shows that. Marriage (despite what many think - I thought it) doesn't assure anything. It could have been ME that came home and simply "wanted out". I'm not opposed to marriage in a general sense, but for me as a middle aged man with children raised, retirement assets, etc. it would serve no positive purpose whatsoever and MIGHT result in a huge negative in my life if it ended again.

[Dan in Pasadena]

Originally Posted by Rick Lee

For you guys who've been through a divorce or two, how sure were you when you first got married that it was gonna last forever? Did you see but ignore red flags? Think it would all work itself out? Or were you 110% convinced it was gonna last forever? I'm getting married in about 6 wks. for the first time at the tender age of 36. I've had a previous engagement break up and as tough as it was, I know it would have been a lot worse had we gotten married. Please advise.

Rick, I married at 23. At 36 you are a LOT more set in your ways. That alone would be troubling to me.

I knew even at that age that "forever" was a concept I just couldn't really understand. Still, she was my childhood sweetheart, the first girl I had made love to (yes, 20-20 hindsight makes me cringe over that too). For you it should be ENTIRELY different. Still I knew there were issues but thought they would sort of come out in the wash. Instead they sot of get diluted "in the wash" of the years but they don't go away. They come to the surface eventually.

[gassy]

I was 22 when I first got married. Too young in retrospect. (for me). We were married almost 8 yrs. My 2nd wife and I have been married almost 6 yrs now and it's great. Night and day. It's fun to be married to your best friend. I ignored a few red flags with my first wife and they didn't go away, as I was hoping they would.

[Rick Lee]

I've been engaged and close to getting married once before and almost engaged once before that. I've had plenty of great, but very difficult, gf's. Honestly, my fiance now is the easiest-to-get-along-with person I've ever met. She has a heart of gold. She's nine yrs. younger than I am. And I'm pretty sure I'm set in my ways, while there's still a chance she'll change some more. But I just have not seen any of the red flags with this one in almost three yrs. of dating, that I always saw early on but ignored with all the others. And marriage was not at all something on my must-do list. It's just that I can't imagine even wanting anyone other than the one I have now.

[Dan in Pasadena]

Originally Posted by Rick Lee

....... Honestly, my fiance now is the easiest-to-get-along-with person I've ever met. She has a heart of gold.... And marriage was not at all something on my must-do list. It's just that I can't imagine even wanting anyone other than the one I have now.

Mine had a heart of gold too, and no, I'm not trying to be sarcastic. After we divorced she hada bank account of gold (yes, I WAS being sarcastic there)

If marriage wasn't on your to do list, why is it now? Only because its the next "thing to do"? Because you want kids together (no argument with that reason)? Just curious.

I am NOT a kindred spirit to Tom Leykis. Too many guys don't "get" that he's doing a SHOW! But I don't really see why; other than children, a guy needs to get married. You can be entirely faithful and devoted to this woman that you love without a piece of paper that doesn't assure anything really. Oh wait, it DOES assure there will be bigger financial ramifications if your love affair ever ends.