I am tierd of just floating
 

Here I am sitting in a local coffee shop. I always come in here for the same barista. She is beautiful. I think I am going to give her my number and see if she wants to hang out. I am tierd of going to the bars and being successful.

Time to jump back into a new relation$hip?:confused:

Don't worry Tom. She already knows you're into her. Just try not to say anything stupid, and good luck!

You can post a picture of her along with your CRAZY spring break chicks.:cool:


Oh, and don't worry; when you get older, "successful" doesn't really mean the same thing.

I can't believe I just said that.

Any woman that brings you coffee is worth keeping around for a while.

Free coffee. I love this chick. I am hooked.

Tom needs to catch up and post pics. I say we give him 12 hours and if no pics, then ban for a week. :cool:

I am tired of going to the bars and being shot down.

There is no downside,

As long as you have a backup coffeeshop.

That coffees not really free brother....

I second the motion.

PICS OR BAN!

Also - for future reference your posts of this nature should read something like:

"Hey guys, check out the pics of this hot chick I just totally hooked up with because I'm not too much of a pansy to giver her my number!"

Giving your number is a bit presumptuous? Or is it my age showing here? If I were in the same situation I'd make a positive move. Like, let's go somewhere. Wanna go for a ride in my car? (oops, I see you're restoring the car.) Well, anyway, get out of the coffee shop with her in tow.

How about getting a fizzy pop down at the fountain shop. 1 pop and 2 straws :)

Speedy:)

Whoo boy! That's sure showing your age! :D

A little. Giving your number is considered nicer than asking for hers, because you could be some crazy lunatic stalker and now you've got her number and can harass her. Especially creepy since he already knows where he works. This also lets her off the hook for coming up with a fake number. :)

So you give her yours, and if she calls she calls, if she doesn't no harm done.

Come on Tom, we're living vicariously through you where are the pics? Ah, to be in college again :D

Actually, the battle over who gives who a number is as old as the telephone.

But who cares, just say "hey, I'd like to get to know you better (naked), What can we do to make it happen (naked)?"

Whisper the (naked) part.

Of course I might be kidding...

I don't really think you should give her your number - you seem like the kind of guy who should post a 'missed connection' on Craigslist and see if it pans out.

Or just smile, see if she smiles back - if she does and it isn't busy in the shop try and strike up a conversation with her. If it is busy, try not to be a creep.

ok i'll snap a pic with the phone tomm and act like i am texting. Sounds like a plan.

Thats funny Dave because I live vicariously through you guys. Redbluff has turned into my proving ground.

careful with that sort of talk

I always give them a card

Well Tom, whats the news???

You should have asked her by now!

Come on Texas boy! Make us proud!!!

(at least steal a picture of her on your phone for us....;-)

Dude,

A few common mistakes being said here


1> Firstly, talk to her, get some conversation going, no cheeesy chat up lines. BUT most of all be VERY confident, even if you feel like a pussy inside ! women love that, keep any conversation light and freindly, NO negativity, dont put yourself down.

2> DO NOT, REPEAT DO NOT GIVE HER YOUR NUMBER, get her's. that way you have to ring her and nail her down, otherwise, you'll be waiting by the phone like a sap !

Women like a challange , you need to make yourself a man of mystery. even in the conversations you have with her, keep it light but myseterious.

3> ASK HER OUT,

i) you must ask her
ii) nail her down for a time and a date.
iii) she's doing you a favour NOT the other way around, thats how you must come across, but NOT arrogantly

iv) When you ask her out like this, you’re not giving her the option to let you down gently by saying she already has plans.

If she says, “Yes, that might be nice,” you can immediately follow it up with something like, “OK, which day works best for you?”

If she still finds a way to avoid making concrete plans, you should move on to another girl at this point because she clearly isn’t interested.

Offering to buy her dinner lets her know that this is a date, not merely a friendly get-together.


trust me, some of the advise here is cack.

it's her interest level in you that matters, not how much of an interest level you have in her !


Playing hard to get is what Chicks try to do to us, but they know men GENERALLY don't we get sooo excited by the fact a piece of skirt has looked at us, we give up our power to them, THEN they play with us.

You manipulate her, play hard to get, be a little illusive, if your allways there (like why... ????) dont go there for a few day's see if she notices if she asks, keep it light a joky but keep it mysterious..

"Yeah, I've not been a round for a few days, I'm on a secret mission, of course I'd have to shoot you if I told you.. maybe I can explain it over a drink???"

for example

I am going to be honest...I am pretty good at this. Been striking up conversations with her for the past week. This place can get really slow during the day so it's easy to just chat with whoever is working. Am going out tonight and will invite her out with some friends. (naked)

The "wisdom" we accumulate over the years that separates us old farts from the nitwit younger punks is.....pathetic. Basic. Hard to believe it took us this long to figure out such simple principles.

Trust me on this one: Walk up to the counter and use my most clever pick-up line. Say "Hi."

Then tell her you find her very attractive. Tell her she's been on your mind lately and you'd really like to spend some time with her. Then hand her your card. Don't take your eyes off hers during this entire discussion.

Trust me.

I am a college student...we don't exactly carry cards.

Maybe it's time to start. Show her what a trendsetter you are.

When I was dating, I did the opposite. I don't want to pin her down, or make her feel uncomfortable. That's what creepy guys do, not respectful guys.

By intentionally asking if she wanted to go with me to something specific, on short notice ("Tonite I'm going to...... Would you like to join me?") I am giving her an easy out, but more importantly, I can read her body language to see if she is interested. If she is very apologetic for not being able to go on short notice, it leaves the door open for future opportunities. Maybe plan something right there on the spot that does work for her.

If she quickly says "No that won't work", you know it's time to find a new coffee shop.

The best outcome is when she says "yes, I'd love to", and drops what she's doing. Spontaneous dates can be the most fun.

YMMV.

Tell her that her pants look nice on her, but they'd look better on your floor.
Christian.

Did it hurt...........when you fell from heaven?

Ha you guys trying to get me laid or smacked?

just bend her over the coffee grinder and have your way with her. Chicks dig that.

If I recall correctly, BRP has posted some rather choice pictures of women he's "dated". I doubt he needs advice picking up women from a bunch of old married guys.;)

It's getting tougher and tougher Matt. The more you "talk" to the more other chicks spread the word. Sometimes this just works to my advantage though.

A few years ago (pre-marriage) when I still lived with roommates, two of them worked in an upscale restraunt in Manhattan, KS. Major college town, home of KSU. Anyway, one of them was a bartender/waiter, he seriously looked like Justin Timberlake. Needless to say, he had no trouble with the ladies. After he had hooked up with damn near every hot waitress in that place, he finally had to quit because none of his coworkers would talk to him.:D It's pretty bad when the new girls hear about him before he even meets them. Even better, roommate #2 was a cook at the same place, and he would hear all of the ***** talking about roommate #1. Good times......

For the most part, I agree with Superman's advice, and most of Adrian's. Simply giving a woman you are interested in your phone# is a major pussy move. It says right off the bat that you assume you have not made enough of an impression on her that she would give you her #. It's passive-aggressiveness at its worst. What if she never calls, (she won't), and now WTF is your next move as you stalk her every day at her work? You have to remember, she has no choice but to be there and it's her job to be nice to the customers. I'm not saying that you are that guy, but I've had friends who mistake a waitress's outgoing personality for interest in them when there was absolutely none.

Your best move is #1, stop going there everyday immediately. Like disappear for two weeks. Then stop in and see just how much she really missed you. You'll know. Plus, there is a funny thing in the female psyche that wants what is not readily available every flipping morning for 2 hours. Her interest in you will be piqued w/o having to use some cheeky BS line about secret missions. Women hate lines. Period. Unless they're really stupid. Is she stupid? Different advice may apply, I'm not into stupid chicks, so I would not know.

You have to give women, (and people in general), the respect of not treating them like they are stupid. Even the average woman doesn't need a hammer over the head to realise when a guy wants to boink them. It's part of their instinct. So she knows it, you know it, all that's left is being polite about the situation and not being a stalker. My advice, (and believe me it's worked), is instead of asking for a phone#, ask her out right there in the shop. And this is the biggest part: have an activity already planned that she would want to do. She will say yes, especially if it's relatively safe, ie. do not ask her to go camping in the desert w/ you. The only downside to this plan is that it can backfire in a strange way, if the activity is too irresistible to her, (3rd row tickets to her favorite band), she will accept even if she thinks you are a twit and you'll get played bigtime. You want to determine right off the bat if her interest is mutual, or move on to the next girl. As Wayne said, life is short.

Ask her to a stand-up comedy show, if you have those in your town. While talking to her, ask innocently, do you like stand-up comedy? (Or baseball games, etc.)? If she says yes, immediately go for the close and ask if she would like to go to one w/ you in the very near future. (Have a day ready). If she asks "what day?", this is a crucial moment. She might be looking to weasel-out, but she might be really into it but have a busy schedule. Ask her what day she can go, (there are plenty of ball games and comedy shows), but either get the date or forget it. If she answers that she doesn't like baseball, but "why do you ask", just say, "oh nothing. I was going to ask you out to one..." It will go somewhere from there.

Always remember, there are only three possible answers when you ask a woman out. Yes, no, and "are you f**king kidding me??"...

Good luck! :)

EDIT: Dantilla siad it better than me, but at the same time.

Answer #4 is a taser.

You guys are good.

Fixed that for you.

bahahaha

"You know what would look good on you?"

"ME!!!"

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Either that or compliment her on her choice of footwear. Chicks love their shoes. They love it when a guy notices. Try, "hey, nice shoes - wanna' f*ck?"

Or there's always some comment about how you find it hot the way she wipes down the steamer nozzle on the espresso machine.

Or not. I dunno. I suck at this stuff. I'm glad I'm married & out of this game. If I were single today I'd either be arrested or maced on a regular basis I guess.

Best of luck however you decide to approach this.

I am far from being a Texas Boy. Born and raised half my life in North Jersey, then 8 more years in Louisiana, and now 1 1/2 years here in Texas. I have learned one very important thing. The girls are just so much hotter in the South.

Cue 3...2...1 Dr. Phil!