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Today's Wifely Moment
My wife has been out of town for the past week, making the rounds and visiting the staff in her Eastern Washington offices. One of the last things she did before she left was to run me to the doc to have some minor oral surgery performed. Everything went fine; no problems, and my mouth is actually feeling pretty good now, after a week of recovery.
So, not knowing what time she would be getting home today (and actually getting out of the office at a reasonable time myself) I decided it might be a good afternoon to hang some new brake shoes on the '70 Beetle. It all went well (for as dirty and grimy of a job as it is) and I was just wrapping up when her Soob pulls up the driveway. There I am, under the back of the Bug and dirty as hell, adjusting the rear shoes as my kid was sitting in the car to pump the brakes and center them up. Tools scattered everywhere; old brake shoes laying about; typical working on the car scene. "Hi honey. How is your mouth? Have you been back in yet to see the dentist again? Have you been using the rinse? Are the stitches coming out yet? Did it hurt the next day? Did you work today? Did the pain meds help? Yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah...." "Hey Chris, pump 'em one more time." "O.k. dad." "Did you even hear me? Are you listening to me?" "Uh.... what??" I'm kinda busy right now. Can't you see I'm trying to get this done?" "Oh. I see. Your car is more important than your teeth. That's what I get for caring..." And she stomps into the house all in a huff. "I'm gonna roll over and do the other side now, Chris." "O.k. dad." So I go inside after Chris and I cleaned up and put everything away. "Now what was all of that about my teeth?" "Nothing. Never mind. Go back to working on your damn car..." Sigh....
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HA! Yeah that's never happened at my house
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So you are out of town for a week. You come back home and your wife is busy fixing something in the house. You ask her about her dental appointment, show concern. Instead, she ignores you and talks to your daughter.
WTF?
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Jeffy Jeffy Jeffy..Ya shoulda jumped up from underneath the car and gave her a great big hug and told her how much ya missed her and loved her...Now you will be lucky to get any for the next ........
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I will assume you get along with your wife as well as I get along with mine. An event like you describe would be looked at much differently on a first date than after X# of years of being married. Jim
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My wife would do the same thing. Rather than saying "That's abnormal, weird, and unpleasant," I've come to accept it. In the interest of keeping peace in the house, I try to avoid situations likes that one. If she's intent on showing concern while I'm in the middle of something I can't put down, I stop for a second, apologize, and say that she's important, and explain the situation. Then I give her a time when I'll be available -- "Honey, I'm sorry I can't talk right now -- if I don't finish this job now we'll lose the last 2 hours. It'll be another 15 minutes, then can we catch up?"
If she's still angry with me at that point, I don't feel bad. I did my part. At least I didn't totally ignore her, right? But then, I'm still learning how to keep the peace. Good luck. Dan
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I've never figured this stuff out. That's why I'm in the middle of my second divorce.
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The correct answer is ALWAYS "I'm sorry dear, of course you're right and I was wrong. What can I do to make this up to you."
I've got 10+ years of successful marriage to substantiate this. The corollary to that is to realize that no matter what you do, it'll be wrong, so you might as well do what you want anyway! Just don't let the warden know that!
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05-31-2008, 04:50 AM
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5 minutes is all they really need! Next time, just show her you care by stopping what you're doing. If you're all grimy and dirty, give her a big hug and show her you are in the mood. Since you are dirty she won't want to get close to you. At that point, you can sneak back to what you were doing. Meanwhile, she'll feel good because she knows you wanted to be close to her. Only takes 5 minutes. Now you're going to be out for a few hours, at least a $100 bucks for dinner, $40 to your son for his help and to get out of the house tonight, and you better save your energy for some good sex before your son comes home.
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[wife is gone for a full week, other side of country. Your first words upon her return......]
"Uh.... what??" I'm kinda busy right now. Can't you see I'm trying to get this done?" Classic! You guys make your own beds I swear. No cratch for you, two weeks!
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I used to feel like her after being gone for a week, but I never knew if it was my fault or that of my ex.
 It really does suck.I'm no expert but I think you need to figure out your priorities - the car, or the car AND a marriage. Play it right and maybe you can have both. Like they said, it should only takes five minutes when you are in the middle of something. |
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It's going to be a long weekend for you jeff. Start "damage control" as soon as possible. Good luck.
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If she cared about you she would of jumped into the drivers seat and immediately started pumping the brakes for you but not before she ran into the kitchen and grabbed you an ice cold beer.
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What a nerve!!! Keep lying under the car when the wife comes home! You should have been up in second, give her a hug, sat her down in the sofa, served her a cup of coffee, asked about her day, looked her in the eyes, told her how beautiful she is and how you have thought of her all day long, eagerly waiting for her to come home.
I wouldn´t, but hey I get this all the time.
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