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Sorry for your loss, she looked really proud of you in that picture.
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So sorry to hear of this loss Mike. It is every parent's dream that their children "turn out good"...You can tell in that picture the love both of you had for each other.
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Know exactly how you feel, what you describe is almost exactly the same thing that happened with my Father.
Sorry for your loss....
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I'm sorry for your loss Mike, she must have been very proud of you, mom's live for your achievements, so I'm sure you were with her more than you might think.
It's always better to be making memories with your parents than to just have memories of them.
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sorry for the loss.
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Mike, we share some things......
I'm taking care of my mom during her last days. We both serve. Good on all accounts to you. You cherished your mom and 'nuff said. |
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Do U feel guility that if you had called it might have made a difference? Or do U feel that U would like to have said I love you one last time? Or Both?
I personally feel U did the best U could. She knew you loved her...that you cared for her. There is one he11 of a hole where she once stood...in your whole life she was always in your life..and now she is gone. U may think I will give her a call and talk to her, only to realize you can't. At those moments you would like to grab it back, only to realize your only grabbing at air. The first year is the toughest, because you will be thinking only last month....only last Christmas...after the first year the hole starts to fill in as life goes on. Give yourself the time, you will know when to get up off the chair, cause you won't want to be sitting there anymore.
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May God richly bless and comfort you.
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So very sorry for your loss.
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07-07-2010, 12:22 PM
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I've killed half of the earth population..
puppies and kittens fear my name... I'm planning something for that other half... and my Mom would proclaim... he's a good man... as your Mom surely did often..! you can see how proud she was.. Rika |
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Mike, I am so sorry to hear of you loss. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family.
Michael
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07-07-2010, 12:41 PM
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It hits hard. Sorry for your loss AND that is a GREAT photo of you and your mom.
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Just saw this Mike, sorry for your loss, but it sounds like your mom lived her life to the fullest, and you've got to admire that. I know that doesn't help, but you shoiuld celebrate her life.
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07-07-2010, 06:03 PM
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My condolences, Mike...she was a beautiful lady. I'm sure even more so on the inside.
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07-07-2010, 06:27 PM
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She passed away quickly, in her sleep. That is a blessing, it may not feel like it now, but it is.
I watched my father in law die of cancer, in his home, wasted away and in great pain. You wouldn't have wanted that. Her last dreams were probably of you and of how proud she was.
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My condolences as well. You did absolutely nothing wrong calling on one day and not the other. You were a good son, you made her life worth living. People live for their kids, especially when they turn out good like you.
Please continue your habit of checking-in here often...
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Thanks for posting such a thoughtful message. I will call my mom today.
Godspeed on the healing process.
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Thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers. When we met with the minister yesterday, I was reminded of all of the great things that Mom did throughout her life and how many lives were touched by her. As a hairdresser in a "small town" like Huntsville, she always knew when someone needed help and she was the first person there to help with whatever needed to be done. If you knew my mom, you never would be hungry because she was ALWAYS cooking for someone that wasn't able to care for themselves. She was a close friend to the majority of her clients and whenever a client passed away, she would insist of taking care of their hair "pro bono".
I was also reminded of what she gave of herself as a single parent raising three children. I was going through some of her files last night and I found a receipt for a Raleigh Record bike that she bought for me back in back in 74 (she didn't throw away ANYTHING) and it reminded me of how much she sacrificed for me and my siblings. A hairdresser back in the 70's didn't make a too much money but she did manage to raise us in a great neighborhood with greats schools....although we didn't have a lot of "nice" things, we did have a great mother who loved and cared for her children more than anything. I ask that you continue to pray for the family but also for me.....I'm trying to gather the courage to speak about Mom during her memorial service tomorrow and I'm praying for the strength to make it through without falling apart.
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Mike,
Will do and while I can tell you that it does get easier with time, it takes a long time before the tears end. I had part of the job of going through my Mothers effects, and all of my Fathers things. It brings back a lot of memories, most good and some not so good. Take care of the things and move along. Share her effects with the whole family so that they have something to remember her by. Enjoy the good times you had with her and do what she would want you all to do, and be as much like her as you can. Joe A
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