So if you run into an old GF, do you tell your wife or SO about it?

2porscheguy · 2porscheguy's Garage

Many of my old GFs (or girls that I dated before meeting my now wife) have, over the years, become my patients as I have now been in practice for 30 years. So I see them and now their kids and SOs on a fairly regular basis as patients...about every two or three years on average. As a result, I've witnessed them "aging" and for a lot of them, it has not been very kind to say the least!....especially the smokers!

I would say that out of say 15 (that I can remember off hand) of these ladies, only one stands out....we are talking just physical beauty here....but that one has a lot of baggage, has been married a bunch of times and is generally very high maintenance!

I would have to say that, though I am somewhat biased, my wife has stood the test of time very well!...she is still a very attractive, "hot" woman at 53!...and has a great head on her shoulders..we are very happy with each other, even after 23 years of marriage.

And so, in my case, I do tell her when I run into an old "flame".

Yesterday, a lady that I dated once or twice back in '85 or '86 came in for an eye examination....I hadn't seen her in ten years....whoah! I didn't even recognize her! .....still smokes!!!....gawd!... I can smell her from a mile away!

So last night, as we sat down to watch the news, I got down on my knees, took my wife's hand, looked into her eyes and proclaimed: "I'm so glad I married you!"

She giggles and says: "Again? Who did you see this time?".....LOL!

What do you guys do? Tell or STFU? OR does it depend on how hot the old GF is?!?

gacook · gacook's Garage

Depends on the seriousness of the relationship. My wife has a slight tendency toward jealousy, so for the most part, I keep hush about running into people I once "knew."

Nostril Cheese · 08-01-2014, 01:38 PM

My wife isnt jealous in the slightest bit about anything. I dont think I could put up with a partner who got jealous.

onewhippedpuppy · 08-01-2014, 01:49 PM

I would mention it, but only due to the low odds of that ever happening.

stomachmonkey · 08-01-2014, 01:53 PM

The girl I was dating just before I met my wife was at our wedding.

In fact it was my wife who asked if I wanted to invite her.

When people heard about it they'd ask my wife "....and you're OK with it?"

She'd respond, "yeah, they are over, it's why he's marrying me and not her, if I can't trust him then I should not be marrying him"

fastfredracing · 08-01-2014, 01:56 PM

Are you mad? heck no. Do you accept friend requests from them on facebook?

URY914 · URY914's Garage

Never ever. Why even go there?

GH85Carrera · GH85Carrera's Garage

My former girlfriends are all still dead and buried as far as I know.

sc_rufctr · 08-01-2014, 02:07 PM

Generally I would advise against telling your wife anything about your past relationships.

IME... Women often read things into what comes out of our mouths and that can become skewed to say the least.
..... and (I know I may get flamed for writing this) Women are more emotional than men and often get hurt by something that wouldn't have any effect a man.

So don't do it would be my final advise.

It's all about looking after your relationship and you're not being dishonest by not telling her.

rfloz · 08-01-2014, 02:13 PM

Yes. Or else you run the risk someone else will tell her and then you will have to explain why you failed to mention it.

tedg04 · tedg04's Garage

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Originally Posted by rfloz

Yes. Or else you run the risk someone else will tell her and then you will have to explain why you failed to mention it.

Yep.

gacook · gacook's Garage

Funny story. The current wife and I got married in Vegas. She is horrified of crowds, so just the 2 of us and a few friends for the ceremony. On the plane, the woman sitting across the aisle from us was my first "serious" girlfriend; still the one I wonder occasionally about if I shouldn't have let her get away--hadn't seen her in at least 10 years. Of course, we chatted for a couple minutes. When my wife asked where I knew her from, my response was "We went to high school together."

Sometimes, I actually CAN be a little smart

porsche4life · porsche4life's Garage

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Originally Posted by rfloz

Yes. Or else you run the risk someone else will tell her and then you will have to explain why you failed to mention it.

This, or a derivation there of...

The guys who say no way don't tell her... Well, you're idiots...

Ferraripete · Ferraripete's Garage

no.

Rick V · 08-01-2014, 02:33 PM

Sure, why not? My wife has met most of them and even the one who I consider the one that got away. Thirty years being with my wife has reminded me of how glad that chick got away. We are facebook friends, we run into her and her husband all the time and there is no issues. I guess my wife and I are both very secure in our relationship and I doubt we would have been together this long if we weren't.

sc_rufctr · 08-01-2014, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by porsche4life

This, or a derivation there of...

The guys who say no way don't tell her... Well, you're idiots...

You're an idiot if you tell her. Why even mention it?

If someone tells her, just say... "it wasn't important so I didn't think it was worth mentioning"

onewhippedpuppy · 08-01-2014, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by sc_rufctr

You're an idiot if you tell her. Why even mention it?

If someone tells her, just say... "it wasn't important so I didn't think it was worth mentioning"

Because a jealousy speedbump becomes an atomic bomb if she thinks you hid it from her.

fastfredracing · 08-01-2014, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by porsche4life

This, or a derivation there of...

The guys who say no way don't tell her... Well, you're idiots...

Says the guy who's gf may be peeking in at any moment.....
I guess all relationships have a different dynamic, I have learned what buttons not to push . I can see no positives coming from this in my situation.

sc_rufctr · 08-01-2014, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy

Because a jealousy speedbump becomes an atomic bomb if she thinks you hid it from her.

Actually if you think about it you didn't do anything wrong by not telling her.

Assuming the relationship is over and because it's over and you've moved on it has no bearing on your current one.
Therefore there is no reason to tell your current partner anything.

I sometimes wonder if men provoke problems subconsciously by doing stupid things like this.

And again.... "it wasn't important so I didn't think it was worth mentioning"

varmint · 08-01-2014, 03:09 PM

i work in a very narrow field that is 90% male. and at one time or another i dated the 10%. this means i cannot escape my exes. last week had a two hour call with a girl i used to live with. maybe 30 minutes was related to the project. the rest was just bull****ting. i cannot just hang up because she is feeding me work.

the current girlfrind is sitting in the next room the whole time getting increasingly irritated.