Now what?

[Gogar]

WAIT LET'S START OVER.

Originally Posted by 1975porsche

Yesterday I get a text from an old girlfriend (35 years ago) she would like to meet for a drink, should I go? She has no kids younger than 27 so not that, very curious.!!!

Why (how) does she have your phone number?

I'm calling BS.

[Evans, Marv]

Like Joe Bob said, "What could happen?" Years ago (I wasn't married then), my old HS GF got in touch with me after not seeing her for ten years. We met for what I considered a sort of social visit. Turns out she had other plans and came on strong to which I gave in. I got the only case of clap I've had in my life. Maybe you could suggest you could both have a good talk at the next class reunion, if you both went to the same HS.

[Tobra]

What did your wife say about it?

No, not you Marv.

[GH85Carrera]

Originally Posted by recycled sixtie

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In your situation I would suggest taking your wife along. You do value your marriage right? Now turn it around and your wife wanted to see an old boyfriend would you want to be asked to go along or not?

The grass is not always greener on the other side. There was a good reason why you broke up before with the old flame.

This.

I once heard the best definition of "cheating" boiled down to a single sentence.

Any romantic or sexual contact you would not want your spouse to know about, or similar contact for the spouse that you would not allow your spouse to have.

You should first and foremost tell your wife right away that an old girlfriend contacted you. If you are uncomfortable even mentioning that, stay away from the ex girlfriend.

If you honestly think the old girlfriend just wants to chat, bring your wife to the meeting.

[fastfredracing]

Hey, I dunno know guys, may be a good thing for him. I recently did some work for an old Girlfriend, ( I told my wife ) , and after she picked up her car and left, all I could think was " god damn, I love my lady, and I am a lucky guy " . Glad I am where I am at now

[FLYGEEZER]

If........I were going to do it I don't think talking about it to anyone about it would be to any advantage. Specially here.

[911boost]

I agree with everyone that is saying no.

Or you can just go ahead and punch yourself in the ballsack, thats about what the eventual outcome will feel like if you go.

[aigel]

I didn't have time to respond in detail earlier. A few things that come to mind ...

It has been about 20-30 years for me when I was single. Every old flame or attractive girl that I used to know back then and have run into again since have turned into average, plump, mid aged boring women. If I ever was going to step out on my wife (which is absolutely not the plan), it sure as hell would not be with a woman my age.

Time has moved on and those GF memories are best left in your head the way you remember them. There is a snowball's chance in hell you will be able to rekindle any of it, especially if you are happily married.

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[ckelly78z]

This all reminds me of that Garth Brooks song "Thank God for unanswered prayers".

It's a shame you couldn't see what kind of a trainwreck she looks like, and what sort of crazy she has, it very well may be the thing that keeps you and your wife happy.

[Joe Bob]

I've hit up 10 oldies and hit .900. They also had fun. Good times and I see them and communicate with the regularly. No worries.....of course I am single...

[ckelly78z]

Originally Posted by Joe Bob

I've hit up 10 oldies and hit .900. They also had fun. Good times and I see them and communicate with the regularly. No worries.....of course I am single...

And they aren't single, but you don't see a problem with that ?

[Joe Bob]

Why should I? But for the record they were....

[1975porsche]

She texted me through face book, not about to go looking for strange at this point in life , very happy with home life. Just thought why she is contacting me after all these years.

[Gogar]

Yeah. You can write a nice reply if you want but otherwise ignore it. Especially if you like your wife happy.

Trust also that you're probably one of 15 messages she sent.


In addition, any wife or girlfriend who says she's 'ok with it' is just handing you a rope.

[kach22i]

Originally Posted by recycled sixtie

In your situation I would suggest taking your wife along.

Good idea, either take your wife along or don't tell her at all, there is no middle ground.

[VillaRicaGA911]

Obviously I don't know you nor do you know me. I had a similar thing happen to me about 5 years ago. A girl (cheerleader at Oregon no less) that I hooked up with for a week while she came to Germany to visit her sister that was in the Army at the same base as I and we went on a long weekend trip to Rome together (you can fill in the details on your own). Somehow found my number and called me out of the blue. All I can see is I am a different man now than I was then. I don't know if you go to church or are close to the all mighty but His word is clear for a reason.
If it has the appearance of evil flee from it, which is what I did. I recommend the same to you sir.

[Tobra]

I was on facebook for a while. I had old flames telling me they were going to be in town and wanting to go out for a drink fairly often. No thank you.

[sc_rufctr]

There's no need to over analyse this situation.

You're ex wants to catch up. Big deal but your wife wont understand if you tell her. That's just how women are.
Would that stop me seeing her? NO... As I wrote before curiosity would get the better of me. I'd have to go.

Should you go? That's entirely up to YOU but I would suggest that you go. Life is short!

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About 4 years ago I accidentally met up with the sister of an ex GF from more than 10 years ago.
I always liked "the sister" so we went on a dinner date.

My ex GF found out about it and she sent me an abusive email! Note this is 10 years after we broke up!

(The dinner date, We had fun but nothing came of it but we're friends on Faceplant so occasionally I see the ex's comments on "the sister" news feed... lol)

[Heel n Toe]

[targa911S]

that Gogar guy is pretty smart....