"Can I get a..."

[speeder]

Alternate title: The Death of Manners.

Maybe it's always been this way but people just seem like mooks these days. Ordering food just now and the ladies next to me, (plenty old, BTW), says, "and can I get a Pastrami on rye?", or something.

I don't know, lady. Can you?

The nuns would have slapped the teeth out of my mouth if they ever heard me talk like that back in grade school. Same with, "I'll do a...", while ordering food. WTF is wrong w people? And I hear it from Beverly Hills to the 'hood.

And GTFO my lawn, while you're at it.

[Baz]

TNN

(the new normal)

[ckelly78z]

Laziness, and a self entitled belief that they are an important person.

[KFC911]

The musta never played "Mother, may I" as a youngin'

I was taught to say please and thank you, use Sir and Ma'am without thinking....a good friend's wife was sort of insulted (not really) when I said "yes ma'am" one time....she ain't from around here

My peeve...

Thank you!

...No problem

Now get off my lawn!!!

[drcoastline]

The person may have been trying to be funny? From your post I would assume not, just being a smart azz.

Over all you are correct. Things like manners, respect, kindness, etc. aren't taught or demanded any longer. In fact it is frowned upon if you demand them. Society in general has been dumbed down,. The nuns aren't allowed to slap the teeth out of your mouth any longer, Neither is your dad. There was a time when mom said "wait till your father gets home". Huh! now you're a lucky kid if you know who your father is.

Respect, manners etc. aren't taught or demanded any longer. There was a time people strove to be better. Now it is a race to the bottom.

My daughters mother and I have been separated many, many years. I have spent most her (my daughters) life in family court. Mind you my opponent was not my Ex but the "system". So any way, after years of battle I some what prevailed. I regained 50/50 time and I am the custodial parent. I believe in proper etiquette, speech, manners, and so on. One of my pet peeves is chewing with your mouth open, speaking with food in your mouth, not placing your napkin on your lap and holding your utensils properly.

So just two weeks ago we are out to breakfast. My daughter is holding her fork on the third finger down and backward. Now we have been through this countless times. So I watch, and I watch, and I watch to see if she corrects it. Finally I tell her to stop eating and look at the way she is holding her fork and to hold it properly. She explodes and says You ruin every meal. That's how I hold it.

Now get off my frickin lawn

EDIT: That was the end of breakfast. I got the check and we left. Don't hold the fork properly and you won't eat.

I told you to get off my Frickin lawn.

[Baz]

Originally Posted by drcoastline

---snip--- She explodes and says You ruin every meal. That's how I hold it.

---snip---

Take some satisfaction in knowing one day she will be grateful you cared enough to give her this discipline.

That's how it works.

Keep up the good fight, sir...

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by drcoastline

....

So just two weeks ago we are out to breakfast. My daughter is holding her fork on the third finger down and backward. Now we have been through this countless times....

I just quit eating with my fingers a few years back, but I don't even know what you mean by "backward"? It's a fork, and I'm lefty though....

I'm quite sure I'm probably doing it "wrong"

[cashflyer]

Sometimes stuff like this bothers me. Sometimes I think, what ****ing difference does it make.

You're born. You muddle through life. You die.

When you're in the ground, will people be standing around talking about your perfect diction and manners?

Will a teenage girl holding her fork in a way that somebody deems 'proper' help to end world suffering? Or does it just show that she can be trained, like a dog?

[Baz]

[matthewb0051]

Originally Posted by speeder

Alternate title: The Death of Manners.

"and can I get a Pastrami on rye?", or something.

My personal (not) favorite: can I get XXX WHEN YOU GET A CHANCE

It is their job. So what difference does it make if they have a chance? You ask for something they bring it plain and simple. Just say please.

BTW, my lovely wife says this...

[recycled sixtie]

I think the headline is minor. Just have decent manners. Forget the f word and treat others the way you would want to be treated. I don't know anybody that lives in a Downton Manor scenario.

[sammyg2]

Me:
"I'll have the steak."

Waiter:
"how would you like your steak cooked?"

Me" Yeah, that'd be great. Thanks".



ba da bump.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by sammyg2

Waiter:
"how would you like your steak cooked?"

Me" Yeah, that'd be great. Thanks".

Comas save lives.

[sammyg2]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

Comas save lives.

with two emmmms or one?

[flatbutt]

Table manners have always been a pet peeve of mine. I don't know if this counts as manners but I'm put off by what I refer to as "tongue eaters". People who extend their tongue allll the way out as if they need to catch each bite of their food on it.

[Don Ro]

^^^
I had a tennis buddy who did this the first time I invited him to lunch after a match.
A talented tennis player but from that point on we only played tennis.
I almost barfed at the table.
.
Edit: What I meant is that he would eat with his mouth open...as if he wanted me to see whatever was in his mouth.

[matthewb0051]

I also prefer Continental Style of utensil use over the American Style. Just don't see a reason to switch utensils from one hand to the other. Supposedly American spies were discovered in Germany during WWII just by this simple thing.

My other peeve is when someone holds a fork with the full fist like they are trying to kill the food. It is already dead.

[Holger]

^Sorry, but that is just barbaric.

[Wetwork]

If you think you have proper and good manners you're full of it, you're not even close. Two words, Emily Post.

Every time I see those books I start using the F-word like a comma.-WW

ps. OK not really, I do and have "class" as my Father puts it he-he,
sadly Emily's standards are fast becoming a lost art. But if you want to be right and proper her's are the really real rules, anything less is caveman.

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by matthewb0051

.....

My other peeve is when someone holds a fork with the full fist like they are trying to kill the food. It is already dead.

Well, stick a fork in me, I'm done

I know one thing though....if'n I get up to leave the table, I'm not gonna place my napkin on the filthy, germ ridden seat, where thousands have been parking their asses . And I don't GAF what anyone thinks of my etty...I quit....that's just gross....