What do you guys think... did I overreact?

[cashflyer]

Originally Posted by JJ 911SC

Unfortunately, I think the "Face Book", "Tweeters" and the likes has or is destroying your country. So easy to attack while hiding behind the web.

Social media platforms make it easy for people to say things they would never say IRL - whether that be threatening, trolling, etc. Or in this case, flirting. The internet gives people a certain amount of disconnection from personal responsibility.

Also... wth is a "boutique winery"?
Is that like when the grocery store has the wine over in a separate corner, by itself?

[Don Ro]

Originally Posted by pwd72s

Hell, I remember that before you married her, you considered swapping her for a weekend for the use of a Ferrari.

My answer to the original Q is a no-brainer...
but this....
.
Whoa!!! If true, that's your private life.
But why would a person share a consideration like this with the World Wide Web?
Baffling to me.

[kghjr]

Totally justified to unfriend him. She did too, right?

There is something insidious about FB that I cannot put my finger on. They were certainly duped by the Russians.

I have a bogus FB profile to check my friends' and my own security settings. I cannot believe what a whole bunch of people make public, as if they have not spent ten minutes with their security settings, or don't know how, in which case, they should not be on FB.

Your friends list, your likes list, your groups lists, your wall, your photos, your personal info, everything; it's all public by default unless you change it, item by item.

[motion]

Originally Posted by KC911

I bet Ms. Motion is perfectly capable of putting him in his place .

Yes, she certainly is

[motion]

Originally Posted by Don Plumley

Creepy.

Wait. You know two people that own boutique wineries?

Crazy eh?!

[motion]

Originally Posted by pwd72s

I think you're a bit off with loving to post pics of your attractive wife, then getting miffed if anybody reacts.

Hell, I remember that before you married her, you considered swapping her for a weekend for the use of a Ferrari.

So, are you bragging or complaining?

That was a lot of fun, what... 13 years ago? I think I had known her for a week or two. Naturally, it never happened, nor would it happen, but it was a good time

I bet I haven't posted 5 photos of her in the last 8-10 years here. I don't consider that excessive.

Not bragging... nor complaining. Wife thinks I overreacted, so I was questioning myself.

[motion]

Originally Posted by wildthing

Maybe I missed it but did your wife unfriend him too? Just making sure.

Also beyond unfriending you can block them too.

That''s 100% up to her. I haven't even asked her if she's done it.

[motion]

Bob - Why did you delete your post?

We don't put anything up that shows anything we need to hide. We don't have anything to hide in the first place. I am very selective over who I "friend". 99% of the time, its someone I know personally and am comfortable with. We used to be worried about people knowing when I was out of the country and she was home, but that became impossible to manage, so now we don't worry about it. Mrs. Motion is a tough cookie.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by Jeff Higgins

Isn't the entirety of social media all about over reacting? I don't participate in any way (other than on this forum) just because of the apparently ongoing soap opera and drama (I guess there is plenty of that here though too...).

^^^This! IMHO not just social media, texting and even email can easily be misunderstood. I read somewhere that communication is 20% words and 80% body language/facial expression/tone of voice.

[pwd72s]

Facebook and Twitter...all the money & time spent by Government to spy on people, and today?

Well, Orwell was an optimist, wasn't he?

I think I'm signed up with facebook...did sign up somewhere to be able to join the live chat that goes on during live streams of major pool tournaments. I'm pretty sure a Fed agent would get bored pretty quickly reading that. Confused too...pool has it's own jargon.

[scottmandue]

Originally Posted by cashflyer

Also... wth is a "boutique winery"?
Is that like when the grocery store has the wine over in a separate corner, by itself?

An itty bitty winery... they have always been around but it is now cool to call any small business "boutique".

When I used to do Napa/Sonoma wine tasting always hit a few big wineries... but also fun to stop at the little guys, hand painted sign out by the road, drive up the gravel road to an old barn to find two guys and a dog sitting at a picnic table with cases of wine.

[Gogar]

Just remember that
Every time you READ something it's very easy to apply your preferred emotion to it.
Something bland can upset you because your brain naturally wants to run with it.

So, yeah he did something slightly goofy but that's about it. Highly unlikely he meant anything at all by it. Let your wife handle it.

[masraum]

Originally Posted by Gogar

Just remember that
Every time you READ something it's very easy to apply your preferred emotion to it.
Something bland can upset you because your brain naturally wants to run with it.

So, yeah he did something slightly goofy but that's about it. Highly unlikely he meant anything at all by it. Let your wife handle it.

ding, ding, ding.

Even the "(paraphrasing here)" part could have paraphrased in a way that made it seem creepier than it actually was because of your gut reaction.

When I have a strong reaction to something, especially if it's negative and especially if it's via some form of text without the benefit of personal interaction, I try to step back and wonder if there was a way that I could have misinterpretted what I read.

[speeder]

Who uses FB anymore anyhow? I'm thinking that it's huge in nursing homes.

[javadog]

So he asks to be friended, and as soon as he is he sends his first message. Innocent? Misunderstood? Nahhh...

If you think the message is innocuous, just look at the timing.

[masraum]

Originally Posted by javadog

So he asks to be friended, and as soon as he is he sends his first message. Innocent? Misunderstood? Nahhh...

If you think the message is innocuous, just look at the timing.

?? Yeah. WHen you have just connected with someone, they are at the forefront of your mind, and you're likely to immediately have some sort of interaction with them. That's just natural.

If I meet someone, I'm not going to then ignore them for several months and then hit them up out of the blue.

[DanielDudley]

Sometimes you need to send a clear signal just so your wife gets that you have limits.

[sammyg2]

Facebook?

lol

[javadog]

Originally Posted by masraum

If I meet someone, I'm not going to then ignore them for several months and then hit them up out of the blue.

How many married women do you interact with on a regular basis on Facebook? How many of your friends wives do you interact with, without your friend also being involved?

[Gogar]

I interact with plenty of my friends' wives on Facebook, but they are actual real first person neighborhood friends, so motion's situation is not the same.