What do you guys think... did I overreact?

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[motion]

Originally Posted by javadog

So he asks to be friended, and as soon as he is he sends his first message. Innocent? Misunderstood? Nahhh...

If you think the message is innocuous, just look at the timing.

That's what got me revved up about this... it was premeditated. Definitely not just an off-hand comment.

[javadog]

Well then, you have your answer.

I think you got it right.

[LakeCleElum]

Originally Posted by javadog

How many married women do you interact with on a regular basis on Facebook? How many of your friends wives do you interact with, without your friend also being involved?

I interact with a lot of friends wives. BUT, I always take the high road.

[john70t]

Accept it as a compliment, or pity him as sub-beta, but just go to it sluggo.
Your wife needs him to balance a baguette on his nose to make sure the message is legit.

(Hey enough with the jealousy. Not everyone can be as attractive as I am. Or as humble and modest.)

[rusnak]

That is very odd behavior. I always wear leg and face protection when weed wacking.

[Craig T]

Originally Posted by javadog

How many married women do you interact with on a regular basis on Facebook? How many of your friends wives do you interact with, without your friend also being involved?

Motion, Javadog sums it up perfectly here ^^^. Your original post asks if you overreacted. I'm a fairly pragmantic person, secure in my marriage, and not jealous by nature. My initial response would have been similar to yours.

This board has contrarians and antagonists who would contradict a blue sky for the simple sake or agreement. Unfriend the azzhole and forgitaboutit.

[Tobra]

No, you did not over react.

[sugarwood]

Originally Posted by motion

"I hope your husband takes you on some of his trips, seeing as how he's always off running around the world."

That is a blatant fishing attempt trying to pit her against you, and giving her the opening to start complaining about you.

[HardDrive]

100% justified.

[Jims5543]

Originally Posted by motion

That's what got me revved up about this... it was premeditated. Definitely not just an off-hand comment.

Damn son, you spawned a few threads from this incident.


I am in 100% agreement with you, this has nothing to do with your trust in your SO, it seems you are perfectly comfortable there. This has EVERYTHING to do with respect, and lack thereof.

For some A hole to come along, friend request then fish around like that, shows lack of class and lack of respect and someone I would not want to be associated with.

A lifetime ago you had a blog, I followed you, I thought it was awesome then it was gone. I was bummed, but I knew why, the internets are crawling with some really wacked people and it was probably safer for you to shut that down.

I feel the same way about FUbook I deleted my account years ago, it is bad news.

When I go on trips now, I do not say a word until I return then post pics on IG AFTER I am home, no need to tell the world I am away.

Plus much easier to collect my thoughts and post pics I feel are relevant.

Keep living life, tell the world on delay.

[matthewb0051]

I've conducted dozens maybe hundreds of investigations into similar conduct. With near 100% certainty the guy was fishing for a hook-up (as the kids say).

Unless he was including you in the messages, he was fishing.

I agree that you don't tell her what to do with regard to him. My theory is that it is her life and if she choses to venture outside of the marriage vows that is her call. I would not like it but its her call. You start down the road of telling her what to do and you might not like the outcome.

[Holger]

Oh my God, Facebook-drama! :-)

[Mark Henry]

I wouldn't have to do anything, my wife can handle that herself.

[motion]

Originally Posted by Jims5543

Damn son, you spawned a few threads from this incident.


I am in 100% agreement with you, this has nothing to do with your trust in your SO, it seems you are perfectly comfortable there. This has EVERYTHING to do with respect, and lack thereof.

For some A hole to come along, friend request then fish around like that, shows lack of class and lack of respect and someone I would not want to be associated with.

A lifetime ago you had a blog, I followed you, I thought it was awesome then it was gone. I was bummed, but I knew why, the internets are crawling with some really wacked people and it was probably safer for you to shut that down.

I feel the same way about FUbook I deleted my account years ago, it is bad news.

When I go on trips now, I do not say a word until I return then post pics on IG AFTER I am home, no need to tell the world I am away.

Plus much easier to collect my thoughts and post pics I feel are relevant.

Keep living life, tell the world on delay.

I saw the other threads, but honestly, I didn't take them personally. I don't think they were meant that way, either, but I guess my experience on FB made a few people ponder how they would handle it. Fair game.

That blog WAS a lot of fun But yeah, I became uncomfortable with the amount of info available to other people, ultimately. We don't worry about external influences from others, but at the same time, we don't want to intentionally invite any drama into our lives.

[motion]

Originally Posted by Craig T

Unfriend the azzhole and forgitaboutit.

That's exactly what I have done

[ckelly78z]

This is exactly why I ONLY befriend people who I have talked face to face with, and actually like in person. There are plenty of co-workers/aquaintances who have many of the same facebook friends as me, but I don't want them.

Regularly, I refuse friend requests from someone I don't know, I don't need the extra drama.

[Crowbob]

I think FB is gonna really mess up humanity.

[Gogar]

Gonna? Did.

Check out America's obsession with feelings and people.

[cstreit]

Originally Posted by Jeff Higgins

I dunno - seem like pretty innocuous comments to me.

Perhaps but if this were face to face:

1. You'd walk away and not talk to him (equivalent of defriending)
2. Mention to your buddies how he's a little weird (equivalent of posting on Pelican)


SO I'd day he handled it the same - through different medium.