Introvert or Extrovet?

[tdw28210]

Took a new test recently: Birkman. ID'd me pretty good. Though I enjoy being with others I need time alone to recharge and think. Outdoor and Artistic were my highest rated interests. I should probably be creating chainsaw wood carvings in the mountains. I work in finance.

[Superman]

Ha! This is an are poorly understood. Because it depends on your definition of Introvert and Extrovert. Let me give you an example:

Some folks think an Introvert is someone shy. An Extrovert then is someone gregarious. Here is a different definition:

An Introvert is someone who is guarded about their internal thoughts and emotions. An Extrovert is someone who "wears their heart on their sleeves," visible to anyone listening.

Using the second definition, I am a gregarious Introvert. I enter a room full of people like a kid in a candy store. Fully at ease walking up to a table and chatting....or addressing the full group. But I'm not going to bare my soul to them. That's done in private, and only to people I trust.

[island911]

Well... I not going to tell you guys what I think. --Ever!

[Reiver]

Originally Posted by island911

Well... I not going to tell you guys what I think. --Ever!

You just did!

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by Superman

An Introvert is someone who is guarded about their internal thoughts and emotions. An Extrovert is someone who "wears their heart on their sleeves," visible to anyone listening.

I don't like that definition. I think an introvert is energized and fulfilled by his own thoughts and feelings. He can't wait for social situations to end so he can be comfortable again. An extrovert is comforted and energized by interacting with others. It's not about fears or exposure, it's about what you are comfortable doing

[island911]

Originally Posted by Bill Douglas

Depends on the day.

THIS^

Sometimes it depends on the time of that day. ...and if alcohol is involved.

[Bill Douglas]

Originally Posted by island911

THIS^

Sometimes it depends on the time of that day. ...and if alcohol is involved.

Yeah, sometimes I wake up a rottweiler sometimes a pussy cat. Quiet spoken private school accent, or the most foul mouthed street fighter around. LOL

[HardDrive]

Originally Posted by legion

This article got me thinking that the author is perhaps confusing introversion with social anxiety.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/16-tweets-introverts-apos-apos-234048603.html

I'm a natural introvert. I think through conversations that never end up happening. I spend less than an hour, total, on the phone each month, and the bulk of my phone time is either scammers or service people that I call. I don't talk to people that I don't already know at the gym, so it's not unusual for an entire two-hour workout to go by without me saying a word. Most of my hobbies involve solitary things (shooting, reloading, fixing the house). I have only a handful of facebook friends and as a rule, I generally don't extend friend requests. I post once every few weeks about my kids, but sometimes go several months without posting anything. I may glance other people's posts but I don't really keep up on anyone. I constantly fear reading something that will make me think less of someone (usually their internal thoughts I think shouldn't be made public). I don't have any close friends and I do social things around 5-6 times a year. I get my energy from being alone and having time to think.

At work, I've trained myself to be a bit of an extrovert. I look people in the eye. I say hello to everyone whose name I remember--often saying hello to a dozen people between my car and my desk. I speak up in meetings. I express my ideas (most of which I've thought through in my alone time.) I don't wait for other people--I goad them along when they are slowing me down. I talk to other people to solve problems quickly (rather than trying to solve them by myself.) I also have to go on 2-3 long walks each day to keep this energy up as it is not natural to me. People that only know me at work are surprised at how solitary I am.

I'm very similar. I can do big social scenes, but it takes a lot of energy.

I'm more 'social' with the other developers on my team, but were all a bunch introverts, so it's ok. If someone has their headphones one, you don't bother them unless something is on fire.

We're an Agile team, and I think through what I'm going to say in morning standups long before, often the night before when I'm driving home from work.

[pavulon]

Originally Posted by svandamme

But don't f'ing touch me.
you americans hugging crap freaks me out.(coz my mother was a cold biotch that never did)

This is an attachment theory issue.

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by island911

T ...and if alcohol is involved.

Oh yeah...alcohol...been so long I almost forgot about that aspect .

[wdfifteen]

From a John Prine song. It sticks with me because it's the story of my life. Drives my wife crazy


"How the hell can a person
go to work in the morning
And come home in the evening
and have nothing to say?"

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by HardDrive

...

I'm more 'social' with the other developers on my team, but were all a bunch introverts, so it's ok. If someone has their headphones one, you don't bother them unless something is on fire.

We're an Agile team, and I think through what I'm going to say in morning standups long before....

Though I was in IT infrastructure, I was like the Lone Ranger the latter half of my career... I didn't even talk to myself.....much

[svandamme]

Originally Posted by pavulon

This is an attachment theory issue.

Well, I think to most Europeans, the amount of hugging Americans do, is to much of a good thing to us.
You hug your wife and kids, but in the US, I see it all to often that people will hug a stranger they just met to say thanks for something they just helped with.

That seems so awkward to me , makes me cringe

[pavulon]

Originally Posted by svandamme

Well, I think to most Europeans, the amount of hugging Americans do, is to much of a good thing to us.
You hug your wife and kids, but in the US, I see it all to often that people will hug a stranger they just met to say thanks for something they just helped with.

That seems so awkward to me , makes me cringe

I get that and mostly agree. However, attachment theory is still interesting stuff.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html

[svandamme]

yeah, makes sense , mine left me alone in my crib and went to the pub a lot.
Though i'm not timid

[ckelly78z]

My brother and SIL are both wildly extroverts (and wildly liberal), who love to hug everyone they meet, and can't leave an event without hugging everyone in the room. They do this so much, that they have turned my parents into huggers (were not 20 years ago). He is a pastor, and she runs a daycare, so this seems to be normal behavior in thier minds. My wife and I are the bad guys now amounst our family because we don't enjoy the hugging bit.

[pavulon]

Thinking about how mechanical things work can be rewarding. Thinking about how people work is a next level rabbit hole.

[Nickshu]

I am an omnivert. I can be extroverted when I am motivated to be but like my alone time and don't like to be with big groups of people when I don't have to be.

[masraum]

Originally Posted by svandamme

Well, I think to most Europeans, the amount of hugging Americans do, is to much of a good thing to us.
You hug your wife and kids, but in the US, I see it all to often that people will hug a stranger they just met to say thanks for something they just helped with.

That seems so awkward to me , makes me cringe

You need to stop hanging out in San Francisco. Yeah, I can't remember the last time I hugged someone that wasn't a member of my family like my mom or kids or wife.

reminds me of

[RKDinOKC]

Wether introvert or extrovert you can still be a pervert.