Introvert or Extrovet?

[legion]

This article got me thinking that the author is perhaps confusing introversion with social anxiety.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/16-tweets-introverts-apos-apos-234048603.html

I'm a natural introvert. I think through conversations that never end up happening. I spend less than an hour, total, on the phone each month, and the bulk of my phone time is either scammers or service people that I call. I don't talk to people that I don't already know at the gym, so it's not unusual for an entire two-hour workout to go by without me saying a word. Most of my hobbies involve solitary things (shooting, reloading, fixing the house). I have only a handful of facebook friends and as a rule, I generally don't extend friend requests. I post once every few weeks about my kids, but sometimes go several months without posting anything. I may glance other people's posts but I don't really keep up on anyone. I constantly fear reading something that will make me think less of someone (usually their internal thoughts I think shouldn't be made public). I don't have any close friends and I do social things around 5-6 times a year. I get my energy from being alone and having time to think.

At work, I've trained myself to be a bit of an extrovert. I look people in the eye. I say hello to everyone whose name I remember--often saying hello to a dozen people between my car and my desk. I speak up in meetings. I express my ideas (most of which I've thought through in my alone time.) I don't wait for other people--I goad them along when they are slowing me down. I talk to other people to solve problems quickly (rather than trying to solve them by myself.) I also have to go on 2-3 long walks each day to keep this energy up as it is not natural to me. People that only know me at work are surprised at how solitary I am.

[Seahawk]

I am both with heavy leanings to introvert; have been my entire life...I would prefer to be left alone to my own sense of propriety and space with a few friends here and there.

But life intrudes and I had to learn to be an introvert in an extroverts clothing.

I do not seek affirmation or the limelight, not my deal...but when you have certain athletic skills as a youngster your head sticks above the horizon regardless of personal preference.

At the squad level, team level, I was comfortable and could drive the program - it was the ancillary crap I was not remotely interested in.

In any event, I could go on but will not. Suffice it to say that the best courses I took, and I had to force myself, were drama, acting and speech.

[ckelly78z]

INTROVERT for me ! I relesh my alone time at home, or at the office, and tend to internally roll my eyes when someone wants to speak to me. I am polite, and forthcoming with information, and not afraid of speaking my mind or opinion to equals, or higher ups. I find that I don't seek out friendships, but everyone seems to like me (i'm not sure why...maybe it's my quick wit). I talk for a few minutes a week on the phone, never text, snapchat, tweet, IM, or email anyone unless I need something, which isn't often.


I am much more of a doer, than a talker, and get easily irritated with people who aren't, it's my "farmer's work ethic".

[KFC911]

Though my nearly 15k posts here don't necessarily reflect it...I am naturally an introvert, have always been since a small child.
I always wandered how engineers got to be so outgoing, extroverted, and adept at the social graces....envious I reckon

[pavulon]

It seems that internet boards by their nature would be loaded with introverts.

[RKDinOKC]

Went to a management class. Took a short quiz. You could score from 0 to 30 based on your answers. Speaker had everyone that got a score from 0-10 go up to the left side of him. Then everyone that got from 20-30 go stand on the other. Each group was about 20% of the seminar.

Then he asked everyone look at the group on his left. They were all quietly standing in a straight line and had subconsciously arranged themselves from shortest to tallest. The said look at the group on the right. They were standing around in a bunch with half of them not even looking at the speaker. And they were talking amongst themselves, he said probably trying to figure out who made the most money. We were asking where each of us worked and what we did, so he was quite accurate.

The group on the left were the introverts and the group on the right were the extroverts.

How to upset and introvert? Go into his office, pull one pencil out of his pencil holder, break the sharpened lead point, then stick it back in the holder with the rest.

What kind of car does and extrovert drive? Doesn't matter as long as the horn works!

I am an extrovert but don't mind being alone at all. In fact, work alone from home. Will talk to anyone about anything and often comment to complete strangers in public. Have had to learn in recent years to be careful of what I say...easily offended freakin snowflakes.

[svandamme]

extrovert , i'll tell you anything

But don't f'ing touch me.
you americans hugging crap freaks me out.(coz my mother was a cold biotch that never did)

[masraum]

Originally Posted by svandamme

extrovert , i'll tell you anything

But don't f'ing touch me.
you americans hugging crap freaks me out.(coz my mother was a cold biotch that never did)

Pssht, it's the crazy Euros that are always kissing everyone on the cheek, even men. WTH!

hahaha, j/k.

Hmm, I think I must be fairly middle of the road, but kind of waver back and forth.

[svandamme]

nah. that's them southerners.

[legion]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

But life intrudes and I had to learn to be an introvert in an extroverts clothing.

I do not seek affirmation or the limelight, not my deal...but when you have certain athletic skills as a youngster your head sticks above the horizon regardless of personal preference.

At the squad level, team level, I was comfortable and could drive the program - it was the ancillary crap I was not remotely interested in.

I totally get this. I looked into management and decided it wasn't for me because of the politics. Ask me to do something, and I will do it. It really doesn't matter how much instruction you give me, I'll fill in the blanks and drive out the results. Put me in charge of the project, and it'll be the same.

My current boss (who won't be my boss anymore in two weeks) is most concerned with looking good to her boss but she doesn't really give a crap about what we do. If we ask her for help--like to resolve an issue with another manager--she'll give a good pep talk full of platitudes and buzz words, but ultimately she will make it our job to somehow solve without going around the other manager (and without her talking to that manager for us). I've already started laying the groundwork with the new manager for correcting the many unresolved issues she's left us with.

Originally Posted by ckelly78z

I am polite, and forthcoming with information, and not afraid of speaking my mind or opinion to equals, or higher ups. I find that I don't seek out friendships, but everyone seems to like me (i'm not sure why...maybe it's my quick wit).

I've noticed that too. I think of myself as abrasive and un-personable, but other people seem to really like me. I think it might be because sometime in my 20s I just started keeping my opinions to myself.

[Yorkie]

Take the Briggs Myers test. It can be quite illuminating. I've done it a few times over the years and it does not tend to change much. I'm INTJ - Introvert, Intuitive, Thinker, Judger.

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by Yorkie

Take the Briggs Myers test. It can be quite illuminating. I've done it a few times over the years and it does not tend to change much. I'm INTJ - Introvert, Intuitive, Thinker, Judger.

INTP/INTJ here. P stands for Perceiving. I have taken the test multiple times because I had to for the various management schools in the DoD...the only variable that waffles is P and J

When I went through the 10 week Defense Acquisition University (DAU: https://www.dau.mil/) Senior Program Manager School in 2005 I was chosen by the rest of the students as the Honor Graduate. Whole bunch of senior bubbas and bubbets from government and industry

I had had enough of the bravo sierra by week five and I shed the cocoon.

[daepp]

I'm an introvert tho people often call me an extrovert.

As I understand it extroverts get energized from interacting with others; introverts find it from within.

[Tervuren]

Yes, it isn't about how well people interact with you or you interact with them.

I know an extrovert that certain influences short circuited their interactions with other people.

It hobbles them as a person because they need other people to function, yet avoid them "because reasons".

Reclusive, but an extrovert, I wish I could fix the situation but the feedback loop is too loud for me to be heard.

Sometimes the person all alone away from people can be an extrovert, and they are hurting.

[LEAKYSEALS951]

On a scale of 1-10 on the introvert vs. extrovert scale-
Where does "Get off of my lawn" add up to?

Bonus points for "Old man yells at cloud."

[Bill Douglas]

Depends on the day.

[RKDinOKC]

Extrovert runs out on the porch and yells get off my lawn. Introvert stays inside, out of sight and hopes they leave.

Introverts would have fish for pets. Extrovert would have a big dog like a Rottweiler if they could remember to feed it.

[CMDR Perry]

This is me, I don't do Facebook and have just a few contacts on Linkedin. I like my privacy and mind my own business. I have a family and a few friends. I enjoy this forum and other hobbies. That is the extent of my social web. DP

[OldSpool87]

It has nothing to do with being shy or outgoing. It’s all about how you derive your energy and what types of situations deplete you. I’m introverted 100%. I’m also very interested in those around me provided it’s one on one or small group. Large group settings are quite manageable and I can be successfully socially and in business in this setting. However, it leaves me drained almost as if I had to work harrder at it. It not dreaded or avoided just uses energy rather than being restorative.

[wdfifteen]

I am an introvert but because of the business I chose I had to be the face and personality of my company. That meant a lot of face time with the public. I learned to put on my official face and play the role. I could yuck it up and play the good ole boy, but by the end of the day it exhausted me.
My job is to be an editor, I’m always looking for the right word. I’m that way in my speach when I’m not “on”. I replay in my head everything I say and half my brain is thinking of what to say while the other half is analyzing what I just said. It’s effing torture. I would rather be sitting alone working a logic puzzle. Personal interaction grinds me down, but Mrs WD is just the opposite, it is a delight and an amazement to me to watch her talk to strangers so easily.