Dating

[masraum]

Originally Posted by Baz

I have remained on good standing with all my past girlfriends.

I think that's a positive.

Sometimes things just don't work out for a long term deal. No need to go crazy.

Have fun while you can - enjoy the moment(s)!

I have so many fond memories of so many moments with these ladies.

One I dated in the 80's had an MGB and was a blast to be with. We were having dinner once at a local seafood restaurant and she said to me "You know what bad habit you have?" I was thinking - oh no - what is she seeing I don't know about?!? She said "You lick your fingers." That was funny - and true. I never did it again - except maybe a little in the privacy of my home.

But that's what it's all about. Honesty with each other about all kinds of little things that contribute to growth and wonderment.

I won't be with anyone I don't respect. That's a big cornerstone.

Based on years of seeing your posts regarding women, relationships, and dating, I think you have a good, healthy outlook and method. It's not everyone's thing to get in and stay in a long term or to be a perpetual bachelor. I'm sure there are also degrees of everything in between. One solution does not fit all. You seem to do what you do well (in a way that's a win-win which is key).

[Rodsrsr]

Some info on dating apps.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by Rodsrsr

Some info on dating apps.

if your first slide is a "value" graph, then you've already failed at dating. my second rule of dating advice is that anyone who analyzes dating as a marketplace, never ever listen to them either. dating is not a marketplace. if you think dating is a marketplace, then you don't understand the point of dating. dating is about forming relationships. markets for determining costs in transactional arrangements.

there are many reasons dating apps are at issue. none of them can found on graphs.

[cockerpunk]

ooooof, its gets even worse ... the perfect 10 is "hot, young and undamaged?"

yikes.

like yikes yikes yikes.

thats some grade A misogyny with drippings of pedophilia.

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by john70t

Some marry for life at 20. Some go through numerous partners. Some are mature in values at a younger age. Some never grow up.

I snipped some, but I wanted to comment on the above: I have been, age related, all of those things and more.

To paraphrase an old Eddie Murphy comment: when I was young when I walked into a room the fish stopped swimming.

You'll have to fill in the why.

I didn't get married until my mid 30's and I squeezed the lemon pretty hard until I met my wife.

No real reason for the delay really other than shifting priorities. I simply did not believe there was some archetype I had to follow. I made mistakes, I made progress. Same as it ever was.

BTW, I have never, not once, talked to my kids about their relationships or who they date or seek to marry. I just don't. It freaks them out a little bit.

Nor did my parents except once. My Mother was dying of cancer and was in a brief remission. I had met my future wife and we visited my parents in South Carolina for the first time.

After dinner, my Mom asked me to take her for a ride, just the two of us.

"If you don't ask that young woman to marry you, I will...you'd be a f'ing idiot (she never swore) not to".

I mentioned I was planning to so the ride went smoothly

We had a very small wedding that my Mother was not well enough to make...my Father stayed in SC as well. I left for the Persian Gulf a month later, 1990.

I am in the middle, my wife to my right. My best friend next to her. I thank my good judgement everyday

[Crowbob]

Wisdom from a Yooper:

Girlfriend?

You want problems get a snowmobile.

[rattlsnak]

I’ve used Tinder, Bumble, FB and Match recently.. The age range and parameters you set make all the difference in the world. (I always used tight parameters… Like no more than 20 miles away… Etc.) Dating at our age is all over the map. I’m 55 and was searching for women 48-58…. You will find 1 of 3 types of women…. 1, been married for the past 30 years and have been a stay at home mom and have no career… they are basically looking for a provider.. 2, Single mom of younger kids who may or not have a good job, but basically is looking for a father figure / provider replacement. 3. Had a great career, kids out of the house, retired… But extremely independent.. of course there are some unicorns out there that are a mixture of the above, but they are hard to find.. i’ve had great success with tinder and bumble as the woman on there seem to be tech savvy, up with the times and like to go out and do fun things whereas Match seems to be more of a homebody crowd. Facebook dating app was probably the most real as those people have more of a detail background and he may even have mutual friends.. Just depends what you’re looking for..

[Rodsrsr]

One of my personal favorites Andrew Tate, and his take on todays dating market.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by Rodsrsr

One of my personal favorites Andrew Tate, and his take on todays dating market.

what the ****.

again, dating is not a marketplace. women are not chattel to be bought and sold based on how hot they are. there is no such thing as a "top tier woman" or man.


you gotta get your mind off the red pill dude. its killing you. start seeing people, as people.

[Racerbvd]

[cockerpunk]

looking more into andrew tate ... really exposes the insanity. check your sources people: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Tate

Tate gained public notoriety following his removal from the 17th season of Big Brother following the release of a video in which Tate appeared to beat a woman. He was subsequently removed from the show.

he made some controversial tweets regarding sexual assault and sexual harassment, including that women should "take some personal responsibility" if they put themselves "in a position to be raped"

In April 2022, The Daily Beast reported that Tate's house was raided by Romanian police in relation to a human trafficking and rape investigation, prompted by reports that an American woman was being held at the property against her will. Romanian authorities found both a Romanian woman and an American woman at the property.

the dude is a likely rapist, abuser, and sex trafficker.

do not take dating advice from such people.

[Rodsrsr]

Andrew Tate is not giving dating advise, that's not his game. He's merely stating his opinion in regards to the dating market in 2022.

However, I would take advise from Tate who is over 75 million dollars liquid cash rich, world champion fighter, and completely dominated Instagram, Twitter and YouTube in less than 3 months, so with those accomplishments, yes I would take his advise if I had the opportunity to sit down with him. Definitely take his advise over yours or a female who never had to accomplish those things.

Which goes back to my original point as to why I don't take dating advise from females. They don't have the need to understand men since they are the ones being pursued and by simply existing (especially if they're hot) tons of men will approach them on a daily basis. Men on the other hand HAVE to understand females in order to be successful in the dating market.

[jamesnmlaw]

Rent, don't buy.

[sc_rufctr]

Originally Posted by Rodsrsr

Andrew Tate is not giving dating advise, that's not his game. He's merely stating his opinion in regards to the dating market in 2022.

However, I would take advise from Tate who is over 75 million dollars liquid cash rich, world champion fighter, and completely dominated Instagram, Twitter and YouTube in less than 3 months, so with those accomplishments, yes I would take his advise if I had the opportunity to sit down with him. Definitely take his advise over yours or a female who never had to accomplish those things.

Which goes back to my original point as to why I don't take dating advise from females. They don't have the need to understand men since they are the ones being pursued and by simply existing (especially if they're hot) tons of men will approach them on a daily basis. Men on the other hand HAVE to understand females in order to be successful in the dating market.

This... Women have always lived in an entirely different world to men.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by Rodsrsr

Andrew Tate is not giving dating advise, that's not his game. He's merely stating his opinion in regards to the dating market in 2022.

However, I would take advise from Tate who is over 75 million dollars liquid cash rich, world champion fighter, and completely dominated Instagram, Twitter and YouTube in less than 3 months, so with those accomplishments, yes I would take his advise if I had the opportunity to sit down with him. Definitely take his advise over yours or a female who never had to accomplish those things.

Which goes back to my original point as to why I don't take dating advise from females. They don't have the need to understand men since they are the ones being pursued and by simply existing (especially if they're hot) tons of men will approach them on a daily basis. Men on the other hand HAVE to understand females in order to be successful in the dating market.

ah, third rule. anyone referring to human beings as "females" .... yeah never take dating advice from them either.

so, there is no such thing as a dating market. and women are people too.

observation: you can really tell that men ****ing HATE women when you get into dating discussions with straight men. holy smokes. the hate just boils off you.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by sc_rufctr

This... Women have always lived in an entirely different world to men.

its almost like intersectionality is true or something .... no, can't be.

[RANDY P]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

ah, third rule. anyone referring to human beings as "females" .... yeah never take dating advice from them either.

so, there is no such thing as a dating market. and women are people too.

"So, what's your gender?"

If I may add- never take dating advice from someone who believes in that nonsense.

rjp

[sc_rufctr]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

its almost like intersectionality is true or something .... no, can't be.

Believe Mr Punk. As you get older you'll come to understand what I'm saying.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by sc_rufctr

Believe Mr Punk. As you get older you'll come to understand what I'm saying.

oh i do. women absolutely, based on their outward identity live in a different world than white straight cis het men do. absolutely.

its almost like identity changes how you are treated in the world.

thats intersectionality. you agree with intersectionality.

[sc_rufctr]

I know what intersectionality means but I don't know if I entirely agree with it.

Sorry that's the best I can do. The reasons why warrant a separate thread in PARF.