the ultimate tips for LTR/married guys and gals

[Sapporo Guy]

Now we've got a home for some great tips and ideas on how to make this situation work just a little bit better.

1.) communication
2.) understanding
3.) passion
4.) communication
5.) listening
6.) respect
7.) communication

lolo, but then again, this is really an after thought for me

[KFC911]

I can't add squat to this thread since my g/f of nine years (whom I still love dearly) has ended it (I probably saw her for the last time a bit ago). I will say that following some of the advice in the singles guys thread (starting with Gogar's GOLDEN RULES) would probably have avoided this .

[Seric]

Make her feel like a woman, especially when she doesn't feel like one at the time.

[Dixie]

Where to start... Here's just a few nuggets of wisdom my mother has passed on to me.

• Just because you're married, don't stop pouring the cream from the pitcher. (Translation: Keep using your best manners, and keep up with your appearance.)
• Cookin' in the kitchen is of no matter. It's the cookin' in the bedroom that counts. (Said to my wife when we were first married.)
• A woman is like a campfire. If you don't tend to them, they go out.
• Forget communicating. Shut up an’ listen.

Must be good advice. The Bride® is still with me after 25 years.

[John_AZ]

Capt. Carrera,
I agree but why is she registered? "Must be good advice. The Bride® is still with me after 25 years."
John_AZ

[Dixie]

Because, if Paris can trademark "That's hot", I can trademark "The Bride".


P.S. you owe me royalties for using the phrase, "The Bride"® . I'll have my people contact your people...

[John_AZ]

I have a few Polish Zloty coins from my last trip. Contact my overseas office...

John_AZ

[Dueller]

Once the honeymoon's over, remember to send in your quarterly tax returns the morning after you have sex.

Don't forget to renew your drivers license after a BJ.

[Dixie]

Once the honeymoon's over, remember to send in your quarterly tax returns the morning after you have sex.

You remind me of the most important tip. This one's mine. Marry a girl who likes sex. A lot... I often hear friends making some snooty comment about women they think look too slutty. In the next breath, they're complaining about not gettin' any at home.

[Christien]

Dueller, where do you live that you only have to renew your license every 10 years???

[ChrisBennet]

I'm totally serious when I say: The secret to a long lasting relationship is Reduced Expectations.
My sweetheart of 20 years never says to me:
"You remember when you used to bring me flowers?" (I never did.)
"You forgot my anniversary." (She tells me ahead of time 'cause she doesn't expect me to remember.)

Before her birthday comes up we have a conversion that goes something like this:
Her: "My birthday is coming up next week"
Me: "Does your boyfriend usually get you something for your birthday?"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Any idea what he getting you this year?"
Then she tells me what she'd like.

If she tells me "Valentine's Day is coming up." I say "What are you getting me?"

Of course there several factors that help a relationship but Reduced Expectation is a big one that no one seems to mention.

-Chris

[Danny_Ocean]

When she gains weight, trades the long mane for the "Dorothy Hamil" haircut and loses interest in sex, just take two of these:

[Danny_Ocean]

Originally Posted by Dueller

Once the honeymoon's over, remember to send in your quarterly tax returns the morning after you have sex.

Don't forget to renew your drivers license after a BJ.

LOL. True, true...

[1fastredsc]

After 1.5 years of marriage, i've already figured out that no matter how right i am, i'm always wrong.

[kqw]

A wise /not so wise man once said..."every man should have:

A Wife, A Mistress and a Freaky Deaky.....

[Sapporo Guy]

Originally Posted by kqw

A wise /not so wise man once said..."every man should have:

A Wife, A Mistress and a Freaky Deaky.....

Ahhhh, a sexual outlet, but that can be destructive ...


@ listening
I used them communication as in being an active listener and talker. You really need to have open communication where both of you can say what you want with the understanding that you both will share.

When the lines of communication break and repair is beyond hope you end up like me ... divorced. I realize now after the fact that I "may" have been able to do more.

Let's hope that we learn from our mistakes and history.

[TerryBPP]

After 8 months of marriage my wife went to marriage counseling yesterday and I'm going early next week. I dont need to be giving marital advice. Thats for sure.

[Chocaholic]

You must be doing something wrong. I'm sure the shrink will help point it out for you.

[TerryBPP]

Originally Posted by Chocaholic

You must be doing something wrong. I'm sure the shrink will help point it out for you.

You sound just like my wife.

[peppy]

Husbands usually die first because they want to.