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widebody911 · widebody911's Garage

Question: if you had a 17 year-old daughter... a) would you let her go to said event with a 20 year-old guy; b) would everyone be as 'encouraging' of the 'extracurricular' activities?

Rot 911 · 03-10-2008, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by widebody911

Question: if you had a 17 year-old daughter... a) would you let her go to said event with a 20 year-old guy; b) would everyone be as 'encouraging' of the 'extracurricular' activities?

We all admit that this is a double standard. Now let's see pics of the 20 year old!

masraum · 03-10-2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by widebody911

Question: if you had a 17 year-old daughter... a) would you let her go to said event with a 20 year-old guy; b) would everyone be as 'encouraging' of the 'extracurricular' activities?

No, fortunately he doesn't have a 17 yo daughter, because then we couldn't seriously ask for pictures.

masraum · 03-10-2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Porsche-O-Phile

He should skip it altogether and take his young lady friend to a secluded location on the beach, sit with her on a blanket drinking champagne and making (safe) wild love all night like drunken monkeys until the sunrise, then fall blissfully asleep until noon.

verbalizing your own fantasy, uh huh.

Moses · 03-10-2008, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by widebody911

Question: if you had a 17 year-old daughter... a) would you let her go to said event with a 20 year-old guy; b) would everyone be as 'encouraging' of the 'extracurricular' activities?

We covered this last night at the dinner table. My daughter is a sophomore. She asked me directly what I would say if she wanted to go to the prom with a 20 year old. I told her "Not a chance." She smiled. It was the answer she expected (and wanted).

My daughter sees no problem with her brothers choice of a prom date. He's always shown very good judgement. I trust him completely. That means I trust that won't do anything remarkably stupid. He won't use drugs or drink and drive. Keeping his hands off his prom date may be setting the bar a little high.

Tobra · Tobra's Garage

Thinking he is not having sex with her already or on prom night is not really all that reasonable

Neilk · 03-10-2008, 12:54 PM

That despicable union breaking son has a hot 20 year old g/f. He is a real A**

Drago · Drago's Garage

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I'm going to have to see a pic of the 20 year old woman to make an educated decision.

Yup,

I'm going to have to give this a +1. ;-)

I've got three boys...thanks for the heads up.

Drago · Drago's Garage

She smiled. It was the answer she expected (and wanted).

You're a good father Moses.

Burnin' oil · 03-10-2008, 01:28 PM

I suppose it depends upon what your expectations/hopes are. A seventeen year old high schooler and a 20 year old partying college girl seem destined to get busy. Another, perhaps larger, issue is safety, i.e., transportation. If there is drinking, there will be drunk driving. Your son may not drink and drive, but, as we all know, our judgment is not at its peak when we are drunk. He may drive or, more likely, ride with someone who is impaired. High schoolers, booze, cars, peer pressure and up all night is a bad combo. My rule, for both of them, would be absolutely no drinking. I've said too much.

varmint · 03-10-2008, 01:45 PM

you should be so proud of your kid. give him the keys to the porsche and a credit card. tell him to be back in a week.

Les Paul · Les Paul's Garage

At my sons prom once you arrived the building you couldn't leave and get back in. No going out to smoke a J or hit the bottle. Then there was an all night school sanctioned lock in after party. So far in the 30 years I'm familiar with their program it seems to have worked. I would have heard about it otherwise as my wife works in the school system.

Christien · Christien's Garage

Perhaps I'm playing devil's advocate, but is 17 years old really too young to be drinking and having sex, so long as it's safe? How old were any of us our first time? I was 17 and but for the lack of certain things, I would've been 16. I don't think I was too young at the time. (ftr, I'm 32 now, married with a 1 1/2 year old daughter.) I'd be much more concerned about drunk driving.

If you've raised him right, and from what it sounds like you have, he'll know to treat her right, be responsible and get home safely. At both my high school proms (I went twice - once in grade 12, then again for grade 13, which here in Ontario used to be an optional university prep year) we were all very responsible about drinking and sex. I'm sure there might have been someone driving drunk, but it wasn't in my circle of friends. 1st prom I was the DD. It was boring and crappy. The 2nd was much better - for the after-party, I remember they rented a school bus, because it was outside the city on a farm. If memory serves (and it's definitely foggy) it took many trips back to the city to drop kids off at different times. I don't think anyone took a car, now that I think about it. Was there drinking? Yep - JD straight out of the bottle. Was there sex? Yep - on my parents' front lawn, at about 3am. Were we safe about everything? Absolutely. Not that I want to think about my own kids doing that, but I know they will, and if they're responsible about it like I was, I really have no problem with it.

onewhippedpuppy · 03-10-2008, 01:54 PM

Give the kid a talk about being smart, and a pat on the back for snagging a hot older college girl.

Seriously though, he can still have a good time without making any life-altering mistakes. My senior prom 10 years ago consisted of a nice dinner (sober), prom (sober), after party (semi-sober), and all night party at a hotel (absolutely *****faced). No idea what happened to my date, or what/who she was doing. She was just a friend anyway. Drank all night with a variety of people, drug her ass home at 7 am, then slept all day.

onewhippedpuppy · 03-10-2008, 01:55 PM

Oh yeah, and pick up something nice for yourself. The higher the alcohol content, the better.

Moses · 03-10-2008, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Burnin' oil

I suppose it depends upon what your expectations/hopes are. A seventeen year old high schooler and a 20 year old partying college girl seem destined to get busy. Another, perhaps larger, issue is safety, i.e., transportation. If there is drinking, there will be drunk driving. Your son may not drink and drive, but, as we all know, our judgment is not at its peak when we are drunk. He may drive or, more likely, ride with someone who is impaired. High schoolers, booze, cars, peer pressure and up all night is a bad combo. My rule, for both of them, would be absolutely no drinking. I've said too much.

I'm not even taking a REMOTE chance with that. There will be no driving at all on prom night. My son, his date and two other couples are splitting a limo. That was my idea.

My son has never come home with alcohol on his breath. Two kids he played baseball with since childhood have died while drunk behind the wheel. My son is pretty serious about driving responsibly.

Dueller · 03-10-2008, 02:00 PM

I'm faced with the inverse problem, X2. Twin 17 y.o. stepdaughters. One has been dating a guy for nearly a year. The other has been invited to 3 different proms.

****SIGH****

Moses only has to worry about 1 *****. I gotta worry about ALL of them

Hawktel · 03-10-2008, 02:02 PM

I'd have a heart to heart with him on:

Baby's bad
STD's bad
Underage drinking and getting caught bad
Not getting your date home safely bad

And give him a box or rubbers, 200 in cash, the number to my best friend so he can call him to come take care of stuff if he needs it no questioned asked,

And I'd sleep good that night.

Christien · Christien's Garage

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the number to my best friend so he can call him to come take care of stuff if he needs it no questioned asked

What a great idea! I'm going to remember that one.

Tim Hancock · 03-10-2008, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Les Paul

At my sons prom once you arrived the building you couldn't leave and get back in. No going out to smoke a J or hit the bottle. Then there was an all night school sanctioned lock in after party. So far in the 30 years I'm familiar with their program it seems to have worked. I would have heard about it otherwise as my wife works in the school system.

Our school system is doing the same thing now. On one hand having teen daughters, I am happy, OTOH, it sounds pretty lame compared how it was done when I was in school.