Yeah...I got nuthin'.

A post I agree with...me too. Only married once, 48 years. So as far as advice? Got nuthin'.

Odds of him really liking her - 10%.

Odds of her really liking him - 10%

Odds of both - 1-2%.

Your numbers may differ, but it's still a small chance of success.

And even if you do find someone, a year later you might feel very differently once all the warts get exposed.

It's a discouraging path unless you learn to enjoy the 'event' regardless of the outcome.

Got nothing to add on how to approach dating but have you considered wearing 10mm socket ear rings ;)

Bet you'll have to beat off many very edible men that know how to take care of and know their way around a fine, sporty handling chassis :D

Best of luck with finding the right man for you

Yea, that too!

From the age of roughly 15, I watched my poor father (rest in peace) struggle to find love after he and my mother divorced. He married two more times and had a third woman that was more or less common law marriage for about 13 years prior to his death. She broke it off about 4 years before he died and it crushed him. Wives number 2 and 3 just broke him fiscally.

Here's what I learned from him in a nutshell: don't force it. Let it come to you. If it doesn't work out, don't sweat it because you are probably better off than forcing it.

He was always too gung ho and made quick trips to the alter. He'd take new acquaintances to the same places, same short trips to cities he liked, and was too quick to use the L word I'm sure.

One last thing I learned from him: don't poopoo where you eat and don't marry beneath you in profession or education. He broke both of those rules.

Got married when I was 27, divorced when I was 28, yeah, that didn't go well at all, like being on a long bad date that just got worse, rushed into it. Met a girl a year or so after my divorce, dated, I guess what we were doing is considered dating anyway, lived together a few years and then got married and have been married for 24 years now. Hasn't been easy, hasn't been perfect by any means, no relationship is. Never really went the "conventional" route when it came to dating in the past so, yeah, I don't have anything of value to contribute so I'll just shut up now. [emoji23]

Best wishes and good luck!!!

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One more thing: If you do get married a second or third time; just go to the JP. A full blown church event is a bit much, especially when 67% or seconds end in divorce and over 70% of thirds do as well.

Sort of like the rule against having a baby shower for your second, third, and forth child.

Got nothing since I’ve been happily married for 29 yrs.

I do however, highly recommend Captain Ahab’s advice.

Good luck in finding the man that is right for you.

Update from the OP, it's been 2 months since she's left. I kept everything, the house on 5 acres, my huge shop, and all my toys and tools inside.........so really, nothing has changed for me other than an empty lonely house. Without her, it's a house and not a home. sigh.

The last month I started drinking heavily to self medicate. I saw where that was going and I've totally stopped and went to the Dr to get some proper meds.

Online dating, one site is called Plenty of Fish. I "cast" out to the pool and see if anything nibbles. I'm not serious about dating right now though and I consider On-line Dating sites simple entertainment.

I'll survive. You guys are a great support group. - Dave


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You're still in transition-mode, Dave. Knowing that helps. Because things always have a way or working out - you just have to be patient and stay busy with things you enjoy.

For me it's working with my plants and motorcycles.

As far as future dating, etc. For me grocery stores are a target rich environment. Don't be a goon or pest, though. Women love guys who are smart, personable, clean (finger and toenails, clothes, hair, home), and confident.

Above all there has to be chemistry to make it happen. Without that why even bother? Both parties should feel the urge to ravage each other every time they get together.

BTW.....absent of any hunting aspect.....you'd be surprised how easy it is to get into a conversation with someone in a grocery store. Most people love to cook and enjoy having conversations about ingredients and technique.

For example....When someone is looking at all the varieties of honey......wondering what they should buy.....the old standby is always "Wildflower is always a good choice."

The soup aisle is my fav....who doesn't like soup?

Remember good men are in short supply so don't ever sell yourself short. And don't settle.

Mind over matter, Dave......SmileWavy

EDIT: Forgot the most important component.......respect for one another. Without that there is no point. Make sure you give enough reasons to get respect. That's a lot of ground to cover. Just get a subscription to "Men's Health"....they cover it all....:)

Hang in there Dave! And you too "Dixie" (is yer name really Dixie) .... LOL.

I would never date a woman named Yankee .... but we had to change our dang Fair name a couple years ago....

The Dixie Classic Fair .... ain't no mo' :(

And for all of you "looking" for a match .... that ain't never worked for me....

It seems to always happen totally by accident and I am always clueless as to how it actually happened :D

Headin' to the grocery store now Baz.... here's my grocery list:

Cucumbers :)

I've been married three times and that's enough. I'll admit having a boyfriend would be super nice, but I'd settle for dates that aren't FOS, broke, or both. Haha

Then again, I live in Florida, so yeah.... :)
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Been 14 months since I lost my wife. Im not ready just yet, but thinking about dipping my toes in the water .
At first the loneliness slayed me, but I am getting used to that now, and actually somewhat enjoying being a free agent for a bit. I may just ride this train for a while and try to find myself again .
Its going to have to be a pretty special lady for me to think about sliding back into a ltr.
From what my single buddies tell me, its not pretty out there . Online dating feels like shopping for broken pick up trucks on marketplace

Man, best of luck to all of you who are looking for a companion.

Family calls me BobbiSue (or Bobbi)
Friends call me Dixie
But when I'm mad? I'm called hell on heels ;)

My real name is BobbiSue. I got tired of being called Bobbi Jo, Bobbi Mae, Bobbi Ann, Peggy Sue, Peggy May, Betty Ann... or Barbara, So Dixie it is.

Sometimes it is better to be alone, than alone-together.

I am one of the lucky ones . Out of HS started dating a girl at work . Two years later at the age of 20 I married her . It's been 45 years and counting with two fine sons and three grandchildren . If either of us had to start dating we would be lost . Good luck to all in the dating pool ......... watch out for the deep end 😋

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I love the name Dixie!!!

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Sorry, Fred. If it comes to the worst with Cindy's stroke, (Still in hospital, hopes for recovery, MD's labeling it mild) I'll be in the same boat as you. 48 years with the same woman, you become kind of attached, yeah you do. Just zero interest in any dating scene.
Also, deep down, if Cindy dies first, I probably won't last long anyway. That often happens with long married couples. One goes, the other soon follows. There is such a thing of dying because of a broken heart.