Pity poor me....

[Neilk]

Richard,

The 6 months supply of Viagra is a 5th Anniversary present.

[CBRacerX]

Motion,

Tough break, but you have landed on your feet compared to many I have known. Consider the short period of the marriage a blessing.

Good wife material is certianly out there, but it takes some looking to discover it. At least now you know what NOT to go after!

I got a dowry of a Land Rover Discovery when I married my wife, and she wore her mother's engagement ring until we had some custom rings made (my design) that have two _very_ small (like micro sized) diamonds from another piece of her mother's jewelry. Total cash investment for two rings - less than 2K. Everyone loves them, they are totally unique enamel custom dragons. And the engagment ring? Back in the jewelry box - "it was too big and flashy" for my awesome wife, who is over thirty and does have kids from a previous marriage.

Her biggest complaint? "When are you going to get that Ducati registered so I can take it for a ride?". This is often followed by "And we need to schedule another track event! Why don't you finish that 3.6 conversion so we have some real power in the old 911?". No kidding.

So, keep your eyes open!!

Best Regards and Good Luck -

Chris Brown
http://www.christianbrown.com
87 Carrara (3.6 in the garage..)
88 Ducati Paso 750
96 Cab (Wife's car often, no more Disco for her!)
94 Jeep Cherokee - Kid and Dog Transport

[Superman]

Okay, since this is OT and I've got nothing to lose, I'll tell my story. I fell madly in love 25 years ago. Married, and have two beautiful girls, 18 and 11. But now my wife's whining (the person I have loved tends to be a bit on the negative side) has turned to general dissatisfaction and now she is moving to Arizona. And taking a wonderful, delightful 11-year old with her.

So, my life is a bit shattered right now. Fairy tales are just that. Fairy tales.

[Hockey fan]

Superman,

Sorry to hear things aren't going great on the domestic front. All of the "things will be better", "you'll find somebody else" and such really don't help so I'll just hope everything works out for you.

Jeff

[Drago]

Hey Jim,

Really sorry to hear this...wish you would've said something last Saturday.

[Bill Douglas]

Super, sorry to hear of your troubles. I tend to imagine you as a guy who has everything worked out and a solution to every problem. A personal thanks for the good advice you have always given me.

[motion]

Superman - 25 years and 2 daughters is too much to lose... you need to concentrate on EVERYTHING you can do to fix this situation. You need radical, immediate action. The usuals: friends, family, church, couselor, mediation. Man, I feel for ya.

[Adam]

Super...

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope it's just temporary.

[RoninLB]

Originally posted by motion

you need to concentrate on EVERYTHING you can do to fix this situation. You need radical, immediate action. The usuals: friends, family, church, couselor, mediation.

Man, I feel for ya.

Rich, I dis-agree.
I'm not saying your wrong, only that I disagree, OK

and yeah, I feel for Super.. mostly because it's a problem that comes with empathy.. but besides my empathy problem it pisses me off when any of my friends are taking or going to take a beating. and some of these feeling have become more focused and extreme with life experiences.. like I was told it's OK to be this way.. and as long as I don't injure anyone there is nothing anybody can do to me... so I'm pissed off that a friend will be taking a beating.

[nostatic]

Super, sorry to hear. Sometimes a bit of time and distance can clear heads and give some perspective. Hope it works out for the best.

[tabs]

Add an Attorney to the list...

[arcsine]

Jim,
I would be crushed if my daughter went away. That you can even talk about it means you are in a better space than I would ever be. I can only hope it works out well in the end for you and her.

[island911]

Geeze that sucks, Super. I really hope it's just a temporary situation.

Hmmm. . .I suppose everything in life -is- just a temporary situation. Nothing lasts forever; except bad fairy tales

The up-side (beside the fact that you've had 25 years and 2 beautiful girls) is you haven't lost anyone . . . they're just more distant. Relationships don't simply evaporate, just because people physically move.

"general dissatisfaction" all too often leads to shattering of families. This has always seemed very selfish, to me.

My gut tells me that Nostatic's words are pertinent; "a bit of time and distance can clear heads and give some perspective."

[RoninLB]

well,
just because 2 people love each other doesn't mean that they can live together.. discount all right and wrong, for whatever reason. when it's a done deal the next focus should be on being really good friends, if possible, IMO.
I have track experience on this one.... Ron

[motion]

You guys are forgetting the fact that they have an 11 year old daughter. This is about the worst thing that can happen to a girl at that age. I believe that they need to do whatever they can to hold it together for another 5 or 6 years.

[BlueSkyJaunte]

Geez, Super, that sucks. I can't even begin to understand a situation like that (no kids yet).

[RoninLB]

Originally posted by motion
I believe that they need to do whatever they can to hold it together for another 5 or 6 years.

I agree.. but she must want to fix it.

[dmac]

Warning – not Porsche related, but on topic…

Fact: After 5 years my wife left me - with my 4-year-old son. Losing your wife, child, home or income are terrible singly, the combination is devastating. As the years went by I learned that my ex-wife was living in squalor – she had 6 dogs in the house, allowed them to pee and crap all over the house and never cleaned it up (for months, years, at a time – this is one of those “trash house” stories you see occasionally on TV). The whole house stunk like a sewer. Twice I called “Child Protection” – both times they made an appointment to check out her house weeks later. Each time she got help from her parents to clean up the mess before they arrived, and I received letters that “Child Protection” had “investigated” and found no problems. The third time I learned the house was full of dog pee and crap again, the water heater had been non-functioning for 6 months, and the toilet was broken for months - would not flush and full of $hit, and my child had to pee in a sink or “hold it” until he got to school. This time I was a man on a mission – I contacted a friend at a local TV station and arranged for them to stand-by. I called, faxed, and mailed a description of the problem to “Child Protection”. I told them what happened with my prior concerns, and that they must respond this time or TV crews would be at her door and theirs the next day. They responded immediately, interviewed my son, and found “evidence of child abuse and neglect”. I picked up my son that evening, obtained sole custody (6 months and thousands in legal costs, but worth it!), and he has lived with me ever since.

Conclusion: “Child Protection” is basically ex-wife protection. They are staffed with left wing feminists that will do anything to ensure that mom gets her child support. They don’t give a damn about the kids. The only thing they care about more than feminism is their cushy government jobs. That is the only tool that good dads have to ensure their children are cared for.

Thanks, I feel much better now!

[island911]

Originally posted by dmac

. . .
The only thing they care about more than feminism is their cushy government jobs. That is the only tool that good dads have to ensure their children are cared for.

Thanks, I feel much better now!

Oh, thank you! . .great post.

Motion, I totally agree that "they need to do whatever they can to hold it together for another 5 or 6 years."

Not only is it very tough on the kids socially, but they're, essentially being taught it's okay to run-away from an uncomfortable commitment.

It just sucks, on so many levels.

[lateapex911]

This is the scariest thread I've ever read....Sorry for your issues, Super, but, as lame as this sounds you are far from alone....which could be a whole 'nuther tread...