Rudeness.

[island911]

You know those automatic opening doors...

Why is it that people just go on thru, w/o verbalizing a "thank you mystery engineer who designed, mystery architect who specified, owner who bought, mystery power company that powers... thank you, thank you...." ?

Freaking inconsiderate rude people.

[trekkor]

I go nuts when I call a business and I say "good morning" and they respond in such a way that tells me they would rather that I didn't call.

A simple, pleasant greeting means a lot to me. Are they that pressed for time?


KT

[Aerkuld]

Originally Posted by Overpaid Slacker

Here's an etiquette question -- If you're following someone through two sets of doors, and they hold both sets for you do you say "thanks" at the first, the second or both (an instant later than you've said "thanks" for the first)?

I usually go with the first set, and let those regards carry me through the 2nd.

JP

I would normally give a "Thank you" at the first and follow up with "Thanks again" or just "...and again" and a smile at the second.

My Dad will sometimes thank a guy holding a door open with;

"You're a Gentlemen - not many of us left"

I like Tabs' opinion. But I don't think people are deliberately being rude - they're just ignorant.

[Aerkuld]

What about people carrying on a cell phone conversation in the toilet? I find that incredibly rude. I don't even fully approve of guys starting a conversation with you while standing at the urinal - it just seems wrong for some reason.

[Moses]

Originally Posted by Moses

So I pushed the button for the 3rd floor and stepped back.

Originally Posted by island911

Maybe he was irritated that you didn't step back and let him press what ever button he wanted.

You're not the first engineer to have "comprehension" issues.

[livi]

When stepping out on 3# floor you should have pushed the button for 1# floor.

[tabs]

In my experience most people do acknowledge and say, "Thanks"

[futuresoptions]

When I said TWO I meant TWO *********!!!!!!!!

Not Really he! he! but I think I have lost many a date in my life for saying yes and no ma'am.
Some chicks just don't get it........

[Moses]

Originally Posted by tabs

In my experience most people do acknowledge and say, "Thanks"

No doubt.

I think the decline in manners is becoming widespread; the bicyclist who balances himself against my car at the stoplight, the people who forget to say "please" and "thank you" to servers in restaurants, people who are greeted by strangers with "good morning" and return a blank stare. It's getting pretty bad.

[Tishabet]

Two tidbits here:

#1 To Moses's point above about servers in restaurants; one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received is that "A person might treat you well, but if they act rudely or disrespectfully to the waiter/waitress they are trash." In my experience this has been accurate 100% of the time.

#2 I have a clear memory of visiting a local restaurant (fairly nice... not jacket and tie but definitely "dress up") when I was about 15 (about 1995). I pulled my mother's chair out for her and as soon as she had taken her seat a man stood up from a neighboring table and shook my hand and expressed the same sentiments as Aerkuld's dad: "You're a Gentlemen - not many of us left."

[tabs]

Originally Posted by Moses

No doubt.

I think the decline in manners is becoming widespread; the bicyclist who balances himself against my car at the stoplight, the people who forget to say "please" and "thank you" to servers in restaurants, people who are greeted by strangers with "good morning" and return a blank stare. It's getting pretty bad.

Hmmm maybe its just where U live that people are RUDE. BTW don't U live in the Bay Area...lots of self asorbed Liberals up in that neck of the woods...OHH I get it they are tooo busy trying to save us from ourselves to show any politiness. Well because they are tryiung so hard to save us, they should be forgiven their transgressions....Ouppps can't say "forgiven" around them...might upset them and set them off on a tirade about religion or sumthin...can't do that now...might be rude.

[Rick Lee]

My dad opened the door for my mom once and another guy commented to him, "That ain't your wife!" My dad said, "Oh yes she is. And my first one too!"

[Moses]

Originally Posted by tabs

I usually hold the door open for people...I do it out of kindness and humility...

Humility? Man, I love you Tabby! Pure comedy gold.

[dd74]

Don't you guys find it as bad, if not worse, in traffic? Quite a few times I've let someone turn left or pull out of a parking lot in front of me, and they could stare directly at me and not wave or at least mouth a "thank you."

[herr_oberst]

I humbly submit to all who care that I've always held the door for people. Sometimes they say thanks, sometimes not. It doesn't matter if they do, it's just manners, and the way I was taught to behave.

What gets my goat is checkout people who don't give me the time of day while I spend my money. I don't ask much, just a hello. My usual response is to remain silent throughout the entire transaction, and as I silently prepare to leave, give them a good 2 or 3 second stare right between the eyes. I like to think that both of us know at that moment what they did was wrong.

I know that is just being as rude as they are, but I can be a real p**ck with the right provocation, manners or no.

[futuresoptions]

Yeah, I can't stand that when I am giving them all of my food stamps and they can't even give me a simple have a good day sir.....geez what is this world coming to.........

I do feel bad when I forget my manners and maybe forget to hold the door for someone in a hurry, but I usually tell them sorry.... or at the very least feel bad that I did not take the initiative... that is what I feel seperates good people from bad people... bad people show no remourse for their short comings while good people make the honest attempt to change their behavior for positive results in the future.....

[arerrac]

I hate it when................................

You’re walking down a hall in an office building. There is someone walking towards you. Only two of you in the hall. As you meet, the other person either look away at their watch or and something in their hands just to avoid eye contact. I usually say," How are you doing?" if no response, I follow up with a " Hope your doing well???."

[speeder]

I'm a "please and thank you" and hold the door guy, most people respond in kind. If not, they look like an ass, so I don't really care. Good manners, (like Moses's), are really an expression of who you are and your consideration for fellow travelers on this earth.

That said, I live for truly rude people. My attitude is that I am nice to nice people, and mean people had better run when they see me coming. I went to France hoping to meet some of the proto-typical rude frogs, but they never really materialized. I was looking forward to some good old-fashioned monkey-slapping, but everyone was pretty cool. It was right after 9/11, though. Might be different now.

[rcecale]

It all seems so common sense simple but some people just don't have a clue.
If it were my casino I'd put uip a sign that says
THESE ELEVATORS ARE RESERVED FOR INTELLIGENT LIFE. ALL OTHERS USE THE STAIRS

What makes you think they'd be able to read the sign?

Randy

[VenezianBlau 87]

Originally Posted by Overpaid Slacker (edited)

If you're following someone through two sets of doors, and they hold both sets for you do you say "thanks" at the first, the second or both (an instant later than you've said "thanks" for the first)?

I just say "thanks again". Usually doesn't happen that way for me. It's a little goofy when one party opens the first door and the second opens the second door. In the south, usually if I "come in second" as a result of holding the door, the first party will insist I be waited on first. Sort of embarrassing.

Is it a nationwide practice that people pull over to the side of the road when a funeral procession is passing from the opposite direction? That one kinda suprised me when it happened on a divided highway (not unlimited access like an expressway).