Don't do it.

I had my share of girlfriends before getting married. Like you, they were mostly based on sex then it got old and tired and the relationship had no real value to hold it together. Then I met my wife to be. I knew she was the one because I asked her to marry me after only having kissed her, nothing more.

How long have you been married?

I would never get married to begin with, but there's no damn way in hell i'd marry a girl whose goods i had not sampled in advance. That's straight up looniness.

10 years and going strong!

3 pages and STILL no nude pics

My situation was similar, very happily married now.

God bless ya bro.

Without sending this to PARF, He's the transcending part of our life.

I knew a younger guy ("joe") who said that getting married would be like eating pizza every day. It's different every time!! Some times while my wife and I are just "finishing up" we laugh and remark how this ain't no pizza! Poor "joe" has no clue that the Big Guy Upstairs created this experience to not get old.

Anyhow, Schumi, you've set a pace that seems to be working; I think you do need to take it to the next level; not necessarily "all the way", but to each their own of course. Do what works for you both without breaking it.

I'm young enough to not have watched Seinfeld. Here's my advice. Just do it already. It's obvious that you both want it. Don't make her make the first move.

I get bored with the same chick(regardless of the chick) in a matter of 3-6 months.

10 years.....ugh.....

Sniper, you never cease to amaze me.




Thanks for the good advice and thoughts everyone. I've reached that point in my life when I'd like to make something of this. I'm tired of the dead end 2-3 month relationships and one night stands. This is one for the long haul and I know it, I've known it for a year or more but now I'm more certain than then.

Just because you're tired of 2-3 months and done does not mean that tying yourself to the same one is the right solution either amigo. When a marriage ends it is not pretty or cheap. The statistics speak for themselves. You are hoping against hope in today's world that a marriage will work. (IMO the ones that "work" involve the man submitting utterly to the woman anyway, something i'd never do)

I suggest you just give her half your stuff now, before you hate her guts in a few years and doing so fills you with bitterness and resentment.

Not sure if the amaze me comment is an insult or compliment, but hey, it's all good. ;)

She helped you do a clutch job. Marry her now before someone else here does.

:D

As far as how to do it, just do it. And I don't think you should approach it verbally. Just kiss her. Do it sober too, so she can't chalk it up to the booze. One kiss is a lot easier to handle, at least for me, than a 5 minute diatribe about my feelings.

GO FOR IT!!! She helped you with your clutch, seriously... why didn't you kiss her right then and there?! Hell, I'd kiss any of you if you could help me trace my electrical issues with the E30.

+1 on the kiss her comments.

-1 on the marry her comments. :-P

Then you're dating the wrong chicks. Comparing the ability to bang a random skank every few months to what I have in my marriage is laughable. And believe it or not, sex can actually get better with time. Seven years here, zero regrets.

Go with your gut dude. Don't get head over heels stupid, but go with it.

Sniper, I've been married almost 26 years and am very happy. It's nice to have someone who also wants to build not just a relationship, but financial security together. You end up thinking long term. My wife and I are going on our 26th anniversary to WA state to look at vacation/retirement property.

Au contraire, i bang a new random 'skank' pretty much every week. ;)

And honestly, some of them are "nice" college edumactated girls, and not skanks at all. I just get bored woth women- or more appropriately their BS- rather easily.

For those that can make it work, my hat's off to you- honestly. But most everyone i know that has ever been married is now divorced. Some of them are 2 and 3 time losers at it.

For what it's worth though, Schumi, i hope she is the one for you and your marriage lasts 50 years.

Jeez, either get to it already or send me her number. :)

I must admit a chick that can do a clutch job...now that's hot.

Exactly, I need some help with my pedal cluster and my wife at 8.75 months pregnant is too big to fit in the footwell.