Do You / Could You Live Alone?

[johnco]

[QUOTE=Tobra;6547143]I could easily live alone. Probably would end up with too many cars though.[/QUOTE

I wonder if this is why I have waytoomanycarsitis
been alone for 41 years, from 15 to 56. never married. just me against the world, but I've been a loner since early childhood so I really don't even have much experience even being around family very much.

[IROC]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

My wife travels periodically for work. I have a little business travel from time to time. When one of us is gone, I always feel something is missing. She's (almost) always a lot of fun to be around.

This is me. When my wife and kids are gone for a few days my first emotion is excitement that I can work on the 911 and play guitar all the time. A few hours later I wish they were all home.

Plus, my wife is a stay-at-home mom (which I think is very important), so I pay for everything anyway...

[Evans, Marv]

I can do it either way. I didn't get married the first time until I was 32. I always had girlfriends and picked & chose when I wanted company. One reason I didn't get married until then was that I had lots of other things I had to do before I felt I could choose that type of life. I had to work and put myself through college, was in the service for a short while, and generally felt my life was too fluid to settle down. Besides, women were there for the picking & choosing - as I said. One of the reasons I married the first time was that all my friends were and had kids. I started questioning whether it was getting too late in life for me. My wife & I parted after 10 years and without children (she got sick a year after we married & couldn't have kids after that). I was single with a couple of live girlfriends & many casual relationships and ended up married again at 55. After the first time, I never felt any anxiety about marriage and really enjoyed being single and alone, when I was. I could take it either way and take it in stride - happily. I could still be alone and be happy, but I thoroughly enjoy my wife, our relationship, and our life and wouldn't trade her for any amount of money or anyone else. However I always tell her if the time comes when she isn't part of my life, I'll go fishing.

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by dennis in se pa

I am married but like being alone. I go on vacations by myself.

Ditto. My wife doesn't travel for work and her boss is very tough on vacation time. I have more vacation time than I can use and I travel a lot for work. I often take extra days on business trips to do my own thing and take at least one motorcycle trip or go to Europe or the East Coast alone once a year. I love having my wife with me, but it's not always possible and so I enjoy the time by myself. She doesn't understand how any man can be happy alone. I just tell her alone does not equal lonely. I was very happily single before I got married at 36.

[svandamme]

I do whatever the F i want whenever the F i want to do it.

Bought my house in 5 days, Day 1 i started looking for for sale ads, Day 2 and 3 i went checking out houses with the realtors, day 4 went to the banks, day 5 i signed the deal for my house

3 years later, i love my house, i got everything i need.


Try that with a woman around.

[BK911]

The grass is always greener....

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by Evans, Marv

I never felt any anxiety about marriage and really enjoyed being single and alone, when I was. I could take it either way and take it in stride - happily. I could still be alone and be happy, but I thoroughly enjoy my wife, our relationship, and our life and wouldn't trade her for any amount of money or anyone else. However I always tell her if the time comes when she isn't part of my life, I'll go fishing.

That's about it for me as well as well.

Married late (mid 30's) and always lived alone, with few exceptions, never with a girlfriend.

I am by nature and circumstance self contained. One of my wife's worries when we were dating, told to me later, was that she was worried because, "You don't need anything".

Well, we all do but I am comfortable on my own. Make no mistake, my wife and children are the absolute coolest: the tactile sense of being near them, hearing their laughter, the look in their eyes, watching them grow and the hugs good-bye and the joys of hello are the apex of my life.

Nothing I have or will accomplish will mean more.

Rattlsnak: Dude, be careful.

[Chocaholic]

Not me. Love being married and having people around. Life is too short to be alone. Dread the day when my kids begin to move out....and it's coming. Never was a loaner. I ain't Clint.

[Jim Richards]

Originally Posted by Rot 911

Jim I feel the same way. My wife also understands that we don't always have to be doing something together. I don't need "permission" to go on a motorcycle trip or go have a beer with a friend. But I do give her the courtesy of letting her know. She understands that some things I like to do with my guy friends and doesn't get jealous about it.

Sounds just like us, Kurt.

[Bill Douglas]

The thought of it certainly is appealing.

I think a new GF each winter, then be single for the summer.

[Esel Mann]

Originally Posted by mikesride

Married or "coupled" guys...how is your life better because of your situation. Do you sometimes have moments yourself like I am having?

Being married has its advantages. For example, it's much, much easier to hook up. Cheaper too! I tap it every chance I get. In fact I like it so much I am trying to legalize polygamy so I can marry again and then tap away all day long.


Unless you are preparing for the next voyage to the moon or mars, everyone needs time to themselves as well as the ability to do their own thing. It's very healthy. That's a very, very important ingredient for relationships which last.

[motion]

I would much rather experience my life with someone I care about and can grow old with. The challenge is to reach an equilibrium that is satisfying for both of you, and can be sustained. It doesn't get any better than that.

[Roosterrusek]

I love it when my wife goes out of town during the day as I a shyt tons more done than when she is here.

I hate it when my wife goes away at night, I love her in our bed.

This is going to be a toughie when I find a new job in Jax and move there first while she will be staying behind to sell the house. It will be quite the change and I just hope the absence will make our hearts grow fonder.

[Burnin' oil]

Originally Posted by rattlsnak

yep, walked into the house last night at 10:00pm after being gone for 7 days, and as im quietly unpacking my suitcase in the dark, by light of my cell phone, my wife who is laying in bed, but is watching tv, and the FIRST words spoken are her yelling at me to be quiet because she is trying to watch her favorite show.. Yeah, its good to be home..

You sound like the man married to my sister. Not much fun. "Criss-Cross" mean anything to you . . .?


I an happy being a husband and a father, but I would also be happy alone. But, if I was alone I would probably be eating dirt and wiping my butt with leaves. I degenerate pretty quickly when left to my own devices.

[wdfifteen]

I feel a sense of relief when I'm alone for a few days and I make a point of being alone for 24 hours or so every couple of weeks. Occasionally I need to go away for a few days. I really need alone time to recharge. I kind of miss the days when I was alone more often than not. I have slept without another human in my bed for the past three years and I don't ever want to have to share my bed with anything bigger than my 12 pound dog again.

[vash]

live alone..yes.

be alone...no.

big difference. i got married late in life. dated a bunch of different women. the only one i lived with was my current now wife. i did love single life. but as more and more of my single friends got married my outlook changed.

something very fulfilling knowing you have someone's back, and they have yours.

[Bill Douglas]

Originally Posted by vash

and more of my single friends got married my outlook changed.

I know what you mean. Everyone's life changes, and so it should, and these old friends arn't around to go to the pub or see a movie, so you have to change also.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by Chocaholic

Not me. Love being married and having people around. Life is too short to be alone. Dread the day when my kids begin to move out....and it's coming. Never was a loaner. I ain't Clint.

Hah! I have a friend like that. But I would say, "Life is too short to have all these frikkin' people jabbering at me."
I hate, hate, trying to enjoy a good meal when there are people at the table talking. A lot of people love a "dinner party," but when I'm at one and someone asks, "How was the steak?" I'm likely to answer, "I don't know. There were too many people talking to me for me to notice." Amazing how different people are.

[vas930]

Lived alone in the Australian bush for three years.
Sometimes I would not see anyone for weeks.
The best thing I ever did.

[Burnin' oil]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

Hah! I have a friend like that. But I would say, "Life is too short to have all these frikkin' people jabbering at me."
I hate, hate, trying to enjoy a good meal when there are people at the table talking. A lot of people love a "dinner party," but when I'm at one and someone asks, "How was the steak?" I'm likely to answer, "I don't know. There were too many people talking to me for me to notice." Amazing how different people are.

You're as rude as I am.

I had to pause the Super Bowl and tell, in a firm voice, all the wimmen folk to take their yakkin' elsewhere and suddenly I'm the bad guy.