Do You / Could You Live Alone?

[porsche4life]

Lived with my folks the first 18 yrs... Had a room mate the first year of college. Liked most of it. have lived alone the last two years. I won't live alone forever, just a matter of finding the right person.

[scottmandue]

I got married at.... 52!!!! In 2010.

We live in different states... she is going to move in with me but we agreed that we would let her daughter finish high school (GPA 4.0 AP classes, into sports, ballet, church, great group of friend, doesn't drink or smoke or fool around with boys).

So thirty some years of living alone and now in September my wife is moving in... I'm terrified!

Funny thing is I tell people that we are married but see each other every other weekend... first they roll their eyes and say "that is crazy!" and walk away... then after a few minutes the guys come back and say "ya know... that doesn't sound so bad."

For me thirty years of doing my own thing is enough... so what if she wants to paint the walls and move the furniture around... BFD... it is only stuff.

I decorated my first apartment... it looked like a bar.

I drywalled the inside of my first house... didn't paint the interior until I went to sell it.

To say my life needed a womans touch would be a gross understatement.

We finish each others sentences... it is almost borderline creep how we can read each others mind.

Life is and adventure... bring it on!

[GH85Carrera]

We eat out every Friday evening. On a regular basis I will write down the name of a restaurant and put that in my pocket. I ask her what she is hungry for and where she wants to eat. 75 or 80% of the time I have picked the same place. We have a lot of places to pick from. Many times when we go someplace new we will both order the same thing from the menu.

[rnln]

It's different in stages of age, I guess. When I was single, I sometimes wonder how can my dad and other men can be with one woman all his life. I had more than 1 girlsfriend before I got married and I couldn't feel that I can be faithful to any of them after over a year max trying to be faithful to them, some even after a month. I suddently married my wife now and my life has changed completely. I come home right after work. Try to save money for the family. Wherever I go, I love to have my whole family with me. I can't imagine that I can be alone again, especially without my kids.
If it's not a wife, only a GF and not my kids, then it's different story.

[Dueller]

Being divorced/seperated now for 18 months after 7+ years of living in a crazy estro-fest,,,,I can honestly say I enjoy living alone albeit with frequent and varied doses of female company. Variety is thye spice of life for me. lol

[Superman]

I live alone. I have a wonderful GF, who has her own place. Economics may soon force a combining of resources. I may go live with her. Again, she is wonderful.

But these past half-dozen years of living mostly alone.....have been a huge blessing for me. I really need quiet time. I need alone-time. Lots of it. It centers me. I've been thinking of going on a walkabout. Couple weeks or so in the wilderness. Alone. That would be helpful to my state of mind.

Some of you should try it out. Not just alone time, but also silence. Three days or so of silence and you start to feel differently. You start to sort of "clean out," emotionally. Your internal dialogue will become patient and poignant.

[wdfifteen]

Originally Posted by Superman

But these past half-dozen years of living mostly alone.....have been a huge blessing for me. I really need quiet time. I need alone-time. Lots of it. It centers me. I've been thinking of going on a walkabout. Couple weeks or so in the wilderness. Alone. That would be helpful to my state of mind.

Some of you should try it out. Not just alone time, but also silence. Three days or so of silence and you start to feel differently. You start to sort of "clean out," emotionally. Your internal dialogue will become patient and poignant.

Sounds wonderful to me! Let's do it together - you do it in New Zealand and I'll go to Tibet.

[911boost]

THis topic is very much at the fore front of my mind right now.

I just recently moved into my own house after being married for close to 14 years. I am still going through the divorce process but we still get along and have two young children we need to work together in order to raise properly.

I haven't been single since the mid 1990's and have only lived with my wife in a house. I am currently renting a house in the same neighborhood we lived in so the kids would be close to their friends and ride the same bus.

Do I miss my wife, yes. Do I know that a relationship takes two people to be successful, yes. Am I looking forward to riding my motorcyle, driving the Porsche and working on the cars more with my free time, yes.

Life moves on, you either move on with it or it passes you by.

Bill

[Scuba Steve]

I lived alone for a few years after getting out of grad school and before getting married. Wish I could go back... We fight all the time about decisions she and I made together like nothing is ever her responsibility. Things were easier when I was alone... Just me, the dog and a fishtank. No fighting.

[azasadny]

Originally Posted by Jim Richards

My wife travels periodically for work. I have a little business travel from time to time. When one of us is gone, I always feel something is missing. She's (almost) always a lot of fun to be around.

Amen! I don't know what I would do without my wife...

[Danimal16]

Originally Posted by VINMAN

Yep. Id be happy with one of these... as long as I have a 3 car garage behind it...

Vinny,

I just read the first part of your post and looked away thinking the same thing a three car garage. LOL

[Danimal16]

The guys that posted on the happily married thread shed alot of light on this subject. I still hold out hope that maybe someday I will find that special golden retriever.
I do just fine living alone and envy those of you that have a great companion! As others have posted, it is different for each of us. Having someone you can trust in every way is important. No trust, well I'd rather live alone and hang out with friends and family, you know, people you can trust. I like women and their companionship but the last one left me a bit gun shy.

[944Larry]

I've had the same woman for 36 years. Can't imagine it any other way.

[juanbenae]

sometimes my married with children friends lavish me with the "you have it so made" living alone and having not ever been married. i remind them that in 20 years when we are well into our 60's who's house will i go to for the holidays? who's gunna cook me a birthday cake? i remind them that their kids are hopefully going to wipe their asses and do what's best for them when they are no longer capable of deciding such. always greener elsewhere..

my divorced friends that have lost half of everything lavish me in "you're such a douche" having not gone through the war of the roses... always greener...

it is still cool to work on my racecar when, how often, & spend what i want when i want on it... also found dating chicks with kids means they don't require every minute of your time. good thing.

got to go, mcqueen is buggin me to feed him. see, im never really alone, and never, ever lonely

[aigel]

I don't like to live alone, never have. I'd get a roommate though before I'd have a live-in GF that doesn't make me happy and keeps me from my hobbies and friends.

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[Joeaksa]

Originally Posted by herr_oberst

That's me all the way. I'd live in an airstream inside a warehouse and I think I'd be in heaven. It's my secret goal.

I lived in a 30 foot Airstream for about 5 years while going back to school in the late 1970's and am thinking of getting an RV in the next couple of years and doing it again. Thinking that a 34 foot pusher with a Cat or Cummins diesel would do nicely to retire in.

That said, I would suppliment it with a large hangar and workshop (ala Tim Hancock) where all the toys would reside. No way I can move from a 2700 sq foot house with a 2 car garage straight into a RV.

On the subject of being alone or not, I have been alone now since divorcing 12 years ago. Dated from time to time but frankly am just too happy by myself and unless I find the right woman who I really click with, am prolly going to stay alone. Love the ladies but so many of them are not worth putting up with for the company nor sex.

My Father was the total opposite and could not do it alone, and lived (and died) with an absolute beyotch (not my Mother) that made his life hell. In his last months we talked about it and he finally admitted that could he do it over again that he would be single again... Yes, I learned from him and will not make the same mistake!

Joe A

[Joeaksa]

Originally Posted by motion

I would much rather experience my life with someone I care about and can grow old with. The challenge is to reach an equilibrium that is satisfying for both of you, and can be sustained. It doesn't get any better than that.

Somewhat disagree... the real challenge is to find that person who you can really share life with as you have evidently done. I would get married again tomorrow if I found someone who I really enjoyed spending time with...

Agree about the "It does not get any better than that" part and miss the good times I had with the ex. Do not miss her draining the bank accounts (and she made more $$ than I did) nor the arguments...

[ramonesfreak]

as i approach 40 in a matter of days, and as my health gets worse as the years go by, the only thing that scares me about being alone is being able to pay the bills and dying alone in a shack somewhere where my corpse will rot for weeks before being discovered by a turkey hunter. i will have no children to help me. i will have no wife to urge me to get medical attention, to make sure i have healthy food in the house or arrange my funeral or dispose of my things when im dead

are these reasons to go out looking for a wife? probably not.

lets be honest here. the real reason why most of us who live alone prefer it, is not because we dont like the company of a good woman, but because we are bastards who are impossible to live with for one reason or another.

[1990C4S]

Originally Posted by ramonesfreak

lets be honest here. the real reason why most of us who live alone prefer it, is not because we dont like the company of a good woman, but because we are bastards who are impossible to live with for one reason or another.

Or we are afraid that is true and living alone allows us to deny it....

[JCF]

Originally Posted by vash

live alone..yes.

be alone...no.

big difference.