Now what?

[billybek]

I will change my vote to the no side since you are happily married.

[ckelly78z]

I've been married 28 years and we completely trust each other after all this time. I still would not invite trouble by meeting this woman, it can only cause a mistunderstanding and a break of that trust you do have built up.....NO !

[Crowbob]

32 years of wedded bliss and a meet-up for drinks with an old GF are not compatible realities. A buddy of mine got a similar call. As he was not married they had a meet.

She turned out to be looney-toons, 3 marriages under her belt with her fourth on the rocks. Mild stalking ensued.

Etc...

[cairns]

Same sort of thing happened to me (I didn't go). She was divorced from an abusive husband still trying to make ends meet with her "art".

She dumped me in high school and then had sex with all my friends.

No thanks.

[Dan J]

What Junior says

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DaEzT5MusFs

[fastfredracing]

[ckelly78z]

For the sake of our entertainment, contact this woman and arrange a meet and greet, videotape it, and post it here for everyone to see. Remember, it didn't happen if there is no pics/video.

[Baz]

Originally Posted by Grog

NO!!! absolutely not. My wife went to see an old boy friend from 30 years ago to ask him why he just disappeared on her. True Love all over again. Now I'm in the middle of a divorce. Why would you do that to your wife? how do u think she would feel? I can tell you she will feel like ****. Why would you disrespect her like that? You made a vow, stick to it. If you have to see this lady, get divorced first. Did I say don't ****ing do it? I want to kick your ass for even thinking about it. Now do you get a idea how she will feel? My wife left me with 2 kids ,1 cat, 2 dogs and her horse. Plus all the bills while she lives out her life with her dream guy.

Good riddance......you ended up with all the animals......that's a win, bro!

[Scuba Steve]

Originally Posted by Bill Douglas

Harmless, go for it.

AND report back to us as soon as possible.

This, and post pics!

[masraum]

Originally Posted by Hugh R

Sure, I was 28 thirty five years ago. I still have all my hair and six pack abs. I'm sure she still has a 36-24-36 figure buried in there somewhere.

There, finished it for you

[masraum]

Originally Posted by 1975porsche

Yes Iam married ! 32 years happy

So what did your wife say when you asked her the same question?

Or even just told her "Wow, weird, you're never going to believe this honey. Susy just emailed me to ask me out for a drink! Is that crazy or what?"

After you did that ^ what was your wife's reaction?

[kach22i]

Originally Posted by 1975porsche

Yesterday I get a text from an old girlfriend (35 years ago) she would like to meet for a drink, should I go? She has no kids younger than 27 so not that, very curious.!!!

Drink should be coffee or tea for starters, but I suggest sticking to a single phone call.

A few years ago an old "friend" wanted to talk to me, she went though my brother via Facebook to get me her number. I saw she had talent taking nature photos, and went with the game plan of encouraging her to purse it as any friend would.

On the phone the whole time I knew she was looking for a way out of her miserable life, using the oldest tool in her toolbox (her vagina). I wanted no part of that.

You can still be a friend without sticking it in, you just need a script, and then stick to it.

Who knows, you may help her find a little peace in life.

Remember, you got off that bus ride a long time ago for a reason, no going back. You are simply on a different route now.

If done correctly I don't see how checking your rear view mirror does anything but add perspective to your own life choices. You may find out you did more things right than wrong, and feel pretty good about yourself.

[Seahawk]

I'd go without telling the wife. It is your life, Amigo: vivir la vida sin remordimientos

Besides, think of the money you'll save on not needing to buy a 33rd Wedding Anniversary present.

[MBAtarga]

Take your wife out for dinner instead. Then have wild weasel sex when you get home.

[wildthing]

Can you qualify happily married? Have you ever lied via omission to your wife? E.g. That side trip to Vegas, or that extended night out, or that massage parlor visit, maybe even that $1000 purchase for a Porsche part that she will not see.

If you have done that before, then sure... Just make sure you go to a place least likely for her friends to see you.

[Joe Bob]

What could happen? Maybe you would realize why you didn't strangle back then.....

[herr_oberst]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

I'd go without telling the wife. It is your life, Amigo: vivir la vida sin remordimientos

Besides, think of the money you'll save on not needing to buy a 33rd Wedding Anniversary present.

Nailed. It.

[creaturecat]

no liquor, for sure. if you do decide to push your luck.

[ossiblue]

Think for a second. What would motivate you to contact an old girlfriend after 35 years, in the context of "meeting for a drink?" If you're honest with yourself, you'll say "no" to the invite, tell your wife about it, and the both of you have a little laugh.

Your curiosity will not be satisfied, but you can fantasize that the ex still "wants" you after all these years, to the same degree that you "want" her--or any other of your long time exes. Long term memory tends to contain only the good things, especially about former lovers.

[recycled sixtie]

After a few years of living with my wife she wanted to go see an old boyfriend. Of course she asked me to go along. The old boyfriend was married as well. We all had a good visit.

In your situation I would suggest taking your wife along. You do value your marriage right? Now turn it around and your wife wanted to see an old boyfriend would you want to be asked to go along or not?

The grass is not always greener on the other side. There was a good reason why you broke up before with the old flame.