Starting Over - Dating when you're 60

[WPOZZZ]

I would just take things one day at a time. There is no rush into finding someone else, unless you are the type that needs someone. Enjoy the solace, and do what you want, when you want. You may enjoy that more than having a partner.

My gf went to Korea for 3 months last year and it was wonderful! She didn't have to deal with me and I didn't have to deal with her. It was a nice break and I bought a bunch of cars. lol Also, not being responsible for someone was enlightening.

[john70t]

Without a soul, you cant be a soulmate to anyone else later on.

There is some Nietzsche quote about "To accept a polluted river, you must be an ocean".
Something like that.

[Rusty Heap]

Originally Posted by wilnj

^^^^^^^
THIS!

Do me a favor. Go here.

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Fish On!

My last boat adventure was in Bali Indonesia. Live aboard dive boats more my style.

[jcommin]

Originally Posted by IROC

My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).

It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.

This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.

I got blindsided in 2006 when my ex told me she was moving out and wanted a separation. My oldest was 18 at the time, my youngest was 12. This was a very tuff period. I focused around my kids. We went out to dinner, attended sporting events, car shows and generally anything to keep busy. My youngest eventually moving with his mom, my oldest elected to stay with me but he eventually moved out to live with friends and eventually with his mom.

The house became empty and depressing to live in. I hated weekends - it was a very dark time. The separation soon became a divorce and the house was put up for sale in 2010. Four years of stuff that I don't care to comment on but when I finally got my own place, my oldest moved in with me and when my youngest graduated HS, he moved in with me too.

I remain very close to both boys. Both have moved on and do not live nearby. We still go out to dinner, sporting events, car shows and other stuff. It is about spending time, no judgement and every conversation it is between us. They feel safe talking to me and I do not speak any ill will toward their mom. I make an effort to be a sane and stable parent.

[Chocaholic]

Originally Posted by Gretch

the solution:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-11818761/How-really-masturbating-Doctors-verdict.html

Wait a minute…this expert says I should be pumping the professor 21 times each month! And he doesn’t say if that’s in addition to sex…ya know…with someone.

At 64 years old, this could become a full time endeavor! No time for golf, cars or naps. Just choking the chicken without regard for anything else. Well…it is important to be healthy.

Signing off now…there are chores to attend to.

[1990C4S]

Originally Posted by jcommin

The house became empty and depressing to live in. I hated weekends - it was a very dark time. The separation soon became a divorce and the house was put up for sale in 2010. Four years of stuff that I don't care to comment on but when I finally got my own place, my oldest moved in with me and when my youngest graduated HS, he moved in with me too.

There is more of this than 'inexperienced commenters' realize.

[Seahawk]

Serious subject, I know, but once in a while:

[craigster59]

[Gretch]

/\/\ *****ezz be RUTHLESS! /\/\

gotta love it!

[Baz]

A great line in "San Andreas Fault" by The Rock...."I need my me time."

[RANDY P]

Originally Posted by craigster59

Yeaa boy!

rjp

[Skillet83]

Been with the woman of my dreams for 33 years. This chit is so sad. Sorry and prayers for the guys going through this crap. Could not imagine.

[sc_rufctr]

I'm not enthusiastically recommending this but...

"Renting" is an option (the world's oldest profession) - A business transaction with no strings attached?

Not great but certainly a lot better than hooking up with a gold digger.

[Jeff Hail]

Tell us you've got the dog?

[Bill Douglas]

Do beware of internet dating. You'll meet some real horrors out there.

One girl, looked like a little angel, half my age and wanted to go out with me on a Saturday night. She came around to my place on the Sunday. I said "What happened to you, we were meant to go out last night?" She said "Don't go on at me, I've just got home from my Thursday night date." Eww, eww, eww

Another one, we started dating, then as we got to know eachother I decided I didn't like her. I said to her "I think you are too promiscuous for me, and we should stop seeing eachother." She said "What? Me promiscuous! I've only sleep with three other guys since we started going out together." Again Eww, eww, eww

I think I'd rather be single.

[IROC]

Originally Posted by Jeff Hail

Tell us you've got the dog?

You can’t make this stuff up. My dog died last fall. Old age, but a big mass in his abdomen and internal bleeding. I took him to vet to be euthanized and rubbed his head as they put him to sleep…

[jcommin]

Originally Posted by IROC

^^Really? I never would have imagined this. I never expected to be divorced at this point in my life. I fully expected to live happily ever after. I won't go into the details, but this divorce isn't my idea and I can honestly say I put a lot (!) of effort into trying to make the marriage work.

But...it is what it is. I didn't choose this. My wife moves out in less than two weeks. I honestly don't know what I am going to do. We are selling the house, so I will move (into a rental) when our house is under contract. I'm staying in it until then. We have kids (1 in college, two that aren't yet) so there is that.

My plan is to focus on me (and my kids) and not worry about anything else. I have zero desire to date at this point. Maybe in 6 months or a year. My fear is what Norm wrote above - I won't even be looking for something and I will meet somebody.

We'll see. I am not interested right now. I spent the last 2+ years bending over backwards to make this work and I am emotionally worn out.

You do everything you can but you are only good for 100% of your 50% in a relationship. In the end, I was beaten, I tried allot to save a marriage - it is like filling up a glass with no bottom.

I attended a marriage consulting session with my ex and she just ranted about what I did/didn't do. I didn't try hard enough, so she said I tried to defend what I did and ultimately gave up. I haven ever quit on anything but this just beat me. I tried but couldn't. The consular replied, " nothing I could do wouldn't have made a difference. I thought to myself, Why didn't I see this years ago.

It took me years to stop feeling sorry for myself and I got tired of beating myself up.

I really feel what you are going through. Be good to yourself, surround yourself with a support group be it family, friends, your spiritual advisor or professionals. You will get thru this

[RM512]

Jim, I feel your pain. Funny how similar things happen.

When I was married, women approached me on a regular basis, many missed opportunities. I swear, the day we were divorced, that all ended. Like a curse

[A930Rocket]

Ms. Rocket said we need to see a counselor and she made an appointment. I got to the office and the therapist said where is Mrs. rocket? I said she couldn’t make it. He was pissed. He picked up the phone, called her and told her I’m not the one with the problem. haha!

[stevej37]

Dear Robot...

Edit: Thanks...the Bot from Botswana with botulism is bye-bye.