Starting Over - Dating when you're 60

[Gretch]

the solution:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-11818761/How-really-masturbating-Doctors-verdict.html

[craigster59]

Originally Posted by Seahawk

I have friends that met online, at a party, etc.: I met my wife 34 years ago at Tuesday Night Taco Night at the NAS Patuxent River O'Club for goodness sake. She was a flight test engineer at the time.

Like BB, I am a truly lucky man.

I was going to suggest joining the Army and requesting an assignment in Germany. Worked for me 45 years ago!

[911 Rod]

Originally Posted by GH85Carrera

The OP was about turning 60 and dating. That is less of a problem for most guys than when they were in their 20s or 30s.

We are all different I guess.

[john70t]

Originally Posted by Gretch

the solution:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-11818761/How-really-masturbating-Doctors-verdict.html

Not sure about that but really don't know.
Men have lower testosterone these days. About half from that a hundred years ago. Cold water, breathing the jewels, and exercise increases it. The prostate needs to be cycled.
Higher estrogen levels in men has been linked to weight gain. But the weird thing is Asians eat soy and carbs and usually not affected by this.

[Rick Lee]

Originally Posted by cantdrv55

But what if you need to get laid every couple of days or three? That’d get real expensive with a professional.

A top shelf hooker on weekly retainer would still be cheaper than getting cleaned out in a divorce. If you really want to be a player, there are plenty of women out there who just want a no-strings-attached fook buddy. Grab one or two of them, so you always have a guaranteed lay when you want one, but then never come across as needy while dating potential serious LTR women. I know it sounds sleazy, but it sure worked for me a long time ago. Only one woman got her feelings hurt and I made amends with her a year or two later when I walked into a random restaurant for lunch and she was the only person there.

[Gretch]

Since cooch is all cougars on the gold-brick-road have, they often think it is the ultimate weapon of last resort, ANNNNNNNNNNND........ they ALWAYS over value it.

Slippery slope............ wear cleats!

[IROC]

My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).

It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.

This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by IROC

My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).

It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.

This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.

why did she say we was leaving?

[john70t]

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[Danimal16]

Originally Posted by IROC

My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).

It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.

This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.

Mike, there will be downsides, rough times etc. BUT, they are transient and you got it right, it is an adventure. Best to you.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by john70t

Probably boredom and she still hasn't been made Queen of Something yet.
Depression and false social expectations screw up women's heads.

i think you should let him respond if he can/wants to.

[masraum]

My condolences to both of you. My understanding is that losing a spouse is about the most stress a person can go through.

But, this is the beginning of a new adventure. Enjoy the adventure.

[john70t]

Originally Posted by cockerpunk

i think you should let him respond if he can/wants to.

You're entirely right. Sorry.
Iroc et al you'll get through this. Keep yourself healthy in the meantime for the after.

[IROC]

Originally Posted by john70t

You're entirely right. Sorry.
Iroc et al you'll get through this. Keep yourself healthy in the meantime for the after.

Oh for sure this is a subject for a whole additional thread of its own. But...all I will say is that it didn't involve any infidelity or wrong-doing on my part (not that I don't bear some responsibility). I tried to hold it together, but marriage requires two willing participants...

[Evans, Marv]

My former wife & her husband stayed here for three days last week. She was here visiting old friends from fourty years ago. We remained in touch and communicated over the years, expecially after a (sort of) cooling off period. She's married to a really nice guy for the past thirty some years who I like a lot. She's lucky to have him. I hadn't seen him since the late 80s. We were marreied for ten years and grew apart professionally, socially, and other ways that weakened the emotional connection. I hadn't spent time with/around her (them) for many years and am glad I'm not still entangled with her but still wish her well. In my situation back then, I felt a huge relief and weight off my shoulders after we parted ways. We'd had a lot of good times, but it was time to go a different way, and I looked forward to it. It's a big change in life and style (& maybe finances), but that doesn' mean there isn't a life to look forward to. You have lots more life experience in all aspects. Just make sure you employ it to the best in a positive way.

[Otter74]

To the OP, I'll be another one to suggest waiting a good long while. You've been married for 35 years and you're not even divorced yet, and trying to date now is, whatever else it is, a huge cliche. There are a lot of women in their 60s who were married to men who they spent decades taking care of, and glad as hell to be able to live their own lives. The last thing they want is another man like that.

[911 Rod]

Just go fishing and collect your thoughts.

[Gretch]

Originally Posted by IROC

My soon-to-be ex-wife told me this morning that she is moving out next Thursday (and taking the kids).

It's going to be awfully quiet around the house. That still doesn't make me want to start dating.

This thread has been interesting (and helpful). I have pretty much been focusing on the 'bad' when she leaves, but some of the stories above indicate this might be somewhat of an adventure.

The peace and quiet may well be profoundly liberating..........

You got lemons???????? make lemonade.

The fishing idea is the best one I have heard yet............... go fishing EVERYWHERE............. you will NEVER run out of places to fish...........

[Tobra]

Originally Posted by VINMAN

Wow... some judgemental dudes on here.

Just one dude.

Originally Posted by Evans, Marv

Oh, & edit: Sex can be fun your you, but for lots of women it means a permanent relationship.

es Verdat

Originally Posted by IROC

My plan is to focus on me (and my kids) and not worry about anything else. I have zero desire to date at this point. Maybe in 6 months or a year. My fear is what Norm wrote above - I won't even be looking for something and I will meet somebody.

We'll see. I am not interested right now. I spent the last 2+ years bending over backwards to make this work and I am emotionally worn out.

It is Mike time, savor it.

Things happen when it is time for them to happen. When it comes, it will be like a bolt of lightning, you'll see.

Sounds like you have both your feet on the ground already.

I married and divorced at a young age. She was pretty horrible for a while about taking the kids out of town when I came to visit. I explained how expensive it would be if she did it again, so that stopped, but she continued to trash me, no doubt. I told wife #2 that the ex would get them for their childhood, I would get them as adults. Turned out just like that. When I met the young lady who my son married, the four of us sat and talked for hours, literally When they left, she said, "You are nothing like I thought you would be." I thanked her, then when they were gone, asked the wife what that was all about. "Who do you think told her about you."

I never talked bad about the ex in front of the kids, and forbid my family from expressing their opinions of her in front of the kids. Neither the son-in-law or daughter-in-law want anything to do with the ex, but love the current wife, go figure.

Originally Posted by Gretch

As a single, financially independent, stable man (or about to be), You are a RARE commodity and about to be seriously contested over by the "she-critters" .

No doubt

[wilnj]

Originally Posted by Gretch

The peace and quiet may well be profoundly liberating..........

You got lemons???????? make lemonade.

The fishing idea is the best one I have heard yet............... go fishing EVERYWHERE............. you will NEVER run out of places to fish...........

^^^^^^^
THIS!

Do me a favor. Go here.

https://tropicstar.com/

Tell me all about it when you get back. It’s on my bucket list but I’m about to embark on tuition bills so who knows when I’ll get the chance.


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