I've got $2M. Where to spend it?

[1979-930]

Originally Posted by Matt Monson

My dad and stepmom are here this week. He’s a retired CPA and is assisting me with converting my books to quick books after the older program we used was discontinued by Microsoft. Anyway, just last night I was talking with my stepmom about my little brother. I started by how I like to watch my 2yo sleep. She responded that she used to watch my brother sleep when he was 14. He was such an insufferable little shyte that she needed to do that to remember he was still beautiful. Now he does double duty as a special ed teacher and assistant manager at a Boys Club. They find their way, just like we did.

I'm sure you are correct. But I need to forcefully guide the direction while he is young and I still can. I can't tolerate laziness.

I scare him with working for me if he doesn't get a degree. I should get a shovel with his name engraved on it so he knows what is waiting for him.

[Matt Monson]

Originally Posted by 1979-930

I'm sure you are correct. But I need to forcefully guide the direction while he is young and I still can. I can't tolerate laziness.

I scare him with working for me if he doesn't get a degree. I should get a shovel with his name engraved on it so he knows what is waiting for him.

It's too late to forcefully do anything with him. We say that 18 is an adult, but at 16 he's well on his way to being his own person. My dad learned that the hard way. 3 of the 4 of us had really bad relationships with him for a decade or more because of his attempts to push us a certain way counter to his claims that he would love us just the same regardless of what we decided to do with our lives. It doesn't work. The best thing you can do for him is let him fall down and pick himself up.

[NYNick]

Originally Posted by Matt Monson

It's too late to forcefully do anything with him. We say that 18 is an adult, but at 16 he's well on his way to being his own person. My dad learned that the hard way. 3 of the 4 of us had really bad relationships with him for a decade or more because of his attempts to push us a certain way counter to his claims that he would love us just the same regardless of what we decided to do with our lives. It doesn't work. The best thing you can do for him is let him fall down and pick himself up.

Maybe. But he's a 16 year old. Not exactly apt to make the best life long decisions without some sound guidance.

I always let them make their own decisions, but those decisions were (hopefully) heavily influenced by our continued brain washing of what were the best decisions for them to make.

Once again, it ain't easy.

[1979-930]

Originally Posted by Matt Monson

It's too late to forcefully do anything with him. We say that 18 is an adult, but at 16 he's well on his way to being his own person. My dad learned that the hard way. 3 of the 4 of us had really bad relationships with him for a decade or more because of his attempts to push us a certain way counter to his claims that he would love us just the same regardless of what we decided to do with our lives. It doesn't work. The best thing you can do for him is let him fall down and pick himself up.

By forcefully I mean not giving him anything and making him earn it.
Whether it's with good grades or getting a job he needs to earn his way at this age and going forward.
Cars don't run on water and phone companies only take cash.

[NYNick]

Originally Posted by 1979-930

By forcefully I mean not giving him anything and making him earn it.
Whether it's with good grades or getting a job he needs to earn his way at this age and going forward.
Cars don't run on water and phone companies only take cash.

Again, maybe. You know your son best, but this is a dangerous age for so many reasons. I had my eyes and ears wide open during this time period of my kids lives and you should too.
They can get in a lot of trouble as teenagers, some of which is devastating, some of which is stupid, some of which is just dumb fun.

(You know how to know when they're lying? Their lips are moving)

Best of luck.

[Rawknees'Turbo]

Originally Posted by NYNick

. . . .

(You know how to know when they're lying? Their lips are moving)

. . .

Ha ha, aint dat da truth! No kids of my own, but I spent so many years working with that approximate age group that I got to see the serial lying over and over - pretty much the norm for even the "good" kids! And just think, our current leader never morphed out of that phase, and in fact, he reversed-evolved!!!

[Alan A]

And then it had to get political.
FFS.

[Matt Monson]

Originally Posted by Alan A

And then it had to get political.
FFS.

Only if you engage. If you scroll on by and ignore the comment it doesn't become a thing.

[nathanbs]

Originally Posted by Matt Monson

Only if you engage. If you scroll on by and ignore the comment it doesn't become a thing.

Amen. Now I made it religious

[Matt Monson]

Originally Posted by nathanbs

Amen. Now I made it religious

Thoughts and prayers.

[Rawknees'Turbo]

Build the wall!!!

[Matt Monson]

Originally Posted by Rawknees'Turbo

Build the wall!!!

They did. It fell over. Probably the Chinese steel and concrete.

[Rawknees'Turbo]

Originally Posted by Matt Monson

They did. It fell over. Probably the Chinese steel and concrete.

I hear that the current administration is claiming that the concrete and steel used was laced with coronavirus!

[Matt Monson]

Originally Posted by Rawknees'Turbo

I hear that the current administration is claiming that the concrete and steel used was laced with coronavirus!

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