Neighbors - Uncomfortable

[nota]

DO NOT get too close to the neighbors
BECAUSE you can't get very far away from them

[livi]

What Milt said. Exactly.

Ainīt Judgment day yet.

[red-beard]

Is the name of the woman neighbor "Mary" by any chance?

Let me describe her: Fake blond. She doesn't like other women. She has an obsessive personality. She is very sexual and is always "looking around". She is not into make up.

How close am I?

[pookie]

I agree with the you never know what was going on behind closed doors. Could have been a verbally abusive relationship and that's why she was so focused on training and working out. If they were "barflys" then they probably had very little in common and when she found her new one they had a shared interest as well. Were they married or just "living in sin" as my dad would say. Either way there's nothing you can do. I'd be cordial but not go out of my way. However that's just me. We've been fortunate to have some really good neighbors, and some real whack jobs too. Freaking hermits now, who you never see. The garage door goes up they pull out of the garage and go to work, come home garage door goes up they pull inside never to be seen again. I'd be cordial at least, no sense in being rude.

[TerryH]

Originally posted by jorian
This is why I don't do triathlons....

Heck, you can live on the same block for 20 years and not know your neighbors. In our older neighborhood we share house keys with two neighbors and nothing but nods and waves with many others. I think it is the age difference as some are 80 and some are 30.

My triathlon is hitting McDonalds, Taco Bell, and Burger King in the same day. It's really a work out. but I've successfully completed it..... too many times.

[RickM]

Believe it or not this exact scenario played out with a friend and his wife (Triathlons and all). Only difference...he had three kids with her.

[Jeff Higgins]

A married guy here at work started banging his triathalon training partner about ten years ago. They actually competed as a team; he swam and rode, she ran. There was some local deal that did it that way. Boy was he ever motivated to train. I was still riding a lot back then so, we rode almost every day together.

Then his wife found out. Very nice lady, but a homebody couch-potato type, starting to get a little chunky. So he did the right thing and stopped seeing his triathalon partner, and had to stop competing to avoid running into her. He is still married now, ten years later, but he's a big fat middle-aged slob now. Still a great guy, but the incentive to train is gone. His partner has been through several more since him. He does look back fondly at the days he was her "boy toy", though.

[red-beard]

Originally posted by pookie
I agree with the you never know what was going on behind closed doors. Could have been a verbally abusive relationship and that's why she was so focused on training and working out. If they were "barflys" then they probably had very little in common and when she found her new one they had a shared interest as well. Were they married or just "living in sin" as my dad would say. Either way there's nothing you can do. I'd be cordial but not go out of my way. However that's just me. We've been fortunate to have some really good neighbors, and some real whack jobs too. Freaking hermits now, who you never see. The garage door goes up they pull out of the garage and go to work, come home garage door goes up they pull inside never to be seen again. I'd be cordial at least, no sense in being rude.

No, I expect that she is one of these crazy driven people, like my ex-wife, Mary. If she had focused that energy into our marriage and her work, she wouldn't have been fired and we might still be together.

[kach22i]

My ex-boss was 46 when he married the 23 year old snipe that was working for him. His ex-wife was big and fat, the new girl worked out a lot. When the new girl got all she could take (almost ten years) she split with a guy she met at a triathlon.

The old guy had Polio as a child, walked with a limp and was a diabetic, not like he could join her in her sport.

Just another story, no point.

[Sonic dB]

People, women...have a way of rationalizing things such as this so that they do not feel guilty. Often, it comes in the form of blaming the former lover for his "faults" which drove her to seek another. This allows her to escape the gravity of the situation easier.

Probably what happened was that this guy was around her during the triathlons, which of course led to her further interest in them and being gone during the weekends etc. You could replace "triathlon" with just about any type of activity and this scenario has probably played out in the past in this world.

My advice would be to just leave it alone. Dont be friendly other than a nod or corresponding wave across the street. No social activity and certainly no discussions with them or other neighbors about their business. Let her have her business to herself, its not your ball game.

[scottmandue]

Originally posted by livi
What Milt said. Exactly.

Ainīt Judgment day yet.

I agree also...

As was said in a recent related thread some times people get married and then over time grow apart (develop different interests) although I don't pretend to know what happened here.

Were you friends with this lady before? If not and you don't feel comfortable with the new guy you don't have to make friends.

[Sonic dB]

PS: From reading these other posts, it sounds like
Triathalons are becoming the Singles/Pickup Bars of the 00s.

[TSNAPCRACKLEPOP]

with some creative literary talent, we could turn this female character from a triathlete, into a "bi"athlete, and it would really take off!!

[JeremyD]

You had me right up to this point...

Originally posted by legion
The fall after they moved in, we all gave a triathlon a try for fun.

[legion]

Originally posted by red-beard
Is the name of the woman neighbor "Mary" by any chance?

Let me describe her: Fake blond. She doesn't like other women. She has an obsessive personality. She is very sexual and is always "looking around". She is not into make up.

How close am I?

She has natural brown hair and her name is not Mary. I've never noticed her "looking around", but she apparently was...

[scottmandue]

Originally posted by Sonic dB
PS: From reading these other posts, it sounds like
Triathalons are becoming the Singles/Pickup Bars of the 00s.

Great... another singles activity I can't enjoy, unfortunately I find it difficult to hit on chicks while I'm throwing up.

[legion]

The issue is that we were social with the wife and husband before they split up. We throw a big party every summer. I'm not so comfortable having the wife and her new squeeze around, but I don't want to exclude her from activities she used to be invited to.

[Jims5543]

Originally posted by scottmandue
Great... another singles activity I can't enjoy, unfortunately I find it difficult to hit on chicks while I'm throwing up.

Thank you for the good laugh.

[Moses]

Lemme get this straight...

A married woman was unfaithful? And then she divorced her husband? And now she has moved in with the other man?

I need to sit down a minute. I thought I'd heard everything.

[legion]

Not so common here in God's country.