Questionable life choices

[HHI944]

lol, the important question!
None. She did have a fiance die in a motorcycle wreck though.

[AFC-911]

This would have been an easy call for me.

Now, try being 28 with a 56 year old woman who's in the midst of getting a divorce...

EDIT - Did I say divorce? I meant in a really unhappy situation with hubby and might be getting a divorce...I don't ask.

[HHI944]

Yikes, that's kinda sticky and an area where I refuse to go.

[Dottore]

Originally Posted by Noah930

Charlie Sheen believes you should do whatever the F you want, regardless of what others think.

Only works if you have tiger blood.

[sammyg2]

Charlie Sheen isn't exactly what I would call a good role model

Yer gonna do whatever the heck you wanna do so I'm not offering any advice. You wouldn't listen if I did.

[AFC-911]

Originally Posted by HHI944

Yikes, that's kinda sticky and an area where I refuse to go.

Like I said, your situation is an easy call in comparison and isn't really a questionable choice. The scenario I put forth IS a questionable scenario.

That said, I'm not saying it's a decision you should take lightly, but you should do what makes you happy. If that's what makes you happy & she's on board with it, I don't see the problem.

If it works out, it works out. If not, at least you don't have any regrets. Best wishes to you both.

[Crowbob]

Why, then, has this well-seasoned angel from heaven never married?

[HHI944]

She has been married. It ended because he was stealing from her and her family. As I said, she was also engaged, but he died. She has her fair share of baggage and tends to attract 'broken' people.

[Burnin' oil]

This seems like a no-brainer. You dig a chick, she digs you, so spark it up.

[scottmandue]

Allot of good advice here... but as a friend of mine likes to say... advice is worth what you pay for it.

IMHO the age diff is not a deal breaker.

However as others have said you are in the infatuation stage and you really need spend some time with this lady and see if you are comparable.

Talking to the knuckleheads here is a good sounding board... however only YOU know her and how you feel about her and hopefully how she feels about you... also looks at the comments you are getting here and look at those posting, are their values the same as yours? Or the opposite?

Over two years ago I posted here about a lady I was thinking of marrying... some were yay and some were nay... after much though we went ahead and got married... it has not all been fun and games but it was by far the best and most important decision of my life.

So I vote for go for it... but not marriage just start a relationship then once you REALLY know each other talk about it... a lot, one step at a time young jeti.

Just my two cents.

[andyt11]

Originally Posted by Hugh R

I have a friend she married a guy 25 years older she is about 50 now and wants to travel he's now 75 and is waiting to die.

I think this is a valid point.

I'm not going to say go for it. I'm going to say think about it a bit more.

[AFC-911]

^ It is a valid point, but then again, you're talking years down the line. Heck, we don't even know how they'll be doing in a year.

Point is, there's only one way to find out.

[HHI944]

I've known her for a little over a year. Last year we had very little real contact, but still ran into eachother every few weeks. At the beginning of this year we started having more contact and fast became friendly acquaintances. About three months ago, some things changed and we were at a point where we had contact nearly daily, that was all in a work environment, but we quickly started hanging around with the same group of mutual friends after work. That pretty quickly progressed to us pitching the group and just having drinks or dinner with eachother about once a week.

About two weeks ago, she went to the ER. When she called to let me know, she said she was fine now, bit i still dropped everything and went back (i was 100 miles out of town on business) she was out of work until today due to this problem. I brought her food daily, flowers a few time, ran her errands, etc. She never asked, I just took care of it all. I'm told now, by a very good mutual friend, that my 'kindness' moved her to tears when he was talking to her. He also tells me that she called me before her family.

[andyt11]

what did you say your ages were...?

[romad]

As a 47 year old man remembering what 20 something girls were like....I don't get it. Bro you will have plenty of time to knock around with 40 year olds and a very SMALL window to knock around with 20 year olds.

[shadowjack1]

Love is like an egg, if there is any doubt there is no doubt. You have spent over a year with her and still feel "silly". Sounds like you should take the plunge.

[scottmandue]

FWIW age is relative, I'm 54 and my wife is 47... I am by far the more silly and immature of the two of us.

And yes you can go on and on about what life will be like twenty or thirty years from now... and get hit by a bus next week.

YMMV

[HHI944]

Originally Posted by andyt11

what did you say your ages were...?

I'm 26, she's 47

[scottmandue]

And remember...

Love is a nose but you better not pick it

Sorry, you are too young to know the song... google "Love is a rose" by Linda Ronstadt (written by Neil Young)

Love is a rose
but you better not pick it
It only grows when it's on the vine.
A handful of thorns and
you'll know you've missed it
You lose your love
when you say the word "mine".

[lisa_spyder]

Originally Posted by scottmandue

And yes you can go on and on about what life will be like twenty or thirty years from now... and get hit by a bus next week.

Truth right there... Well done Scott