How would you proceed?

[Jim Richards]

Time to move on. Life's too short to suffer fools and a**holes.

[trekkor]

yes, this happened a week ago.

The insurance company already called and agreed to pay.

This really isn't about the truck.


KT

[nynor]

this is on a work truck?

[Head416]

If I did it I would feel obligated to take care of it.

However... if I put a tiny little chip in my friend's fender and he started talking about insurance claims I would think he's being a prick. ESPECIALLY if it was an 11 year old work truck. I would be reevaluating him and our friendship.

[stomachmonkey]

I find it interesting that some here seem to think it's ok for us to place a value on others possessions.

[nynor]

isn't that what the OP asked for?

[stomachmonkey]

Originally Posted by nynor

isn't that what the OP asked for?

No.

[nynor]

better read it again. the entire poll is a request to put a value on friendship and damage to a vehicle.

of course, trekkor left out some important details. i digress.

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by trekkor

yes, this happened a week ago.

The insurance company already called and agreed to pay.

This really isn't about the truck.


KT

It rarely is about the "truck" or the money imo. I think the poll shows where we all stand about the matter. That's over with. Now are you willing to "forgive and forget"...I personally wouldn't have lasted 20 years with someone if they weren't a "good" person all along. I bet he's feeling just as bad about this situation as I suspect you are. Or just move on...we're just internet strangers throwing out .02 worth ....be well KT, you're a "good guy", and I bet your friend is too.

[speeder]

Sorry, but $740 for a tiny door ding on an old work truck is outrageous. I would not want a person in my life who is that petty.

The reason we will not see a photo is because it either A) will not show up in picture, or B) will change a lot of minds and votes about asking for $700+ for it.

[dennis in se pa]

I think the guy who caused the ding did not know how to react. And he now knows he reacted incorrectly. If the relationship was worth the effort make the first move towards making amends. If it was not, then don't.
The other side of this is whether the OP over reacted. A small ding in an 11 year old work truck of mine would not upset me.

[2porscheguy]

As Head 416 pointed out....an 11 year old "work truck"? To be fair to all parties involved, as others on this forum have pointed out, we would need to see some pics of the damage and of the entire vehicle in general for us to give you our honest opinion of this unfortunate situation you find yourself in with your longtime "friend".

[onewhippedpuppy]

Originally Posted by speeder

Sorry, but $740 for a tiny door ding on an old work truck is outrageous. I would not want a person in my life who is that petty.

The reason we will not see a photo is because it either A) will not show up in picture, or B) will change a lot of minds and votes about asking for $700+ for it.

That depends. Denis, if you accidentally gave me a door ding, apologized, and offered to pay for it, my reply would be that $h!t happens, don't worry about it. If you gave me a door ding, laughed it off, then refused my requests to get it fixed, I wouldn't be having lunch with you the next time you cruise through KS with a 996 in tow.

For me it would be the principle of the thing, not the actual door ding itself. I see it in black and white, if you damage something that belongs to someone else you offer to fix it.

[speeder]

Quote de speeder

Sorry, but $740 for a tiny door ding on an old work truck is outrageous. I would not want a person in my life who is that petty.



The reason we will not see a photo is because it either A) will not show up in picture, or B) will change a lot of minds and votes about asking for $700+ for it.

That depends. Denis, if you accidentally gave me a door ding, apologized, and offered to pay for it, my reply would be that $h!t happens, don't worry about it. If you gave me a door ding, laughed it off, then refused my requests to get it fixed, I wouldn't be having lunch with you the next time you cruise through KS with a 996 in tow.



For me it would be the principle of the thing, not the actual door ding itself. I see it in black and white, if you damage something that belongs to someone else you offer to fix it.

Absolutely. And to take it a step further, I don't think much of people who casually swing their car door open into another's vehicle as though they "didn't see it". That's BS. In Trekkor's case, it would involve not noticing a bright red F-250 dually.

I also respect other people's property completely and would offer to fix or pay for the ding. But if the friend hit me with that bill for a door ding, I'd question the amount. I pay $300 a panel for refinishing at a good body shop in LA and paint less dent removal would be maybe $100.

[Zeke]

Originally Posted by 2porscheguy

As Head 416 pointed out....an 11 year old "work truck"? To be fair to all parties involved, as others on this forum have pointed out, we would need to see some pics of the damage and of the entire vehicle in general for us to give you our honest opinion of this unfortunate situation you find yourself in with your longtime "friend".

Some people's work trucks are cleaner than a hospital OR. Mine was for many years until I just couldn't keep up with it. I used to wash the wheel wells and engine every time I washed the body. I almost took to putting tire dressing on the inside of the tire.

Now if I have a jones for detailing, I take it out on the Boxster. It's a pretty clean little unit. Then I go inside and swallow some Alieve.

[Tobra]

I have seen the truck in question and it is pretty clean, immaculate even, enough so to make it strain credulity when I hear it is 11 years old.

Insurance company paid near $11,000 to repair a car I paid under $15,000 for last year, but I guess Denis must be right, they never repair a car if it is over 60% of the value of the car.

[KFC911]

I still think this thread was more about the value of a friendship rather than a door ding. No money would have ever been mentioned were it one of my 20+ year friends. That's just the way "we" are...goes both ways. I've done damage (72' old wooden schooner that I couldn't "possibly" make right), and I've recieved damage on my "toys" that make a door ding seem insignificant. My "real" friends are worth more than that...just the way we are. I don't expect some of y'all to understand...but know that some do.

[stomachmonkey]

Originally Posted by KC911

I still think this thread was more about the value of a friendship rather than a door ding. No money would have ever been mentioned were it one of my 20+ year friends. That's just the way "we" are...goes both ways. I've done damage (72' old wooden schooner that I couldn't "possibly" make right), and I've recieved damage on my "toys" that make a door ding seem insignificant. My "real" friends are worth more than that...just the way we are. I don't expect some of y'all to understand...but know that some do.

When I screw up I offer to make it right.

I expect the same from others.

If they ignore it and make the decision for me that it's not worth offering to make right then that is a problem.

I get to decline the repair, not them.

That's what we are talking about here.

It's not about the door ding, it's about proper manners and respect.

[Moses]

Originally Posted by onewhippedpuppy

That depends. Denis, if you accidentally gave me a door ding, apologized, and offered to pay for it, my reply would be that $h!t happens, don't worry about it. If you gave me a door ding, laughed it off, then refused my requests to get it fixed, I wouldn't be having lunch with you the next time you cruise through KS with a 996 in tow.

For me it would be the principle of the thing, not the actual door ding itself. I see it in black and white, if you damage something that belongs to someone else you offer to fix it.

This. Exactly.

Another way to look at it... If you had damaged your own truck yourself would you spend $700 to fix it? If you would not, then why would you ask a friend to?

[KFC911]

Originally Posted by stomachmonkey

When I screw up I offer to make it right.

I expect the same from others.

If they ignore it and make the decision for me that it's not worth offering to make right then that is a problem.

I get to decline the repair, not them.

That's what we are talking about here.

It's not about the door ding, it's about proper manners and respect.

We're on the same page, but like I said, it's never gotten to the point of $ between my friends and I. I suspect KT's friend has a totally different version of how it went down...I'm just sayin'. I'd still like to see a pic of the ding...we're not seeing the whole story here imo.