What's it really like to be single?

[recycled sixtie]

This question has been lingering in my mind for a long time but I am not contemplating going this route except if I outlive my wife which is unlikely.

For those guys and gals that are single do you still feel the need to get married or live with someone full time? Are you still looking for that perfect other person or are you happy to be by yourself and dip your feet into the ocean of friendship and love when the mood hits you?

As always signing off curious Guy.
PS Have a great day whatever your status.

[dennis in se pa]

Recently got "unmarried". That is it was a mutual/friendly parting. Considered the dating sites then realized I am happy being single with dogs. Keeping it simple. 1 year into this I have no desire to complicate my life again.

[GH85Carrera]

A friend of mine is single and loving it. He has been married twice. I doubt he will ever be married again. He switches out girlfriends on a regular basis. The amazing thing is he remains friends with all of them. They understand he has moved on to a new main squeeze but they still remain friendly.

Several of his former girlfriends will call him to be a designated man to deal with a car dealer, mechanic or plumber.

He is good at schmoozing with women. It is not something I ever want to do. I see his parade of women and they are all nice looking ladies. I will stick to my wife of 22 years and be thankful I don't have to chase after some strange.

[1990C4S]

I know a lot of single guys (co-workers) who just can't be single. They jump at anything and everything.

I am the opposite. I was married a long time, I've been single for six years. I prefer being single and living on my own. Yes there are downsides, all in all I am better off and happier.

[sammyg2]

I've been single and I've been married.

I don't ever want to be single again.

EDIT: I've only been married once tho (goin' on 22 years) so I'm not really an expert like the guys who've been married half a dozen times.

[billybek]

It depends on what stage of your life you are currently living.

I know a few formerly married guys that have families. They wouldn't go back to being married after adjusting to single life.

I was quite young (33) when my first marriage ended. I waited 12 years before getting married again. My wife and I have a son together and a I am pretty happy with the way things are going.

Some people are just not cut out to be married. Others, not able to stay single.

[Tilikum Turbo]

I think Sam Kineson said it best:

"you have two choices...do you want to be alone...or do you want to be bothered?"

[gacook]

I've been married twice. Second time seems to be much more compatible...but I've realized a part of me really just shouldn't be married. When I was single, I loved the autonomy I had in my life. If I wanted to do something, I did it. If I didn't want to do something, nobody was nagging me to do it (current wife doesn't nag--it's beautiful). And sometimes, I really just like to be alone; no external noises around me whatsoever.

If for some reason this current marriage doesn't work out, I won't remarry.

[Baz]

I enjoy the single life but everyone is different and that's just fine with me.

I am owned by 5 incredible fur children, have a TON of friends and many many exotic plants and gardens to tend, a beach 2 blocks away with excellent waves, occasional female humanoids who enter my life from time to time, and a business to run that I love so much.

If I were to ever consider a relationship the criteria would be very similar to how I would consider acquiring a business partner except she would have to be beautiful in my eyes as well. I'd also want a 'collaborator' personality (team player) rather than a 'competitor' personality (self-centered).

That's not too much to ask...is it?

[Evans, Marv]

I'm a "single type of guy," but I wouldn't give up my wife for anything. She's the best woman I've met and amazingly easy to live with and a pleasure to interact with. Having said that, I wouldn't get married again if something happened to her (of course I'm too old for that now anyway). I spent a lot of younger years rousting around and didn't get married the first time until I was 32. After 10 years of marriage, we parted ways on a friendly basis (still friends), and I didn't get married again until 55. I was completely happy single, and there was never a lack of women. I just had to remember to keep them at arms length since lots of them were looking for a husband - some of them were really obvious about it too. The single life offers a lot of freedom and choice with almost never a need to compromise. I could have happily spent my life single. You have to be one of those guys who is active with lots of activity options or you'll be the male equivalent of an old maid.

[jcommin]

I was married for 25 years and lived with my ex 2 years before we were married when it ended. I got married later in life, I thought it would be forever. Got divorced in 2010 and it took some adjustments.

I won't get married again - IMO there is no need to get remarried. I don't want or need to be a part of a blended family. Would I live with someone - probably not. I don't want the drama.

Having said this, we are social creatures and I have female friends. Truth be told, I am afraid to have a serious relationship. I would probably screw it up and fear heart break. I can't go thru that again.

[vash]

If anything happens to my marriage , I'll finish my journey solo.




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[dan88911]

^^^^ what he said

[KFC911]

Never married, never will, but my longest relationship was about 9 years...

I'm just MUCH happier "over all" being single...just don't need the bs that "eventually" seems to always come along for (with) the ride

[JavaBrewer]

Based on the response I am going to provide I guess I'm more traditional than I ever imagined...

Been married for 20 years THIS year! Happily married - we started later, me 31 and wife was 28. Should this marriage not last (divorce or death) I would never marry again. I have zero emotional/physical desire to have more children so what would be the point of getting remarried? But that's about marriage.

My entire life I gravitated to a more loner lifestyle. Sure I enjoyed my friendships and all that but also relished my time alone. That said I have gained and grown so much being with my wife, our kids, inherited family and friends that I can't imagine who I would be today without them. I still seek out alone time but have learned to relish time spent with others as well.

[aschen]

i got married sorta late in life at around 35. I lived the bachelor lifestyle for a long time. I am an expert in take out food, fast food, and area restaurants. I have only been married a few years, but so far I much prefer the lifestyle.

I think I could survive being single and be happy. Not to get too sentimental, but with marriage came a baby, and that was by far the best thing that ever happened to me. My son brings me more joy than anything else in my life past or present.

[gogriz91]

I'm happier married than I was single but I wasn't unhappy being single, just lonely at times. I tell myself if I get unmarried I won't marry again but that may change as I age and the idea of being alone when I hit 60 or 65 may change my mind.

[cockerpunk]

Originally Posted by GH85Carrera

A friend of mine is single and loving it. He has been married twice. I doubt he will ever be married again. He switches out girlfriends on a regular basis. The amazing thing is he remains friends with all of them. They understand he has moved on to a new main squeeze but they still remain friendly.

Several of his former girlfriends will call him to be a designated man to deal with a car dealer, mechanic or plumber.

this is the ideal.

i have pulled this off with a couple of exs ... and a couple did not play out this way.


i like my life. i currently have a girlfriend, but thats going to be ending sometime around this summer, on good terms. we will im sure be friends afterward. when that happens, i'll hit up the dating sites, see whats around at work etc etc, idk, im always on the look out for a future ex-cockerpunk. its fun to meet new people, the sex is great obviously, and its all and all a good way to live.

overall, i'd like to get married someday. have not met the right one yet though. thought i had several times, but well ... lets just say those are both the ones that i am no longer friends with. haha

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by vash

If anything happens to my marriage , I'll finish my journey solo.

Damn, I wish I'd written that as well

No better sentiment.

I was a well traveled 34 when I met and married my wife, who is nine years younger than I am.

I was content being Hans, I am content being married: The best thing in my life is a kiss on the cheek from my wife, a call from my son, an email from my daughter. Simple expressions of love.

[nostatic]

3rd time is/was a charm. My wife is as awesome as they come. I'm done after this marriage - one way or another.