After 21 years... she's leaving

[Oh Haha]

Disclaimer: My divorce was almost painless as we had no kids together so I have no lasting connection to my ex. It was a relief for both of us to get out of that toxic mess.

At my lawyer's urging I paid her half of my accrued pension value so I wouldn't have to pay her when I retired.

[wayner]

Originally Posted by KC911

Naw...she was full of hate and someone I didn't recognize anymore


edited: I'm making jokes while you're going through hell...
btdt, hang in there buddy!

It's ok. So am I

Also change my signature to reflect my new attitude

[2porscheguy]

Originally Posted by wayner

Dropping 55 lbs must have felt good!


For me, well, at the risk of coming across creepy...,
the last 6 weeks of living at the gym morning and night has started to rapidly change scrawny old me from the old man scarecrow that I had become leading up to this. Getting to this point hurt A LOT! (in a good way)

Over 1/2 a century old I'm now in the best shape of my life
Im sure that this is the first of many positive things to come out of this event

Hey, good on ya Wayner!!......now post your six pack pick on my 55+ six pack thread!!

disclaimer = no I'm not ghey!!

[Seahawk]

Originally Posted by wdfifteen

I asked myself that a lot. I spent a lot of years being single and not expecting to do the marriage thing again. Then one day, when I wasn't looking ...
And life has never been so good.

I think this is so important.

After my mother died my father was a wreck. Different circumstances but the pain and doubt (why her and not me?) are perhaps similar.

He had a Lotus Super 7 in those days and moved to DC to be near me and my wife. We would take long drives together and it was apparent he thought his life with women was either over or never going to be the same.

Well it wasn't and it was. It took a bit of time but he met someone and found the next person to share his life with. 22 years with Carol before he died.

Relax.

[Don Ro]

Here's some really basic info as an intro to understanding how we all interact and why.
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Much more detailed info about same from a Google.
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https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2017/02/whats-my-attachment-style-and-why-does-it-matter/

[billybek]

Did someone say spring skiing?

Let me know when you are coming through Cowtown if you are skiing the big three. Been out with my young man (turns 9 tomorrow!) about 5 times this year.

Serious question, did you check into getting a lawyer yet?????

If not, get on that pronto! Like, yesterday!

[wayner]

How late into the season can I ski

Is sunshine or Louise still open by the week of May 6?
(I think Louise closes that day but Sunshine stays open longer)

If so how has your season been for snow? Lots of base or will it be pretty sparse by then?
If Im lucky it will be one of those years where you get a few good dumpings though April and into May

[billybek]

Not bad snow this year. Not a record year but not bad either.
Sunshine goes late into May. Louise usually shuts down early May or late April.
Fernie has had some wicked snow but they will be getting a ton of rain (usually) in their shoulder season to wash that big snow year down the river.

Fell down some stairs this week and hoping my ankle feels good enough to ski tomorrow....

[wayner]

Originally Posted by varmint

i've been watching friends go through this. it's a combination of menopausal hormonal insanity and julia roberts movies.

^^^This - Focussing on the minor annoyances versus the things that were really great.

For myself, I recently began starting every day by journalling the three things I am most appreciative for. More people should learn to do this

[wayner]

Originally Posted by Baz

To each their own, I say.



...All that said IMHO what breaks a relationship apart more than anything has nothing to do with love or friendship or even compatibility.

It's respecting each other enough to admire and WANT TO BE with each other. Once that erodes.....it's see ya later.....

^^^

[wayner]

[larrydickman]

I recieved the call from my lawyer yesterday. As of march 16th my marital status is terminated and restored to the status of "Single". Woo hoo! Made my lump sum alimony payment so I am done!

[sammyg2]

Igor: I can remember what my dad used to say in times like this.

Dr. Frederick Frankenstein: What did he say?

Igor: 'What the hell are you doing in the bathroom all day and night? Give someone else a chance!'

[red-beard]

Originally Posted by larrydickman

I recieved the call from my lawyer yesterday. As of march 16th my marital status is terminated and restored to the status of "Single". Woo hoo! Made my lump sum alimony payment so I am done!

Will you be returning to "normal" now on the board, or will you keep your new name like Odd-Job-Uno and Joe Bob?

[larrydickman]

Originally Posted by red-beard

Will you be returning to "normal" now on the board, or will you keep your new name like Odd-Job-Uno and Joe Bob?

Kind of torn on that. The ex does know about Pelican and has lurked in the past. She is still angry and bitter, really don't need that in my life anymore.

[wayner]

Update:

Some days I just feel like total ****, hopes and dreams dashed
Then I look at this list of distractions that are busying me

[LEAKYSEALS951]

videos of harmonica or it didn't happen.

[billybek]

You better start thinking about making the list longer!

Good on ya!

[wayner]

Incredibly I couldn't play it until I got the blues...

If someone can upload I will send a clip of one of my very first attempts at playing this

3 months later The ny band had a camera person so I will also try to track them down
(Included a four preice horn section. An honour and a blast!!)

[LEAKYSEALS951]

Holy crap Wayner!!!

Not to derail your thread or anything... but that stupid comment I made about videos above was my 1731'th (st????)response on Pelican,

When I got divorced, my first race I entered was under 1731. I won it outright. I was so damn angry about life and such I blew everyone out of the water. That day was a real turnaround in my life! Went out to the garage and pulled up the race number!

Here's the screenshot from today and my race number from 15+ years ago!!!